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Let's talk about BIRTHDAYS...

PCOSat25PCOSat25 member
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Does anyone else find birthdays really difficult? I just had another one...

I find it so depressing to think back on this journey. I went off birth control at 23. I was diagnosed with PCOS and stared infertility treatment at 24. Last week I turned 26.

When I first started this journey every one said "you are so young! Time is on your side!" I feel like I am quickly loosing my edge...
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  • misshopeful1misshopeful1 member
    I feel the same at 32. If we can do IVF I worry by the time we can afford it I'll be 35 or older. I don't feel like time and age are on my side. We had hoped the fertility meds or IUI would work and that's not the case.
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  • PCOSat25PCOSat25 member
    @misshopeful1 I have similar concerns with IVF. We are on IUIs right now and our RE is very positive about our chances. But my DH and I have already had to have the IVF discussion and if IUIs don't work we are going to have to take a long break to save for IVF. Our insurance doesn't cover IVF so we would be totally out of pocket...
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  • mclornmclorn member
    I hear ya.... I turn 32 on 10/10... my FET beta is 10/9............... X_X
    ***Pregnancy Mentioned***
    ME: 32; DH: 34; TTC since 3/2014; Diagnosed Unexplained Infertility 2/2015
    3/2015-5/2015 IUI #1-3 with clomid + trigger:  CP + 2 BFN
    6/2015 Prep for IVF + ICSI + Assisted hatching
    7/2015 17 high-quality blasts, transferred 1 & froze 16
    8/2015: IVF#1 BFN; prep for FET
    9/2015:  Transferred 2 top grade hatching day 6 blasts
    10/2015:  10dp6dfet 754!! 13dp6dfet 2327!! 15dp6dfet 4919!!
    Present:  TWO heartbeats and all is well!!  G/B TWINS Due Date:  6/16/16
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  • PCOSat25PCOSat25 member
    @mclorn hopefully you will get an early birthday present. Sending good juju your way!
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  • mclornmclorn member
    @PCOSat25 thank you so much!
    ***Pregnancy Mentioned***
    ME: 32; DH: 34; TTC since 3/2014; Diagnosed Unexplained Infertility 2/2015
    3/2015-5/2015 IUI #1-3 with clomid + trigger:  CP + 2 BFN
    6/2015 Prep for IVF + ICSI + Assisted hatching
    7/2015 17 high-quality blasts, transferred 1 & froze 16
    8/2015: IVF#1 BFN; prep for FET
    9/2015:  Transferred 2 top grade hatching day 6 blasts
    10/2015:  10dp6dfet 754!! 13dp6dfet 2327!! 15dp6dfet 4919!!
    Present:  TWO heartbeats and all is well!!  G/B TWINS Due Date:  6/16/16
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  • EchogirlxoEchogirlxo member
    edited October 2015
    @PCOSat25  I can relate so well… We're basically in the same boat!  I was off BC at 23, now turning 26 in February… Not looking forward to it :(  I regret not pushing things faster earlier on when I knew things weren't looking good for us.
    **Trigger warning**

    Me: 25  DH: 28
    TTC Sept-Oct 2013

     Journey:
    -Stopped BC pills Sept-Oct 2013
    -First ovulation June 2014 *8 looong months later
    -Very long and irregular cycles.  Sometimes spotting during tww. Always BFNs.
    -On cycle 9 of TTC: BFP @11DPO.

     Testing/Therapy:
    -Hormone testing with Naturopath showed very low progesterone  
    -Prescribed topical Progesterone cream twice a day starting at ovulation
    -Husband's SA excellent  
    -My HSG normal.
    -Undergoing treatment by TCM (Chinese acupuncture/herbs)







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  • PCOSat25PCOSat25 member
    @Echogirlxo I have the Same regrets. I feel like the first year of infertility treatment just inched by without any progress. Just test after test after test and hardly any treatment cycles. I have a new doctor and I am just going to try to be as aggressive as possible from here on out :)
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  • Joyzie77Joyzie77 member
    It's tough. I waited 6 months with a doctor who I thought was too conservative. My husband and I hAd tried for over a year and decided to go see someone. We felt like we needed someone who would move quicker.... I'm 38 and my husband is 43. Both unexplained. I guess my advice is to just try to focus on the now. I completely get where you all are coming from. I turn 39 in January! I'm reAlly hoping to be pregnant by then. Just gotta know we are moving forward. We did one iui and decided it was time to move forward with the ivf... And here I am....
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  • misshopeful1misshopeful1 member
    @Joyzie77 I feel the same way! I'm trying to make an appointment with doc to change treatment. We've not even had a close call getting KU and it's beyond difficult.
    Good luck and keep advocating!
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  • ShayLatriceShayLatrice member
    I turned 34 in August and with DOR early menopause is lurking for me. I feel like if I don't get my BFP and a successful pregnancy in the next year or 2 my chances are basically over. It is some what stressful to even think about at times.



    *** Pregnancy & Miscarriage Mentioned***
    ME: 34/DH: 33
    TTC (On & Off) Since 2008
    Diagnosed DOR August 2013 
    2009-2013 6 Clomid Rounds which resulted in 3 Cysts/Had to take some time off from TTC
    10/2014 ~ BFP (Natural Pregnancy) after 3 months Acupuncture/Miscarriage at 10 wks
    7/2015 ~ Med Protocol#1: Failed Cycle/Only 1 Egg/Unable to convert to IUI because thin uterus lining
    08/2015 ~ Med Protocol #2: Started stims 09/13
    ER 10/9 with 6 Eggs Retrieved/3 SNOWFLAKES!!

    10/22/15 ~ AF Showed up, waiting for Fibroid removal.
    10/28/15 ~ Saline Ultrasound - Fibroids were gone. FET scheduled for December 3rd!
    12/08/15 ~ FET of one hatching Embaby

    12/21/15 ~ 13dp5dfet Beta 755! I'M PREGNANT!!!/     12/23/15 ~15dp5dfet Beta 1539!

    01/05/16 ~ 1st Ultrasound - 2 little beans and 2 Heartbeats (120 & 125 bpm)

    My Fur Baby: Diva Celeste McClendon






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  • lilmamapantherlilmamapanther member
    Currently 33 will be 34 in June just start IVF in December ...
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  • jilligan14jilligan14 member
    I'm about to turn 36 and have been trying for awhile now. I'm just now starting to look at doing a medicated cycle. I never thought it would take me this long to conceive #1...
    ME: 36 (PCOS), DH: excellent SA
    NTNP since 11/12, actively trying since 8/14
    m/c @ 7w (4/22/14), m/c @ 6w (11/19/14)
    11/15: Letrozole, Ovidrel, TI = BFP!!!
    Beta #1(14dpo)=349, Beta #2(18dpo)=2,805
    12/17/15: Got to see the heartbeat (105bpm)!
    1/25/16: NT scan = normal (HB=163bpm)
    EDD: 8/10/16 
    8/8/16: Baby boy born @ 12:25am, 8lbs, 20.5 inches
    5/18/17: BFP!!! (11dpo)
    Beta #1(12dpo)=176.4, Beta #2(15dpo)=607.1
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  • agriffin92013agriffin92013 member
    I turned 36 in April and we've been TTC for over 2 yrs. I knew it wouldn't be easy since I have only 1 ovary, not ovulating on my own and had fibroids but after talking with Dr I thought once I was on meds it would only take a few months. I have family who can sneeze and get pregnant but not me lol
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  • plumeria05plumeria05 member
    Agreed. Birthdays now to me is another reminder that another year has gone by with no baby. Been TTC for 2 years. :(
    TTC for Baby #1 for 3 years. After 2 failed IUI's & IVFs, God blessed us with our miracle :).  FET 12/17/15 (transferred 2 embryos at 5days). First Beta 12/29/15 = 354. Second Beta 12/31/15 = 694. Third Beta 1/7/16 = 6,695.  Finally heard his heartbeat (126)  on 1/14/16 @ our 1st US.  2nd US on 1/21/16, HR was 159.  The most beautiful sound ever :) 
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  • emsmama15emsmama15 member
    When I first started trying, I was SURE I'd be pregnant by the time I turned 40.  I grieved hard on that one!!  I totally set myself up for it, but it really impacted me deeply.  Now, I'm staring 41 in the face and really hoping to get IVF#1 in prior to that birthday in December.  There's something about birthdays that just makes failing to get pregnant hurt a little bit more.  :(
    *** Child & current pregnancy mentioned ***
    Me - 41 (PCOS), Hubby - 43 (healthy)
    7/2013 - Sweet baby girl born (Clomid + TI)
    3/2014 - TTC #2, return to RE 7/2014
    12/2015: IVF #1 transferred two great looking embryos - BFP!
    First ultrasound: TWO beautiful little heartbeats!!
    Harmony: negative; level 2: babies look great and are boy/girl! :) 
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  • PCOSat25PCOSat25 member
    "There's something about birthdays that just makes failing to get pregnant hurt a little bit more. :(".
    Hit the nail right on the head with that one. So true!
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  • lilmissslplilmissslp member
    I'd have to say that I've never thought of it that way. My birthday doesn't really bother me; however children's birthdays do. My friend's little boy just turned 1 and made me think that in the time we've been trying, she got pregnant, had the baby, and he's now turned 1! That really puts how long this process has been in perspective for me and really bums me out!
    TTC #1 since August 2013
    Unexplained/ Endo
    Medicated IUIs # 1-3 BFN
    IVF #1- BFN
    FET #1- BFP; Ectopic pregnancy found at 7wks
    FET #2- February 2017 BFP  Beta #1- 119 (8dp5dt) Beta #2- 475 (12dp5dt)
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  • PCOSat25PCOSat25 member
    @lilmissslp your comment just really hit home. DH and have a couple friend that we LOVE AND ARE SO HAPPY FOR. That said they got pregnant unplanned well after we started TTC. I remember being so excited thinking I would get pregnant soon and we would be pregnant together. That didn't happen. Then she delivered and I thought "well it can't take much longer. At least the kids will be less than a year apart and we will all be able to socialize." We will be attending the little man's first birthday party next week...
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  • lilmissslplilmissslp member
    That's exactly how it was for us @PCOSat25! They're our closest friends and it was unplanned for them. Like you, I was so happy for them and excited to think of being pregnant at the same time as my best friend :-(
    TTC #1 since August 2013
    Unexplained/ Endo
    Medicated IUIs # 1-3 BFN
    IVF #1- BFN
    FET #1- BFP; Ectopic pregnancy found at 7wks
    FET #2- February 2017 BFP  Beta #1- 119 (8dp5dt) Beta #2- 475 (12dp5dt)
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  • PCOSat25PCOSat25 member
    Yep! Now I just think maybe by the time we are on number one they will be on number two! What really worries me (and I can't believe I am even typing this) is that my cousins and siblings are starting to settle down and get married. DH and I were the first in both of our families to get married FIVE YEARS ago. I selfishly want to have to have the first grandkids/great grandkids. I know it is silly and DOES NOT matter but I don't know how I am going to handle it if one of them gets pregnant before i do...
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  • vssbrmvssbrm member
    @PCOSat25 almost all of my cousins that are married have kids, all the girls are younger than me and have kids... it sucks. One just gave birth to her third - she was pregnant with the first when we actively started trying. They look at each other and boom again. My youngest cousins wife has been talking about starting to try this coming spring, it will be very hard to hear they are pregnant if we are not yet. They are 9 years younger than me. A few tears and a few more bottles of wine.
    Married May 2009, TTC since November 2012 (Together since 2006 ish - had my eyes on him since 2001)
    Me: 32 (33 in May), Him: 37 (January)

    DX: Me: High Prolactin, Possible Autoimmune Disease Issues, though RE not concerned (?)  New RE has a plan!!
           Him: Minor Varicocele, low morphology, slightly low count

    History:

    Beta 5/9/2016 BFP!!
    Embryo transfer scheduled for April 28, 2016 and beta test May 9, 2016 (day after Mother's Day!)
    Transfer Meds include: Lupron Depot (4/1), Minivelle Patch (every 3rd day), Estradiol (3x daily), Amoxicillin, Progesterone in Oil, Methylprednisonlone. Lovenox and baby asprin added after transfer. 

    3/22/16 - Sono Saline ultrasound cyst to be aspirated on 4/1/16 if not cleared up by 3/29 US - It cleared on its own
    Retrieval 3/4/16 - 26 eggs retrieved, 23 mature, 20 fertilized, 14 embryos currently frozen
    Starting IVF Stims on +/- Feb 22, 2016
    HSG scheduled for 1-26-16 - All clear "beautiful uterus" (though inverted)

    Switched clinics and now prepping for IVF in February / March

    Fourth IUI -  CD3-7 100 Clomid w/ Ovidrel Trigger - December, 2015 - BFN
    Third IUI -  CD3-7 100 Clomid w/ Ovidrel Trigger - November, 2015 - BFN
    Second IUI - CD3-7 100 Clomid w/ Ovidrel Trigger - September, 2015 - BFN
    Started Prolactin Medication October 15 - Levels quickly regulated to with in normal range
    First IUI - CD3-7 100 Clomid w/ Ovidrel Trigger - August, 2015 - BFN
    After no BFPs (ever) First RE/Urologist visit in Feb 2015
    HSG w/ OB, 2014 = all clear
    Trying to conceive since November 2012
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  • plumeria05plumeria05 member
    I pray and hope that I will be blessed with a healthy pregnancy by my next birthday.
    TTC for Baby #1 for 3 years. After 2 failed IUI's & IVFs, God blessed us with our miracle :).  FET 12/17/15 (transferred 2 embryos at 5days). First Beta 12/29/15 = 354. Second Beta 12/31/15 = 694. Third Beta 1/7/16 = 6,695.  Finally heard his heartbeat (126)  on 1/14/16 @ our 1st US.  2nd US on 1/21/16, HR was 159.  The most beautiful sound ever :) 
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  • Winnie81_OldWinnie81_Old member
    I think I kind of dread my birthday now. I found out my husband wanted to throw a surprise party for me next month for my 30th, and I had a panic attack. He had the sweetest intention, but we have been trying since I was 25, and my entire life I pictured myself already being a mom by the time I'm 30. Last year I had a myomectomy on my birthday, and truly believed that I would be pregnant by this time. With that being said, I don't feel like celebrating. I know everyone's different, but every milestone I've ever set in regards to getting pregnant has ended in failure.
    TTC #1: March 2011 (slightly before)
    Fur-children: 3 dogs + 2 cats (all rescued)
    dx: Endometriosis and Fibroids 
    2 Laps and 1 Abdominal Myomectomy
    6 rounds of clomid
    5 rounds of iui
    Several HSG's sprinkled throughout the years to up my chances of a BFP
    Several dilation of cervix because they suspect the scar tissue is hindering it from fully opening (partially adds to the severe cramps all month)
    IVF #1 Gonal F, Menopur and Cetrotide
    ER 12/1/2016
    ER-Retrieved 22 eggs 10 fertilized
    4/4 day 5 embryos were normal for PGS!!! 2 boys/2 girls
    FET 1/10/2017  
    Gallbladder surgery 1/10/2017
    FET estimated end of Feb, beginning of March

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  • GeauxTigers77GeauxTigers77 member
    I started my IF journey at 23 - first time I saw my RE.  I just turned 38 in September.
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  • riveridgionalriveridgional member
    @WA85 I didn't have a 30th bday party last year because I didn't know where we'd be in our fertility process, whether I'd be pregnant, able to drink, emotionally okay, etc. to start the planning process. I just went to a nice restaurant with DH. Didn't even have cake or candles. Ever since then, I get jealous when someone has a bigger bday party for their 30th. I've never really been one to celebrate birthdays, but always planned on throwing a 30th. Well, now it just makes me angry and upset I didn't do anything and just sticks out as another example of how I've let infertility affect my life negatively.

    So, if I were you, I'd celebrate that 30th bday! You only turn 30 once!!
    Married to DH 10/6/12
    TTC since 5/14
    Unexplained with (controlled) hypothyroidism and suspected ovulatory dysfunction (but, I do ovulate on my own)
    Clomid 50 mg 3/15 (unmonitored) - BFN
    Clomid 50 mg + metformin 4/15 (unmonitored) - BFN 
    First RE appt. 5/15; Natural cycle 5/15 monitored with 2 mature follicles and Pregnyl Trigger (full dose) + prometrium - BFN
    6/15 HSG - clear tubes & normal uterus; great PCT test results
    TI - 100 mg Clomid + prometrium (AM & PM) + vaginal estrace (AM & PM) 6-7/15 (monitored) --> no additional response and thinned lining - BFN
    TI - Injectables (follistim + Gonal-F, Ganirelix, & 1/2 dose Pregnyl) + prometrium (AM & PM) 9/15 --> 3-7 mature follicles (3 definites and 4+ that could have matured due to trigger) @ O -->BFN + 5 large cysts
    BC for 2 weeks due to cysts
    TI - Injectables (Gonal-F, Ganirelix & full dose Pregnyl) + prometrium (AM & PM) 10/15 --> 1 mature follicle --> BFN 
    TI - Last attempt at injectables (Gonal-F, Ganirelix & 1/2 dose Pregnyl) + crinone (AM only) + vaginal estrace (AM & PM) 11/15 --> 3-4 mature follicles --> BFP!! 11/27/15 @ 13dpo (shockingly, actually waited until then to test)

    Beta #1 @ 16dpo (11/30/15) = 1,075
    Beta #2 @ 19dpo (12/3/15) = 3,150
    One baby: Saw heartbeat @ 5w5d (114 bpm; baby measuring 2.3mm)

    "Great Things are Happening"
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  • oxinfreeoxinfree member
    YES!

    @GeauxTigers77 - wow. I'm not sure about the details of your journey, but sounds like it has been a hard road for you! Hope you get a happily ever after soon. 

    @WA85 - 30 was very difficult for me. We met at 21, got married at 25, I'm now 30 and still no bfp. I too thought I'd have kids by now. In fact I remember sitting around my friend's table in high school saying my plan was to be completely done having kids by 30 because I wanted to be a young mom and have time with my grandchildren etc etc. Life sure throws us curveballs. I think its okay to not want to celebrate. Honour whatever way you are feeling. You don't need approval to skip this one if you feel like it ;) 

    @plumeria55 - don't we all! I wish that for you too!

    @vssbrm - I gave up wine after learning I was allergic to the tannins... but I used to love indulging when I had a tough day. So soothing, I always slept like a baby those nights. As painful as it is to watch those around us live their lives, we are all on our different journeys. Ours feels a lot harder right now, but you have so much to offer this world. Cry your tears, have your wine, and then live your life as fully as you can in the meantime. We're all in the rough seas weathering the storm with you! I sincerely hope you have to give up your wine because you're pregnant soon!!! big hugs to you!!!

    @lilmissslp - I absolutely agree that most of the time its realizing my friends' kids are another year older that hurts the most. Getting the invites is always a bit of a dagger. I have gone in the past to celebrate with my really close friends, but I give myself permission to not celebrate if I can't take it. Good friends understand that it can be too hard sometimes for us. So many times another friend would be pregnant and I thought to myself, maybe we'll be pregnant around the same time... okay maybe with her.... okay maybe her? and never worked out. Then my friend (and her 2 friends) were pregnant within 2 months of each other. That was tough to take. 

    and hugs to everyone else I didn't have a chance to respond to directly :) 
    ---
    Started TTC April 2011
    Me: 32, DH: 32
    Diagnosis: Endometriosis

    • 2012 - 3 Rounds clomid - all BFN
    • 2013 - 1 Fresh IVF with 2 day 3 embryos - BFN
    • 2014 - 1 Frozen IVF with 2 day 5 embryos - BFN
    • Took a long break, continuing trying naturally
    • Feb 2016 - Biopsy = Endo, DH sperm improved from 1% to 6% morphology
    • March 2016 - Fresh IVF cycle with acupuncture & intralipids: 20 eggs retrieved (17 mature), 7 ICSI'd fertilized, 9 naturally fertilized. 16 total embryos!
    • April 8th - 2 embryos (1ICSI and 1 Natural) transferred. (7 blastocysts frozen), April 18th - Beta = BFN
    • Sept 23rd - Lupron Depot Injection for Endo control
    • Nov 15th 2016 - Started daily Lupron Injections for upcoming FET
    • Nov 22 - Baseline US/BW - Intralipid Infusion - Start Meds for FET with immune protocol
    • Dec 16th FET transfer of 3 embryos (1 - AA, 2 - BB)
    • TW below
    • Dec 22nd - first ever bfp (very faint lines FRER & cheapie)
    • Dec 27th Beta = 192, Dec 29th Beta = 379
    • EDD - Sept 5th 2017

    - - -
    I'm a YouTube vlogger who talks about Infertility, IVF and Endometriosis. Check it out here!
    Follow along at http://liv4today.blog
    Instagram @liv4todayvlog 


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  • Winnie81_OldWinnie81_Old member
    @riveridgional : thanks so much for you input that is a great point. I just feel like I will be content doing something small. My ideal day is going to the spa and having dinner/drinks with close friends. I'd rather spend the money on something relaxing like getting pampered rather than flying people down to celebrate my birthday. I think I have always been low key like that though. I do want to have s party and travel for my 40th though!
    TTC #1: March 2011 (slightly before)
    Fur-children: 3 dogs + 2 cats (all rescued)
    dx: Endometriosis and Fibroids 
    2 Laps and 1 Abdominal Myomectomy
    6 rounds of clomid
    5 rounds of iui
    Several HSG's sprinkled throughout the years to up my chances of a BFP
    Several dilation of cervix because they suspect the scar tissue is hindering it from fully opening (partially adds to the severe cramps all month)
    IVF #1 Gonal F, Menopur and Cetrotide
    ER 12/1/2016
    ER-Retrieved 22 eggs 10 fertilized
    4/4 day 5 embryos were normal for PGS!!! 2 boys/2 girls
    FET 1/10/2017  
    Gallbladder surgery 1/10/2017
    FET estimated end of Feb, beginning of March

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  • Winnie81_OldWinnie81_Old member
    @oxinfree your response really resonated with me. It is comforting to hear other people say it's ok, and to acknowledge that my feelings are justified. Thank you. :)
    TTC #1: March 2011 (slightly before)
    Fur-children: 3 dogs + 2 cats (all rescued)
    dx: Endometriosis and Fibroids 
    2 Laps and 1 Abdominal Myomectomy
    6 rounds of clomid
    5 rounds of iui
    Several HSG's sprinkled throughout the years to up my chances of a BFP
    Several dilation of cervix because they suspect the scar tissue is hindering it from fully opening (partially adds to the severe cramps all month)
    IVF #1 Gonal F, Menopur and Cetrotide
    ER 12/1/2016
    ER-Retrieved 22 eggs 10 fertilized
    4/4 day 5 embryos were normal for PGS!!! 2 boys/2 girls
    FET 1/10/2017  
    Gallbladder surgery 1/10/2017
    FET estimated end of Feb, beginning of March

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  • wifeinraleigh28wifeinraleigh28 member
    It is so easy to get down and not look forward to that next birthday.  I know that feeling all too well, as I will be turning 30 in January.  I try to remind myself of all that I DO have to celebrate in my life.  I may not get to be a mom when I turn 30, but I still get to be a wife to my amazing husband.  There was a time in my life when I didn't know if I would ever fall in love and get married.  I did, and for that I feel forever grateful and I feel like celebrating!
    ***BFP & Child Warning***

    Me: 34, DH: 38 ~ TTC since 2014
    IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs
    IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos
    FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17
    FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN
    FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! DS born 3/27/20
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  • ErikaMGErikaMG member
    Well... my experience is a bit different than most (all?) of you. I conceived my son at 37 (almost 38) years old, with no problem. When we were finally financially ready to TTC#2, I had just turned 42. I know the odds are against me, but I also personally know several women who had children in their forties, so it really depends on the individual (and the individual's genes). I'm about to turn 43 in a little under two weeks, and I'm choosing not to let it bother me. My body, my eggs, my ovaries... they don't know or care how old I am, so neither do I! I'm still feeling very hopeful that we will have success, and lamenting my age or my birthday isn't going change anything one way or the other. Just another perspective from a woman older than everyone else here!  ;)
    Me: 43, DH: 41
    DS b. 7/4/2011 via c/s
    TTC #2 since 1/2015
    8/2015 - "unexplained IF", started Levothyroxine
    9/27/15 - IUI #1 (unmedicated) - BFN
    10/26/15 - IUI #2 (100mg Clomid + Ovidrel) - BFN
    11/21/15 - IUI #3 (100mg Clomid + Ovidrel) - BFN
    12/18/15 - IUI #4 (100mg Clomid + Ovidrel) - BFN

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  • purplepeony31purplepeony31 member
    I feel the same! My husband is quickly approaching 29 and I'll be 25 in February. three years of nothing and I feel like our friends and family are finally now realizing that this isn't just "going to happen" for us. That's what we've heard for the longest time...."oh you're young, you have so much time, just enjoy each other!" Or "just don't stress, you're young and your body will totally do its job!"

    Yeah, no it won't people. It sucks.
    Me: 24 Him: 28
    Married & TTC # 1 for 3 years
    DX: Non-clinical PCOS/anovulatory
    Provera+Clomid+Trigger+IUI- 11/2015

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  • smitty18smitty18 member
    *pregnancy mentioned* @lilmissslp YES! I can remember when friends first tell me they are pregnant and then when that child turns 1, then 2, it's like a countdown of how long I haven't been able to make it happen. The worst is now some of my friends are pregnant with their second and I can't even make one happen. It sucks!!!
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  • brazenbibliobrazenbiblio member
    Definitely I get so annoyed when people say "you're so young still!". At 31 I don't feel young. I feel like the clock is ticking away. 

    Me-36
    DH -35
    Married in 2008
    Started TTC in 2011
    Began testing May 2014
    Test Results
    HSG- clear
    Hysteroscopy- clear
    SA- 11 mil count
    45% motility
    Diagnosis: MFI
    July 2014: Femera 5mg CD 4-8, Trigger, IUI = BFN
    August 2015: Femera 5mg CD 4-8, Trigger, IUI = BFN
    September 2015: Femera 5mg CD 4-8, Trigger, IUI = BFN
    May 2018 after long period of not trying, starting adoption process with family friend's newborn
    November 2018 Adoption complete!


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