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Traveling for xmas

rachellegiaccorachellegiacco member
in September 2015 Moms
We have a three year old and a newborn and we recently moved far from all our family. They are dying to meet the baby and see us. My grandma offered to give us a 500$ check to go towards airfare to come home for Xmas. But we really can't afford to get anyone any gifts or pay for the rest of the airfare. Plus traveling with my children and my husband that doesn't travel or handle stress well sounds like a feat I can not handle. I want to see them so bad and I appreciate the financial help they are offering but the idea of doing it is overwhelming.
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  • BoobopgirlBoobopgirl member
    I know you feel guilty for not being able to but if you can't handle it, then don't go. I don't know how soon you need to book flights and things but maybe give it another few weeks to see if anything feels more manageable and then decide. but do what is best for you. that means emotionally and financially.
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  • jwebbbber45678jwebbbber45678 member
    Make them come to you! We live on the opposite side of the country from our entire family. Traveling during the holidays is very expensive. We won't be traveling out to see family until next spring. This means most of our family won't see baby until he's six months. All of his grandparents have bought tickets to come visit in the meantime. We are transitioning to a single income and simply can't afford to travel this Christmas. Plus we live in San Diego, wouldn't want to be in the East coast in December anyways! Too cold!
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  • ForeverEverAfterForeverEverAfter member
    You need to decide what's best for you and your family. Last year we stayed home because we couldn't afford travel and gifts, and it would've been too stressful to fit everyone in when I only had 3-4 days off. So DH volunteered to work so we had an excuse. It was the first time my family had been all together for Christmas in 16 years (my uncle and his family came from New Zealand, I've never even met 3 of my cousins, who were all there).

    This year I'll be on mat leave, so we're driving 19 hours with a 3mo and 3yo and dog so we can have a nice Christmas with all the family. DH will fly home, I'll spend a week or 2 visiting other family and friends then drive back myself. I'm only attempting it because I have zero deadline to get home, and I know we'll be working Christmas the next 2 years.
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  • TeacherMom210TeacherMom210 member
    You have to do what is best for you guys. If that means not traveling for the holidays, then that's what it means. And if the situation is stressful both financially and practically, it's unlikely you will enjoy yourself anyway. Personally, I wouldn't want to not be at my own home for Christmas Eve with the kiddos because I wouldn't want to drag Santa presents wherever I was staying and then cart those plus all the other presents back home.
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  • booksandcleverness81booksandcleverness81 member
    We are stationed in NM but all of our family is in NY/ VT. We usually drive home once or twice a year with our dogs, and wouldn't consider it this Xmas except we're being transferred beginning of December and our move comes with 10 days of free house hunting leave. DH can tack on an extra 2 weeks leave and give us a nice long break. So we're driving the 33 hours with baby and dogs so everyone can meet him and enjoy his first Xmas together. I wouldn't feel bad if you guys can't go, it's A LOT to take on (and I am not looking forward to the drive). I bet people would understand, especially since they are still so young. Hopefully some of them can come see you, that makes more sense to me!
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  • rachellegiaccorachellegiacco member
    I also agree that them coming to us would make more sense but unfortunately between health issues and laziness they wouldn't. I want my kids to know their family but that just means a lot of leg work for us :/ I'm not sure what I'm going to do. Money is tight and we have to book soon before it gets even more expensive. Any tricks to booking flights by any chance?
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  • verveine407verveine407 member
    I saw on one of the morning shows that this week us the best time to book flights for holiday travel.

    I am still debating this myself. We had originally agreed to drive 18 hours to where my family moved for Christmas. Everyone is flying here in between when LO was born last month and Thanksgiving though so I am not feeling the urgency to make the drive.
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  • BoobopgirlBoobopgirl member
    TeacherMom210 said:

    You have to do what is best for you guys. If that means not traveling for the holidays, then that's what it means. And if the situation is stressful both financially and practically, it's unlikely you will enjoy yourself anyway. Personally, I wouldn't want to not be at my own home for Christmas Eve with the kiddos because I wouldn't want to drag Santa presents wherever I was staying and then cart those plus all the other presents back home.

    my family dealt with this issue growing up by taking our stocking with us and opening the rest when we got home (Santa only brought your stocking to grandma's because he knew we couldn't fit it all in the car to bring home. he'll leave the rest for us to open when we get home.) we loved it because it was like getting 2 christmases
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