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I'm ready to rip my hair out!!!!!!!!!!! Vent post... (Long)

oliarnmom1517oliarnmom1517 member
in November 2015 Moms
I really need to just let this out before I go BSC!!!!


Ok so my husband and I are allowing his uncle to stay here with us until he can get another part meant since the complex he lived in unfortunately burned down.. Ever since he has moved in I have wanted to strangle him... He complains about my dogs being on the couch.. He actually complains about them in general because he hates dogs.. He keeps calling my hamster a rat.. I'm not sure why that one bugs me but for some reason it is getting to me when it really shouldn't... He keeps messing with our thermostat... We have told him several times to please leave it where we set it.. He just doesn't give a fuck.. He leaves the toilet set up on purpose.. Need to buy some hot glue sticks for the glue gun because I'm going to hot glue the seat to the toilet if he doesn't stop.. And he won't move his car so the complex has threatened to tow it and expects us to stop the tow truck if it comes to get his car.. Umm no I'm going to let them take your car.. You should have moved it and it's not my fault you didn't want to move your car.. I hope they tow it before he gets home today.. He told my husband that the recliner is his.. Again ummm no.. My husband and I have matching recliners.. and he's refusing to pay us anything and eats all of our food that we buy and then will say we don't get good enough food.. Well then stop eating it if you don't like it.. My husband and I told him yesterday that he has 3 days to pack his stuff and move.. I'm done and my husbands really done.. Especially because my husband and I did this out of the kindness of our hearts..




Ok I think I'm good now.....








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Re: I'm ready to rip my hair out!!!!!!!!!!! Vent post... (Long)

  • dramaphiledramaphile member
    What a douchebag, sucks that a family member feels like he can take advantage of you guys.
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  • MargaretC5MargaretC5 member
    Wow that just sucks, glad you and your H are on the same page about it.
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  • chelseaepleychelseaepley member
    We just went through the same thing with my husbands brother. Except he's an alcoholic pot dealer who doesn't have enough respect to not drink around our 2 year old. Then tries to hold her!!! And he pees in the floor when he's drunk. Needless to say that didn't last long!
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  • FalchasFalchas member
    Good for you for setting a time limit, hope he departs with minimal drama!
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  • FilbertTreeFilbertTree member
    Wow, what an utter douchecanoe. 
    Also, now I need a pug just so I can make a pugkin spice latte costume for it...
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  • kestes946kestes946 member
    Glad you're kicking him out. Make sure it happens or call the police!!
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  • CarrieOct15CarrieOct15 member
    Glad you're kicking him out. What a douche. 
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  • BlondeMomma92BlondeMomma92 member
    hope the door hits him on his way out. good for you and your H for setting a time limit, nobody should take advantage of kindness like that-- especially a Family member. SMDH
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  • ColoradoHikerColoradoHiker member
    I recommend changing your door lock if you can, if he refuses to give his up.  Good for you guys for kicking him out!
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  • rachswirachswi member
    I would totally pack all his stuff for him and leave it outside the apartment complex... On a day it's raining. And change the locks so he can't get in. He should not have taken advantage of you like that. Utter jerk.
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  • oliarnmom1517oliarnmom1517 member
    I know it was kinda long but I just needed to vent because even though I can vent to my husband he just doesn't quite get it.. Thank you ladies for letting me just get it off my chest!! I have really been losing it.. And I'm still not sure why the hamster comments bother me.. Maybe it's just because he's just getting on my nerves so in return everything he does gets on my nerves!!! But thank you ladies for letting me vent and not feel crazy!!!
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  • Peanut1128Peanut1128 member
    Thank goodness your both on board with kicking him out, you don't need that stress in your life. In my experience, it almost never goes well having someone stay with you for an open ended period of time. Hopefully he leaves today!
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  • lyankowilyankowi member
    Good for you! I hope he leaves
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  • poupoulepoupoule member
    I hope is car is not getting towed otherwise he has a reason to stay !!! Get him out before !
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  • SquirtgunSquirtgun member
    So glad your husband is on the same page as you! That's crazy!
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  • ashleywuliashleywuli member
    Man I'm so sorry you're dealing with him being such a loser!! I mean you're letting him stay with you out of the kindness of your hearts!!! He sounds like a self centered douche bag!!! I hope you truly stick to your guns about making him get the hell out!!!

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  • turkeybabtturkeybabt member
    Don't let him back in! Seems he's taking things for granted and thinking that you 2 wouldn't be serious about kicking him out. First sit down with him and your husband and go over the things he's been disrespectful about and tell him he has this many days to leave, then if he's still here after that day, you 2 are calling the police to forcibly remove him from the property.

    I would not let him stay any longer.
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  • oliarnmom1517oliarnmom1517 member
    turkeybabt said:

    Don't let him back in! Seems he's taking things for granted and thinking that you 2 wouldn't be serious about kicking him out. First sit down with him and your husband and go over the things he's been disrespectful about and tell him he has this many days to leave, then if he's still here after that day, you 2 are calling the police to forcibly remove him from the property.

    I would not let him stay any longer.


    We talked to him a few days ago and told him that the dogs are our babies and whether he likes them or not.. They aren't going anywhere.... Besides I most days prefer my dogs over people.. Some days even my husband.. The complex came to tow his car right as he was coming home so he paid the drop fee and finally moved his car but then complained about paying the fee for them not to take it.. ~X( should have moved it in the first place!!!! He works with my BIL who actually just moved into the apartment next to ours.. and my BIL said he's like this at work too and they are afraid to fire him because they think my BIL will leave too and they don't want him to leave the company.. My BIL has told them multiple times that he won't leave if they fire him!! He said he would even tell him personally!! He then wants to borrow all of our movies and then ask if he can have them.. And when we say no he gets all upset.. He asked my husband if he could buy the fast and furious DVD set I bought my DH for his birthday.. I got the set that came in the little plastic tire that was bluray and it was $65... Yes I know outrageous but he had been looking at it so I bought it for him for his birthday.. But when my husband said no he became upset.. My DH is going just as crazy as I am at this point!!
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    oorl11052015 said:

    turkeybabt said:

    Don't let him back in! Seems he's taking things for granted and thinking that you 2 wouldn't be serious about kicking him out. First sit down with him and your husband and go over the things he's been disrespectful about and tell him he has this many days to leave, then if he's still here after that day, you 2 are calling the police to forcibly remove him from the property.

    I would not let him stay any longer.


    We talked to him a few days ago and told him that the dogs are our babies and whether he likes them or not.. They aren't going anywhere.... Besides I most days prefer my dogs over people.. Some days even my husband.. The complex came to tow his car right as he was coming home so he paid the drop fee and finally moved his car but then complained about paying the fee for them not to take it.. ~X( should have moved it in the first place!!!! He works with my BIL who actually just moved into the apartment next to ours.. and my BIL said he's like this at work too and they are afraid to fire him because they think my BIL will leave too and they don't want him to leave the company.. My BIL has told them multiple times that he won't leave if they fire him!! He said he would even tell him personally!! He then wants to borrow all of our movies and then ask if he can have them.. And when we say no he gets all upset.. He asked my husband if he could buy the fast and furious DVD set I bought my DH for his birthday.. I got the set that came in the little plastic tire that was bluray and it was $65... Yes I know outrageous but he had been looking at it so I bought it for him for his birthday.. But when my husband said no he became upset.. My DH is going just as crazy as I am at this point!!

    If he has a job, he should be able to afford cheap motel somewhere. Seems most PPs agree- kick him out, ASAP! At this point of pregnancy (we all are in last trimester) you need to be less stressed out. It's important for you and the baby as you start to focus on preparing yourself for the birth and first few months. Don't let him stay any longer, especially not when the baby arrives!

    Talk to your husband NOW about making a plan to kick him out within 1, 1 1/2 weeks. He can afford a motel.
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  • oliarnmom1517oliarnmom1517 member
    turkeybabt said:

    oorl11052015 said:

    turkeybabt said:

    Don't let him back in! Seems he's taking things for granted and thinking that you 2 wouldn't be serious about kicking him out. First sit down with him and your husband and go over the things he's been disrespectful about and tell him he has this many days to leave, then if he's still here after that day, you 2 are calling the police to forcibly remove him from the property.

    I would not let him stay any longer.


    We talked to him a few days ago and told him that the dogs are our babies and whether he likes them or not.. They aren't going anywhere.... Besides I most days prefer my dogs over people.. Some days even my husband.. The complex came to tow his car right as he was coming home so he paid the drop fee and finally moved his car but then complained about paying the fee for them not to take it.. ~X( should have moved it in the first place!!!! He works with my BIL who actually just moved into the apartment next to ours.. and my BIL said he's like this at work too and they are afraid to fire him because they think my BIL will leave too and they don't want him to leave the company.. My BIL has told them multiple times that he won't leave if they fire him!! He said he would even tell him personally!! He then wants to borrow all of our movies and then ask if he can have them.. And when we say no he gets all upset.. He asked my husband if he could buy the fast and furious DVD set I bought my DH for his birthday.. I got the set that came in the little plastic tire that was bluray and it was $65... Yes I know outrageous but he had been looking at it so I bought it for him for his birthday.. But when my husband said no he became upset.. My DH is going just as crazy as I am at this point!!

    If he has a job, he should be able to afford cheap motel somewhere. Seems most PPs agree- kick him out, ASAP! At this point of pregnancy (we all are in last trimester) you need to be less stressed out. It's important for you and the baby as you start to focus on preparing yourself for the birth and first few months. Don't let him stay any longer, especially not when the baby arrives!

    Talk to your husband NOW about making a plan to kick him out within 1, 1 1/2 weeks. He can afford a motel.

    My DH gave him 3days.. My husband has gone into lockdown on everything.. He put locks on all the cabinets and the fridge so that he can't get into it... My DH has opened the fridge 8 times for me because I want my veggies and my dietician said I can have as many green veggies as I want so I just keep eating them.. I will say it has helped keep me regular! But my husband has moved our movies to our room and has a list of all 178 of our movies.. And is making sure we have all of them and told him if he's not gone by Monday morning he will personally remove him.. I think the toilet seat thing was the straw that broke the camels back on this one..
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  • turkeybabtturkeybabt member
    Good! Glad you will have peace when he leaves!
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  • oliarnmom1517oliarnmom1517 member
    turkeybabt said:

    Good! Glad you will have peace when he leaves!

    I am too!!! I know our chihuahua doesn't like him.. All he has to do is move and he's on red alert and is ready to pounce!!
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  • jabbottscottjabbottscott member
    Geez...what a nightmare!   So sorry you guys are having to go through this.   Hopefully it's over soon and you can focus on the LO coming.   Good for you guys being on the same page and sticking to your guns!
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  • MRSJESSICAXMRSJESSICAX member
    Oh gosh my blood started boiling just reading that - Sounds like the last kind of company you need in the final weeks of pregnancy.
    I hope he is out of there quick smart for you x
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