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Hubby feeling the pressure

LilLambieLilLambie member
in TTC After a Loss
We lost our son in July to LUTO. He was an unplanned pregnancy so we never really 'tried'. Now that we are actively trying dh is starting to feel the pressure. He is panicking and feeling pressured to go and I don't know what to do to make him feel better. He is the one who decided to start ttc, so it's not that he doesn't want to. Has anyone else had experience with this?

Little boy due July 31st 2016

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Re: Hubby feeling the pressure

  • GypsyHippieGypsyHippie member
    I don't know how you ttc after a loss without the stress. My husband wants to ttc without pressure which for me is impossible. I've just been initiating sex when I'm ovulating without telling him I'm ovulating. I'm in a panic mode to get pregnant again so I'd love to read what other people have to say about this.
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  • mamahazeymamahazey member
    Same here. I'm having some pretty intense anxiety. I'm sorry I don't have any advice :-/
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  • vallericvalleric member
    I'm definitely initiating the most that week, and I don't tell him!
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  • LilLambieLilLambie member
    Glad I'm not the only one. Hes worked out the week I should be so if I push it he knows. I just feel bad for him because he's juat as stressed as I am but it's all a mental thing atm.

    Little boy due July 31st 2016

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  • vintagevicevintagevice member
    edited October 2015
    My husband was the same way, I noticed he started to feel more comfortable and easy going when we did things outside of charting and timed sex to help with TTC. I would cook a salmon dinner or cut up pineapple as a snack and I'd say "these are the best things a man can eat while trying to knock up his wife." For some reason, things changed for him when I listed healthy things that he could do to improve our situation. It gave him a little focus during a stressful time. Somehow, things became more relaxed in the bedroom.
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  • allishally13allishally13 member
    You could try doing the bd in different places than you usually would to make it a little more fun ;)
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  • PeggyOlsonFTWPeggyOlsonFTW member
    Maybe don't tell him when you're ovulating? I don't tell DH anything about my cycle aside from when AF is visiting unless we're trying to prevent. He'd get way too psyched out and sex would lose a lot of appeal for him if he knew when I was ovulating.

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    BFP #1 12/2012, DS born 8/2013
    BFP #2 7/2015, MMC and D&C 9/2015
    BFP #3 11/2015, CP
    BFP #4 1/2016, DD born 10/2016




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