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Anybody else paranoid about miscarriage still?

stephiesheldorkstephiesheldork member
in October 2015 Moms
I know every mom worries. This being my first baby, there's a whole lot of worrying going on. I'm 36+6 weeks and I know the odds are very low that anything bad will happen to LO at this point. But the worrying is driving me crazy. I constantly have dreams that I have a stillborn and wake up inconsolable. I can't even let myself be excited about meeting my baby because I don't want to get my hopes up until he's here. I know everyone says to enjoy being pregnant because taking care of a newborn is way harder. But I can see a newborn. I can feel their heartbeat or know that they're still breathing. I know it's kinda dark to think that way, but I'm hoping maybe I'm not the only one or someone can tell me wth is wrong with me. :/
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Re: Anybody else paranoid about miscarriage still?

  • MissBek07MissBek07 member
    You are not alone. We lost our last pregnancy to miscarriage and I am also worried about losing this little guy. Hope was born at 14 weeks. But I am worried that this one will be born too little to survive or stillborn. Our sunshine was born 10lbs 4oz. So as we have made it this far, there shouldn't be this much anxiety about size. But try to remember to give this baby all your love. No matter what happens, they will have gotten your very best.
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  • cmjn94cmjn94 member
    I know exactly how you feel. I think it's completely normal. I definitely still had fears leading up to birth! Just be proactive about your baby's movements and go in if you think anything is wrong; at this point there are things they can do to help your baby if anything was up!
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  • mdandrea1436mdandrea1436 member
    edited October 2015
    Def with you on this one!
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  • whitemn04whitemn04 member
    I have the thought of it's too good to be true or when is that bad going to happen. It's a terrible way to think but I am with you on feeling this way. My doc hasn't mentioned of anything being wrong but I got a little concerned when she asked if I've only had the 20 week ultra sound then said let's schedule another which we should do anyway with GD. So my thought was what did she hear that would make her say it that way. But I really think if there was concern she would have said so. Ugh the paranoia is irritating sometimes!
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  • wildbutterfli2001wildbutterfli2001 member
    It's pretty normal to feel this way,it's not just a ftm thing either. I hate to be the bearer of bad news but for me at least, that feeling never goes away. I still check to make sure my 2 year old is breathing when he's asleep. I think it's just part of being a mom and the immense love you feel for your child. It does get a little easier to manage
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  • edavis926edavis926 member
    We almost went to the hospital last night because our little ninja wasn't moving at her normal times. She must have just been taking a serious nap because right about the time I was about to hit the panic button she got the longest round of hiccups she's had. I figured she had to be okay to have hiccups.

    Then my doctor made a really concerned face while listening to the heartbeat this morning but I think she just lost count.

    I've stayed pretty calm but even at 39 weeks with absolutely no problems I don't think I'll be completely calm about it until she's here.
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  • AiramJAiramJ member
    I am so glad you brought this up! I have been so worried about this the whole pregnancy! I am so scared about a stillborn, too. I am 37 weeks today and wish I would go into labor today so that I don't have to worry anymore. This constant paranoia is so exhausting and has spoiled the biggest part of this pregnancy. Alone for this reason I don't think I want a second baby. I don't think I could cope with loss at all.
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  • NovvbabyNovvbaby member
    edited October 2015
    Your not alone I've experienced a loss the hardest part of my life no matter how far along anything can happen I am I'm still scared and I pray each and every day
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  • altow1310altow1310 member
    Definitely not alone. I'm 39 weeks 2 days and I think my fear gets worse every day. I thought the longer I was pregnant the less fearful I would feel of something bad happening, but it's only been so much worse lately. I think it's intensified by the fact that everything feels SO much more real now that we are (hopefully) days away from having him. I am terrified of having a stillborn. It happened to a friend of mine, and I can't imagine the pain and disappointment of not coming home with my baby boy after all this time. Every time I am excited I feel this overwhelming jolt of reality and become fearful because the possibility of something tragic still, and always will, exist. I think, like a PP said, it's something that will never go away - just all a part of a mother's love. Remember that these instances are rare and that the chances are so great of you having a happy, healthy baby if everything has gone well so far. Easier said than done, I know, but remember that this is going to be one of the most joyful days of your life. Sending well wishes and positive vibes your way! :)
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  • tate62610tate62610 member
    It's a thought I think most mothers-to-be have because there's always that chance of something happening.  It's just how it goes.  Hopefully all of us can put aside these feelings and be holding our little ones safe and sound soon enough :)
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  • kim1228kim1228 member
    So happy I'm not alone here- especially after reading the loss post (I read it before "loss" was in the title, was not ready!). I just keep praying that God will keep my little boy safe, and try to remain confident that there is a plan for his life. 

    But still...the sooner he gets out of me the better so I can SEE him!! 
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  • leah665leah665 member
    I worry all the time. Especially because I am working in a hospital laboratory, which is where the stillborn babies come before they are sent to the funeral home or wherever the parents wish. There have been a few fetal demises since I have been pregnant and I cant be involved with them when they come in. Luckily, the pathologist I work with is a mom and very understanding. It's a harsh part of reality, however a lot of the time there is a reason for it, just keep focusing on positive things!
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  • danixbanani24danixbanani24 member
    edavis926 said:

    We almost went to the hospital last night because our little ninja wasn't moving at her normal times. She must have just been taking a serious nap because right about the time I was about to hit the panic button she got the longest round of hiccups she's had. I figured she had to be okay to have hiccups.

    Then my doctor made a really concerned face while listening to the heartbeat this morning but I think she just lost count.

    I've stayed pretty calm but even at 39 weeks with absolutely no problems I don't think I'll be completely calm about it until she's here.

    Don't you hate that?! I'm always looking at their faces and trying to interpret them. Ugh!

    Sort of feel better knowing I'm not alone with my fears. Here's hoping we all have a happy and healthy last few weeks of pregnancy and healthy babies.
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  • mom4liakmom4liak member
    tiger2010 said:
    Glad I'm not the only one and good to hear from others. 4th pregnancy and have worried with every single one. My oldest is 11 years old and I STILL worry about something bad happening. Not in a way that consumes my entire life but not a day goes by that I don't worry for a bit about the well being of my children. I am scheduled to have this LO tomorrow morning and I am a nervous wreck about the "what ifs". I worry. I also am afraid of something bad happening to ME during labor.
    Yes! This is my 5th pregnancy and I have had one stillborn (my 3rd). I am so paranoid all the time both about this baby and also complications arising when I do finally deliver. My OB is pretty adament that she wants to deliver me as a scheduled RCS and not an emergency because she wants to have an "extra set of hands in the OR". This has only increased my paranoia. I go see MFM both my OB and myself are hoping he gives the green light for delivery this Monday. I also still check on my other kiddos. I have a 15 year old and I will check on him before I go to bed and in the morning if he has slept in. The worry never goes away. It just becomes different.
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  • catiebreecatiebree member
    I am on the same page!  I'm scheduled for a c-section in the a.m. tomorrow and worried about almost everything.  I'm not worried about my ability to take care of her this time around (my second little girl), but I'm terrified something goes wrong with her or somethings goes wrong with me.
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  • CocoR04CocoR04 member
    I'm worried about the well being of both baby and me. I've had two friends have full-term still births in the past couple of years and one friend lose her three year old in his sleep from natural causes. The paranoia and worry is real. Right now, my 2yo DS is sleeping in my bed (DH kicked to the couch) because he randomly spiked a fever tonight and there's no way I'm letting him sleep alone!! This worry never, ever goes away.
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  • rue:Drue:D member
    *loss mentioned*

    You are definitely not alone. This pregnancy for me was a twin pregnancy and we found out at 31w that one of the babies had passed away, so the entire rest of my pregnancy I was terrified that something would happen to the other baby. I think I would have been even if it had been a singleton pregnancy, though. Your goal is to keep baby safe and just as you can't protect them from everything once they're born, you ultimately can't protect them from everything when they're still inside you, either.
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  • LbloomLbloom member
    edited October 2015
    *loss parent*
    Well put, @rue while worrying does not accomplish anything it is in our nature as mommies to worry about our kids. I was a nervous wreck with my rainbow (subsequent) baby after my first was stillborn. You can only do what you can do so pay attention to your baby's movement patterns as best as you can. We can't control everything in life, you can only do your best. I would like to say that these are extremely lucky babies who are so loved and adored already by their mommies. It is refreshing when you hear so many stories on the other end of the spectrum.
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  • s&jeggertons&jeggerton member
    You are definitely not alone. My husband and I lost our first baby to an early miscarriage. I've felt a little disconnected with this pregnancy as a result. I think I am just so terrified that something will happen that I have refused to let myself get too happy or excited. A part of me still fears that as soon as I let myself feel happy it will be ripped away from me again. I just want to hold my little girl in my arms and know she is safe and healthy. 
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