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Baby due 2 months before wedding! Help!

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My due date is at the end of May and our wedding is July 31. We were not expecting to get pregnant so fast but at the same time are overjoyed :) especially because both of our families live across the country and will be flying in for it. But I am truly stressing out about my dress! Do I buy one now before I'm too big and try my hardest to work weight off in 2 months. Or do I wait and buy one post baby?? It's my first child so I have no idea how my body will react. Any suggestions ??
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  • KurrantKurrant member
    FTM here as well so I have no personal experience but I would think after the baby would be best. Some people bounce back easier than others. You don't really know what your body will look like at that point. Also if you are planning to breastfeed it might not be the best idea to crash diet after the birth. This article has some nice info :)

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  • ScottwswifeScottwswife member
    edited October 2015
    I'd plan on buying one after i a y but shop now to get an idea of what you like and sizing. Plan for big retailers that can turn out dresses fast, like David's Bridal or Jessica McClintock... They might not have the fanciest brand names, but they're pretty and you can most likely get it in time. And congratulations!! On both! Edited for typos
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  • zekesmommy611zekesmommy611 member
    I would wait to buy a dress. You don't really know how much weight you will gain and how long it'll take to get back to pre-pregnancy weight. Personally I gained 35lbs with DS and it took me 6-7 months to lose that weight, without really trying. I couldn't imagine having a new baby then having the stress of trying to fit in a dress!! :-q
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  • Jenly17Jenly17 member
    I agree with PP. However, maybe you can go into some of the stores that are local to you to find out how fast they turn around their dresses. My only concern for you would be that the time between your first fitting, and the day you take it home would be cutting it close. Just do your research and good luck. Lots of good things happening for you!
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  • vinerievinerie member
    You can pay for rush alterations. Buy the dress you want a couple sizes bigger than your pre-pregnancy size. Alter it as needed after baby arrives. 
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  • dshannahdshannah member
    edited October 2015
    Start looking at dresses with empire waists:) they're lovely and you will look beautiful no matter your size. Seriously, Jennifer Ehle was 6 months pregnant while filming the BBC Pride and Prejudice, and you can't tell at all.

    If that's not your aesthetic, there are other options (adjustable two-piece ensembles, etc). Many well-made dresses have built in boning/corsets so that even if you are lumpy, the dress won't show it. Avoid satin.

    But! You are by no means the first person to deal with this: go to a proper established bridal salon (I recommend Macy's if you're anywhere near Chicago)--not David's Bridal where none of the assistants have been there for more than a year. They will have recommendations and they will know what alterations can be made to which dresses. You don't need to buy there, but you'll get valuable advice.

    But buy now: it takes 4-6 months for an ordered dress to arrive sans rushing fees, and you can alter it much more quickly than that.
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  • finnybooboofinnybooboo member
    vinerie said:
    You can pay for rush alterations. Buy the dress you want a couple sizes bigger than your pre-pregnancy size. Alter it as needed after baby arrives. 
    This is my suggestion too! Pick out a dress that can easily be altered, get at least a size or two bigger, and get it altered right before the wedding!
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  • gooberdoofus95gooberdoofus95 member
    Id say buy one post birth because stressing about losing that weight could cause more unwanted problems! I had my DD2 2 weeks before my wedding and wore a sun dress because by that time I was so tired and just wanted to be married. I couldn't care less about what I wore. It wasn't my dream wedding but that can always come later!
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  • missnc77missnc77 member
    If I were in your shoes, I'd wait until after and plan on buying a J Crew dress 3-4 weeks after giving birth. I'd also go ahead and find a reputable alterations place and tell them you'll need to bring in a dress on x date that they will have 3 weeks to alter. The J Crew dresses shouldn't be too bad for alterations. Go ahead and reserve your spot though.

    https://www.jcrew.com/wedding/Wedding_Bride.jsp?iNextCategory=-1

    They are normally in stock and ready to ship. In the meantime, you can buy your veil, hairpieces, jewelery, etc.
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  • Knottie96324816Knottie96324816 member
    I'm in the same boat!!! My due date is May 21 and my wedding date is June 11!!! I wish I had more time I really wanted to get married on that date!
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  • Lusitano8Lusitano8 member
    I would look for a dress you like that is an empire waist style (think maxi dresses), they are very forgiving, maybe around the time you are 6-7 months along so you can see how your chest waist and hips have grown.

    Most places can do alterations in 2-3 weeks so if you find a good seamstress in your area I would just tell them your situation and see if they can help you two weeks out to make any alterations.  Just make it clear that you need a quick turn around. 

    Please don't crash diet, it takes time for your body to get back to normal after baby. Many women get back to their body around 2-3 months and it does not seam to matter if you start exercising at 6 weeks after or 6 months after. Just enjoy your hubby and baby. You will have an amazing wedding no matter what!  
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  • vinerievinerie member
    finnybooboo said:
    vinerie said:
    You can pay for rush alterations. Buy the dress you want a couple sizes bigger than your pre-pregnancy size. Alter it as needed after baby arrives. 
    This is my suggestion too! Pick out a dress that can easily be altered, get at least a size or two bigger, and get it altered right before the wedding!
    I ordered my dress late and so it was rushed (I put off dress shopping. I pretty much failed at being a good bride. But that is another story.) Arrived 2 weeks before my wedding. Had it altered not once, not twice, but THREE times in like 6 days. Seriously, if you're willing to shell out the $$, the seamstress will make the changes on your timeline. 
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  • nick&heathernick&heather member
    I would buy now and alter after birth. Maybe look for a dress that could be converted to a corset back which gives you a lot of size leeway.
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  • saraleigh2saraleigh2 member
    edited October 2015
    My niece (we are only 4 yrs apart tho) just went thru this and I've had other friends in similar positions. I would suggest finding your dress early most wedding dresses take 6 to 8 months to order from designers so you will need to get a MoveOn. By an A-line dress -you know the style of the Disney princesses wear, choose a coursetted one (it will require less alterations later) Buy it a few sizes large and plan on paying extra to your seamstress for alterations after the baby. The last thing you want to do is be stressed about trying to fit into your dress; so choose a style that will flatter you independent of your weight!!! And have it altered :) good luck!!
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  • arosso521arosso521 member
    I was just recently married and it took several months for my dress to come in, and several more for alterations. I would suggest buying sooner, rather than wait. I'm sure wherever you go will have someone available to help with suggestions on sizes.
    Just speaking from experience- the 2 months leading up to your wedding are stressful, adding a new born on top of the wedding stress would be a lot for anyone... Throwing dress shopping AND alterations would be too much.
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  • jessiedee13jessiedee13 member
    nick&heather said:

    I would buy now and alter after birth. Maybe look for a dress that could be converted to a corset back which gives you a lot of size leeway.

    This is what I did. I was 24 weeks at my wedding. Bought my dress before I got pregnant with the plan of adding the corset back because I liked it better. Was perfect for that, and it does give the size leeway. I gained 5 lbs between my final fitting and my wedding and it still fit great!
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  • mrstmoosemrstmoose member
    Honestly, looking at how stressful wedding planning can be, I would try to get as much done now so after you have the LO, you can spend time with him/her instead of worrying about wedding stuff (which I know you will worry about anyways, but hopefully you know what I mean). I would agree with either an empire waist or rush delivery.
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