Green light for wine

tugskenyonkel+1 · October 2015

At yesterday's OB appointment my doctor gave me the green light to have 4oz of wine a day. Anyone else hearing the same thing for the last month of pregnancy?

Knottie16832459 · October 2015

It depends on your source, you can find professional advice ranging from "it's never acceptable in any amount" to "anything in moderation." Despite the large conversation going on about it, there's nothing definitive or consistent. I went with the "in moderation" and decided a small glass once a month was ok, but I got so sick and dizzy from it that I've actually only had about 8oz total my entire pregnancy. The docs can say all they want, but listen to your body, too.

AmoLovesAud · October 2015

Not me specifically, but my mom was told it was okay to sip wine in her last month of pregnancy with me, because I apparently had a lot of late night dance parties in-utero and kept her up, and a few sips would calm me down enough so she could sleep. But that was the 80s, don't know if medical opinions on that specific scenario have changed (haven't bothered to ask b/c I have a pretty chill fetus in there)

Elyse1384 · October 2015

My OB said a small glass (eg 4oz) of wine is fine in the 2nd half of pregnancy (week 20 on), but only in moderation (not daily). I think every OB is different in level of comfort with beer or wine consumption and every woman should decide after speaking with her OB whether she will elect to have anything to drink. Some women simply don't feel comfortable period while others are more than eager to have a glass once cleared to do so by their OBs/midwives. If you search the topic on N15, there was a thread some time ago where folks gave opinions, but it is ultimately up to you and your doctor.

CarrieOct15 · October 2015

I've also heard that small amounts are fine, but I'm personally waiting until post-baby to have my first glass. It'll be like a little celebration!

mamavbs · October 2015

I have a bottle of pink fizz in my fridge and I am gagging for it. But I've gone 36 weeks with no booze... Another 4 won't really hurt me?! And it's definitely going to make that fizz taste better.

This is definitely an individual opinion type thing

bellie1223 · October 2015

my husband and I have been stocking up on interesting beers I want to try post pregnancy, don't get me wrong, I'm excited for baby, but also excited to try all my fun beers, like PP said, it'll be a celebration. My doc basically told me from the get go that because people have such a hard time doing anything in moderation, she says it's best to stick with no alcohol. I had a hard day at work the other day and poured myself about a 4oz glass of my favorite sour beer and gave the rest to my husband, honestly, I had a hard time enjoying it.

vomitrosa · October 2015

I have a bottle of Champagne in the fridge right now and I have no idea why it keeps staring me down the way it is, it's like..."sip me, drink me, taste me"....

I got an ok that beer/wine in 2nd half is fine in small amounts as the baby is just growing and done with the huge developmental stage, but like PP said...I have just a few weeks left, I will wait it out and have a celebratory glass after he is here. I have this weird guilt thing about it?

In the 80's my mother was instructed to drink a dark yeasty beer once a week for her swelling? That sounds like it would cause even more swelling, but hey, guess it just goes to show how much has changed.

thefithuntress · October 2015

My doula let me know towards the end she'll okay a little bit of beer or wine to help relax. I'm 32 weeks.

BowWowBowie · October 2015

I was given the okay for some every now and then, it just doesn't sound appealing.

CharminglySouthern · October 2015

My doctor is fine with it after 20 weeks.

MoRay05 · October 2015

I've had a sip here and there of my husbands beer. I'm not comfortable with having a glass so I'll wait until after the LO is here.

lulamagoo · October 2015

I have a glass of wine about once a week. Do whatever you are comfortable with. But can we talk about fall weather and a delicious red zin? Magical

MercyC1130 · October 2015

vomitrosa said:
I have a bottle of Champagne in the fridge right now and I have no idea why it keeps staring me down the way it is, it's like..."sip me, drink me, taste me"....

I got an ok that beer/wine in 2nd half is fine in small amounts as the baby is just growing and done with the huge developmental stage, but like PP said...I have just a few weeks left, I will wait it out and have a celebratory glass after he is here. I have this weird guilt thing about it?

In the 80's my mother was instructed to drink a dark yeasty beer once a week for her swelling? That sounds like it would cause even more swelling, but hey, guess it just goes to show how much has changed.

I know what you mean! I know that it's medically safe and sound to have a glass of wine here or there and can even be beneficial. I just feel weird.
I think I'll also probably wait for a celebratory glass! Though I might change my tune as I get closer..

natalknitter15 · October 2015

I was just thinking that it's been awhile since we've had any talk of alcohol on here! I love wine normally, but couldn't enjoy the glass I tried to have a few weeks ago on my birthday. Like a PP said, it just gave me a weird, guilty feeling. That being said, I'm staying open-minded to the idea of having a glass to help me relax closer to my due date.

4oz every single day seems like quite a bit to me, but I think you should do whatever you and your clinician feel comfortable with.

MercyC1130 · October 2015

It might sound cliche but a glass of wine in the bath tub sounds amazing.

HopefulMNMom · October 2015

I haven't discussed alcohol use with my doctor since the very beginning of pregnancy. I personally won't drink any until after the baby is here and I figure out breastfeeding & pumping. To each their own.

jamiem522 · October 2015

I had my best friends in town over the weekend and we went to an awesome dinner where they ordered a bottle of wine... I had a glass. I don't mind here or there, little bits but it was my first actual glass of one and I felt really guilty. It was delicious and I'm looking forward to having a bottle in the future! Haha

Peanut1128 · October 2015

My doctor didn't mention it and I'm not interested in drinking while pregnant but I do have friends who enjoyed a small glass of wine here or there. I just don't like the idea of my baby getting sleepy from alcohol or being impaired at all. I have no idea if one glass would even effect him but I am a worrier.

JLW0504 · October 2015

I, personally, am against it. I had a cousin born with FAS so I'm not even going to risk it. With all of her health problems, I just can't see the benefits of drinking while pregnant. She passed away when she was 16 due to complications so, again, I don't see any benefits.

tmandato1234 · October 2015

I wouldn't do it. In a previous human developement class of mine. We did a study on fas. Long story short although doctors say your allowed to drink in small moderations does not mean the baby won't get affected in anyway. It still puts the baby at risk for fas

TacoSarah · October 2015

MercyC1130 said:

It might sound cliche but a glass of wine in the bath tub sounds amazing.

I have a feeling that it might be Ina May that suggests doing this when your labour first starts. I know I read it in a book somewhere.

P.S. I nearly called her Ina Garten, who I'm sure would advocate for wine at any time. And butter. But only the 'good' butter.

Falchas · October 2015

bellie1223 said:

my husband and I have been stocking up on interesting beers I want to try post pregnancy, don't get me wrong, I'm excited for baby, but also excited to try all my fun beers, like PP said, it'll be a celebration. My doc basically told me from the get go that because people have such a hard time doing anything in moderation, she says it's best to stick with no alcohol. I had a hard day at work the other day and poured myself about a 4oz glass of my favorite sour beer and gave the rest to my husband, honestly, I had a hard time enjoying it.

I've been making a list of all the interesting beers coming out recently that I am so ready to try, might have to start actually stocking like you guys! I love dark beers and all the great winter porters and stouts are starting show up. Can't wait! Just have to figure out how to hide from husband.

strimble26 · October 2015

I have sips of H's beer several times on the weekend (probably what equates to 4 oz) I don't sit and down a beer, but definitely do not feel guilty about taking a nice, long swig with dinner a few times a week now that I am almost 36 weeks. To each their own, but a few sips here and there are not a problem in my book. The problem is if you can't help yourself from having more than that. If so, then you need to wait. Everyone has their own comfort level on this subject.

And we do the same on stocking up on dark beers! This is my 3rd baby, and after I had my other 2 daughters, H would go get a pick 6 of nice dark beers once a week for me to enjoy each night while I nursed. I am so looking forward to it. It relaxes mom and helps with milk production. It is so a win, win!

AmyReneT · October 2015

i had mimosas for the ladies at my baby shower and there was one bottle left over that came home with me and my husband. My husband OF COURSE had to open it to drink and I had one lil mimosa and felt really guilty... I won't drink again until baby is here and healthy. It tasted SO good tho... lol

kestes946 · October 2015

With this pregnancy (my 3rd) I've had a couple of 4oz glasses of wine here and there starting in my 2nd trimester. It's been awhile since I had a glass and I'm 33 weeks pregnant. I'll prob have at least one more before baby comes but my body can only tolerate maybe 3 oz. Like mentioned above it makes me dizzy and hot if I drink much more.. Definitely all personal preference and good judgement!

onebadmotha · October 2015

@JLW0504- I'm sorry about your cousin, that is so sad.

While I don't judge those who drink in moderation, I am personally uncomfortable with it. I had quite a few people act like I'm being ridiculous for refusing wine/beer at my baby shower- including one friend who is a midwife and one who is a doctor- but it's not something that I feel is worth it. Besides, I enjoy those calories much more in the form of cake.

TacoSarah · October 2015

kayemjay2 said:
@JLW0504- I'm sorry about your cousin, that is so sad.

While I don't judge those who drink in moderation, I am personally uncomfortable with it. I had quite a few people act like I'm being ridiculous for refusing wine/beer at my baby shower- including one friend who is a midwife and one who is a doctor- but it's not something that I feel is worth it. Besides, I enjoy those calories much more in the form of cake.

I really dislike people who push alcohol on others.

And totally agree - cake for the win every time

MercyC1130 · October 2015

TacoSarah said:

kayemjay2 said:
@JLW0504- I'm sorry about your cousin, that is so sad.

While I don't judge those who drink in moderation, I am personally uncomfortable with it. I had quite a few people act like I'm being ridiculous for refusing wine/beer at my baby shower- including one friend who is a midwife and one who is a doctor- but it's not something that I feel is worth it. Besides, I enjoy those calories much more in the form of cake.
I really dislike people who push alcohol on others.

And totally agree - cake for the win every time

It's strange when people do push it. There's that root beer-beer that's supposed to be pretty good and my uncle not only was trying to get me to drink it but he was lying and saying there was no alcohol in it. (?!) Also my stepmom was really surprised I was declining Baileys and proceeded to tell me that it was okay to drink some now. That's a personal descision you make preferably with your doctor.
People are strange.

jenifer228 · October 2015

There were a couple of times in my pregnancy where I had a small glass of wine, but each time I ended up getting restless leg syndrome. So, I pretty much just gave it up. Not because I feel guilty, but because it wasn't enjoyable. And what's the point if I can't enjoy it?

jenifer228 · October 2015

I am very much looking forward to my first big glass of red wine! And pumpkin ale

sadyy131 · October 2015

I had a half a glass of red wine a few weeks ago and truthfully I felt like it made me pretty tipsy. Did I mention it was just a half a glass? I guess not drinking for the past 8 months has taken a toll on my alcohol tolerance lol. But like PP said, I felt pretty guilty, so I'll wait it out til baby girl is here. Do they let you bring champagne to the hospital? because that would be on point

jscasher · October 2015

I too am team "wait til baby comes" but just because I can't personally wrap my head around it being OK! I figure I've come this far!

I did learn at lactation class you can have a glass of wine or beer at the last breastfeeding session of the evening because by the time LO wakes up again to nurse it will be out of your system. So I will definitely enjoy an evening beer during a breastfeeding session a few times a week!

Bettytteb · October 2015

I haven't drank at all during pregnancy, but honestly, if I wanted to have a small glass of wine or something I totally would since all of the research suggests that it's totally fine in small amounts later in pregnancy. I think a big part of it is that my DH is sober (recovering alcoholic) so we never have alcohol in the house or when we go out together, so there just haven't been many opportunities where I felt like I really wanted to indulge. That being said my bff is planning our first outing together post baby to be for champagne and oysters and I am so excited for both! Edited - autocorrect fail

Laura&brad1 · October 2015

I had my sisters 30th a couple of months ago and the dr had said treat myself if I wanted and have a glass of wine so I was considering it untill the filthy look I got from the people around me when I mentioned it so I had a sip when no1 was looking and left it at that the other day it was a beautiful sunny night so I thought right this time I'll treat myself to a beer 2% alcohol only so a really light beer it needed chilled so I put it in the fridge and by the time it had chilled I wasn't interested so it's still sitting there! I'm not against the odd wine or beer but I was more relaxed last pregnancy and had a miscarriage and claimed myslef for having the odd drink! So this time not so keen! Def something to think about

natalknitter15 · October 2015

Bettytteb said:

I haven't drank at all during pregnancy, but honestly, if I wanted to have a small glass of wine or something I totally would since all of the research suggests that it's totally fine in small amounts later in pregnancy. I think a big part of it is that my DH is sober (recovering alcoholic) so we never have alcohol in the house or when we go out together, so there just have been many opportunities where I felt like I really wanted to indulge. That being said my bff is planning our first outing together post baby to be for champagne and oysters and I am so excited for both!

Just wanted to say, kudos to you for helping your significant other by keeping your house and your outings sober. I think that's great. I work in the mental health field and I see so many family members unintentionally sabotaging their loved ones' attempts at being sober by being unwilling to forgo alcohol themselves. Good for you!

makeoutside7 · October 2015

I will be 36 weeks tomorrow. I have had half a glass of wine at 2 different weddings and 2 small glasses of champagne at two other weddings. My baby is fine...but I did feel a little guilty. I didn't ask my doctor or anything. Do whatever you're comfortable with. I don't plan on drinking again until after I give birth.

Bettytteb · October 2015

natalknitter15 said:

Bettytteb said:

I haven't drank at all during pregnancy, but honestly, if I wanted to have a small glass of wine or something I totally would since all of the research suggests that it's totally fine in small amounts later in pregnancy. I think a big part of it is that my DH is sober (recovering alcoholic) so we never have alcohol in the house or when we go out together, so there just have been many opportunities where I felt like I really wanted to indulge. That being said my bff is planning our first outing together post baby to be for champagne and oysters and I am so excited for both!

Just wanted to say, kudos to you for helping your significant other by keeping your house and your outings sober. I think that's great. I work in the mental health field and I see so many family members unintentionally sabotaging their loved ones' attempts at being sober by being unwilling to forgo alcohol themselves. Good for you!

Thanks! Also, noticed a typo in my post (and edited)...I meant there HAVEN'T been many times I've wanted to indulge.

I appreciate your comment a lot. Since DH has been sober it's really shown me how revolving social activities around drinking (which is really common in our social group) is totally unnecessary. Sure if we're out at a party or wedding or something I'll still have a drink or 2 (and he is fine with this)...but being supportive of him and his sobriety is so much more important to me than having wine with dinner on a regular basis!

kradleyellis · October 2015

I always thought I would be in the moderation camp if I got pregnant. I've surprised myself though and can't stop thinking about how a glass of wine affects the baby in real time. The placenta doesn't filter alcohol (a new fact to me) so although 4 oz of wine wouldn't do much to me, how does it impact a 4 lb baby? Although a big juicy red wine calls to me, this thought nags at me. Also, my normally super chill OB takes a surprisingly hard line on this - even in the third trimester since the baby's brain is developing. That juicy red will just age a bit longer while I wait.

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