Baby Fever

MrsFL2015 · October 2015

What was your baby fever (if you had one) moment? When did you realize it had set in?

SSminnow426 · October 2015

My first true fever came about a month ago---for the first time it became real. My friend is TTC while another just found out she is expecting. I'm never one to keep up with people but I do like the idea of the kids being close together as well as all of us moms being able to support each other. My husband and I have been together for 7.5 years and married for 1.5 so we've had time to be just "us".

I think because of all the negative stuff people say I am a little nervous to give into the baby fever. "your life ends, goodbye sleep, goodbye to anything you want" I know that it's all what you make of it and yes your life does change drastically but I don't see it as a negative. I think everyone else telling you over and over just gets your nerves out of wack.....

Anyone else having a hard time taking the leap and TTC?

ska8471 · October 2015

I found that once all the warnings about how awful/stressful/difficult TTC/labor/delivery/parenting are/is no longer bothered me, that I knew it was the right time.

Before I would read things like the "Postpartum-Preparedness - Trigger Warnings" thread over in the Trying to Get Pregnant board and be just floored. Once it all didn't seem so daunting/scary and seemed totally worth the outcome, I knew that I was ready.

Of course, no is ever 100% prepared for what they're embarking on in TTC/parenting (who can be, so many variables and each experience is different), so I definitely still have my moments of "holy crap, am I actually doing this?!" But there are more moments that end in "I can't wait to see DH become a father" and "I can't wait to do X thing with my kids", etc. than those moments of screaming doubt.

I will be fine and DH and I are prepared to tackle the adventure so my baby fever lives on! I think DH is even starting to catch the baby fever :P

EasterEggs · October 2015

Baby fever hit me in June this year. It just kind of came out of nowhere. All of the sudden I could actually imagine myself pregnant, and I could picture how having a baby right now would actually work for us. Before it had always been a vague future thing, and now it's like a reality that we feel totally prepared for. It's awesome

We didn't have any reservations once we talked about it and found we were both on the same page. Then the "fever" kicked in and I started Googling all sorts of things, making a list of all the stuff we need, planning how we're going to decorate the nursery, thinking about names... I was doing that before I even had my IUD taken out in August lol. I feel like I've gone a bit crazy! But it's just SO EXCITING!!!

Chichigo · October 2015

I've had baby fever for as long as I can remember, except for about six months after my.son was born. By his first birthday, it was back to full force.

igrokthat · October 2015

DH got baby fever a while before I came down with it. I knew I was done for when I switched from wanting to use a surrogate so I could skip the whole birth thing to being really into the idea of pregnancy and labor. I started researching natural childbirth and that gave way to full blown fever.

We aren't TTC yet so the fever still comes and goes a bit. When work gets especially busy I lose it for a couple weeks at a time, but it always comes creeping back. When things got really serious we actually sat down and wrote an official baby bucket list so we could make a rational decision because we were both ready to jump in with really bad timing.

Lysta85 · October 2015

I wanted to become a mom since we start living together, but since July it was major baby fever. I think it was because I had a 6 weeks vacation and my SO only the last 2 weeks so got plenty of time to dream about it. And when my SO agreed to start TTC in december it's on my mind all the time. And on his too. He starts to talk more and more about our future kids, so I think he's less scared then he was a month ago. I'm often looking more forward to TTC then our wedding in December $:\$ ">

Blonde1817 · October 2015

I think I've always had baby fever! I've always known I wanted to be a mom. Being a preschool teacher for awhile definitely confirmed how much I wanted kids, but at the same time, I knew that I could NOT work with kids all day while I have my own kids. I was so exhausted at the end of the day, there was no way I would be able to be engaged with my own kids. Now that I am done with grad school and have started a great new job (with adults!) I feel like I will be able to balance both work and being a mom if need be. As much as I have always wanted kids, I don't think until the past year or so I was really ready to give up my lazy free time and social drinking. It's also been pretty recent that I don't just think about wanting kids, but actually wanting to BE pregnant, which used to sound terrifying and disgusting to me!

So there wasn't really an official start to the baby fever, but it continues to grow as each friend/family member gets pregnant/gives birth/starts TTC. I hate to sound jealous, but honestly I am!

myjessesgirl · October 2015

Chichigo said:
I've had baby fever for as long as I can remember, except for about six months after my.son was born. By his first birthday, it was back to full force.

This. Except replace son with daughter. I hope that the baby fever will eventually stop because I never envisioned myself with a gaggle of children. But right now we are just taking it easy since I'm not exactly back on track with periods since I'm still nursing. Temping only to confirm if/when I ovulate so I don't freak out every time my period is late.

mommytimesfour · October 2015

After my first baby, I had baby fever by the time his first birthday rolled around. I think after you've experienced that first year, you realize just how fast it goes and how quick that precious newborn stage is over with, and you crave to have it back (that's how I felt, anyway). Baby #2 just turned 2 and my baby fever is in full force. It's a little scarier jumping into the thought of 3 kids and when she turned 1 I wasn't anywhere near ready, but the fever is definitely there now. I knew right after each of my kids that I wasn't done.

Hulabalu · October 2015

My baby fever just gets worse and worse! I think it peaked a month or two ago, when I just had to start knitting a bunch of baby clothes. I am telling my hubby and myself that it is nice to stock up on small gifts we can give away to friends that are expecting (I often knit baby gifts when someone announces), but in reality I'm of course hoping to get KU fast enough so I don't have to give these things away.

I've made the most adorable mittens and socks in a traditional Norwegian pattern - they look just like these below.

I hope I don't have to give them all away!

JenandJosh1310 · October 2015

My baby fever hit end of last year/start of this year. I denied it for a bit as i had been previously sure we wouldnt have any kids. Once i admitted that i truly did want at least one i became obsessed! I am so interested in pregnancy and what it feels like and what labor is like i love reading birth stories all the time now. Of course now that i have the fever none of my friends have a little baby-i just want to hold a lil newborn! Lol

SSminnow426 · October 2015

I completely feel what EasterEggs said:

Baby fever hit me in June this year. It just kind of came out of nowhere. All of the sudden I could actually imagine myself pregnant, and I could picture how having a baby right now would actually work for us. Before it had always been a vague future thing, and now it's like a reality that we feel totally prepared for. It's awesome

You always prepare yourself for down the road and don't think its a reality and then BAM. You realize your in a good place and its a legitimate possibility. I'm in my mid twenties and want to start younger since we know we want at least 2 kids and I don't want to rush them too close together. It's crazy that I'm now old enough and in a place where its not a bad thing or irresponsible. exciting but crazy LOL

cjt121413 · October 2015

SSminnow426 said:
My first true fever came about a month ago---for the first time it became real. My friend is TTC while another just found out she is expecting. I'm never one to keep up with people but I do like the idea of the kids being close together as well as all of us moms being able to support each other. My husband and I have been together for 7.5 years and married for 1.5 so we've had time to be just "us".
I think because of all the negative stuff people say I am a little nervous to give into the baby fever. "your life ends, goodbye sleep, goodbye to anything you want" I know that it's all what you make of it and yes your life does change drastically but I don't see it as a negative. I think everyone else telling you over and over just gets your nerves out of wack.....
Anyone else having a hard time taking the leap and TTC?

I think it is normal and probably healthy to feel like this to some degree. Especially if your friends don't have kids, please take this kind of stuff with a grain of salt. My son didn't end my life - he started it! I never knew how fulfilling and meaningful life could be until a had my son.

That being said, I had some baby fever when DS was a toddler, but the time was not right (and neither was my SO). After DH and I got married, I went back and forth about when to TTC. After we had a vacation together for a week, I was sure. Something about having time together made us really excited to TTC. Then I got a new job and we have to wait lol.

charmedlifex3 · October 2015

Not really any baby fever. There are external pressures, and I know we DO want kids... I am not feeling driven to it. There aren't any babies in my social circle, so I am never around them. I admit the timing has been more of an intellectual decision rather than a visceral one.

SSminnow426 · October 2015

That exactly what I think--kids start a whole new world/chapter. Only one of our friends have kids and they have twins so a whole other ball of wax LOL . Thanks for the positive reassurance. I think we are shooting for sometime next year with the actual timing TBD.

We have time which is nice---I've thought about it everyday and feel myself being ready. I realize there is never a perfect time and now that I've excepted it more its not as scary.

MrsFL2015 · October 2015

Thanks for the comments. DH and I are NTNP, but lately I've been thinking a lot about kids. I went to Target today and really wanted to just walk down the baby aisle and look at all the cute little stuff, but I stopped myself. Last week, I signed up for a short term disability plan that covers some maternity stuff. I seems to think about it more and more every day. I'm not sure if this is the fever or what.

I haven't told DH how I feel yet because I don't want to pressure him.

charmedlifex3 · October 2015

Oddly enough, my DH has baby fever. He's bought things for a future potential child, ear marked which bedroom will be the nursery, and decided on a nursery theme.

Cart - Horse dear...

Sirius37 · October 2015

I know mine kicked in around September after a brief calming period from this summer. I think I realized what was happening when I found myself googling tulas. It has been getting worse and worse though. DH and I have decided to start trying after he gets back from deployment next summer, that way he will have a better chance of being home for everything; yesterday, however, I was completely ready to go home and tell him I wanted to start trying this month! The timing and everything would work so much better next summer, but it's like my brain has gone rogue and doesn't care. I feel like I'm suffering an internal Kirk/Spock conflict.... and it isn't helping DH says he would start trying right now if I said let's do it. Way to test my resolve. :-w

Hulabalu · October 2015

@Sirius37 I totally know the feeling. Baby fever has totally overrun me, and we ended up giving it a go this month even though getting pregnant now means I will be without DH for the most part of the pregnancy... Adorable puppy, btw!

Katm89 · October 2015

My DH and I married young, I was 21 and planned to wait 3 years, so I always thought on our 3 yr wedding anniversary we would be trying. Then it wasn't the right time and we waited, every month that followed that I would cry during my period about wanting a baby... a breakdown monthly for 2 years now. Our 5 year anniversary is next month and we will be trying. Logically I knew it was better to wait but it was so painful.

jenfarm3 · October 2015

it's been hitting in waves for me lately. i'm teeter tottering between the logical, "you have a lot of things going on over the next few months, getting pregnant would not be ideal" but then the baby fever kicks in like, 'but there's always going to be stuff going on!'

we just have a few more months of waiting. it'll be better timing then... sigh.

Sirius37 · October 2015

@Hulabalu - what an exciting time for you! I wish you and your DH a successful TTC adventure.

P.S. - Kara (the puppy) is 8 months old now, but she never outgrew her cute-ness!

JaiLou8833 · October 2015

When I was 16. I'm 21 now. My sister announced she was pregnant and It started setting in. But when she came home for Christmas about 2 months after my nephews first bithday. It was the first time anyone in the family got to meet him as they were living in Germany at the time. Baby fever went haywire. I was 17. And it just keeps getting worse. My senior year I swear everyone got pregnant. And everyone but maybe 2 girls out of 20 that were in my PCT class ether are pregnant or already have babies. One of them even has two. And with my boyfriends mom going on and on about my boyfriends son or my boyfriends brother having a baby. It sure as heck doesn't help anything.

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