Safe to let people know?

bbradke0413 · October 2015

At what point are you no longer high risk and safe to let friends and family know your pregnant?

NicknShan · October 2015

This question has been posted a few times already, so I would recommend doing a quick search for lots of great responses. There is also a great post pinned in the May 2016 board about pregnancy risks.

Only you can decide when you are comfortable to share. As for high risk, it depends on what you define that as. High risk is very different for different people and different pregnancies.

Good luck and welcome to June 2016!

queenklau · October 2015

Good morning! I agree with the pps. It is up to you! We had a mmc last time at 11 weeks (we were in the 3%) and had to share the sad news with everyone we told, which wasn't too many people but had a few awkward conversations. I am going to be more cautious this time around. But I think it is your right to enjoy your pregnancy and share it with your loved ones if you feel comfortable. Do what feels right for you

here is to a H&H 9 months!

hopefor28085 · October 2015

In my opinion it's never really "safe" to let people know. Something can always happen at anytime no matter all the things you try to avoid.

You have to ask yourself what you want from not telling.

For me, I'd rather tell no matter what for several reasons. I believe every life deserves to be celebrated no matter what. I also know if something was to ever happen I'd want my family and friends behind me on it.

Now waiting to tell Facebook is whatever in my opinion. Lol facebook doesn't count as much to me anymore.

tripledaggerWed95976 · October 2015

It's definitely ur choice. My first pregnancy we were so excited we told everyone as soon as we found out. We weren't aware of how common early miscarriages are. Well, we ended up miscarrying at 7 weeks and had to have many uncomfortable discussions about it. This time we are waiting until end of first tri to announce. We told our immediate family, but those are the people who I would want there to comfort me if I miscarried again

cattuccino · October 2015

exactly what @hopefor28085 said, there's really no "safe" point, or time. It's not a matter of being high risk in the early stages. So much can change so quickly - it's up to your comfort level and what you need/prefer.

Some people want everyone to know so they can have the support network if something happens (or if it doesn't!)
Some people prefer to keep it private so they can grieve in private if something happens (or because first trimester is gross and full of puking, bloating, mood changes not to be shared with people)
Some people want the big SURPRISE when they let people know.

TinaTho · October 2015

I'm with you on that, this is my first pregnancy and I'm very nervous about it. But I decided that I would need my immediate family and very close friends if anything should happen. And I would rather let them join in the joy. If something happens we'll all be upset together.

R0824H · October 2015

We are telling our immediate family within the next week or so...but I'm likely waiting till 12 weeks (if I can make it that long) to tell my co-workers. I would be open to telling them now as they supported me through a previous loss but DH wants to keep it a secret for a while and I'm totally ok with that.

sorarose · October 2015

Last time, I told future grandparents and close family and friends almost immediately. This time, I'm only telling my mother until I feel ready. She is the one I will want if anyone goes wrong, so that's my litmus test. We may tell DH's parents in the next few weeks as a b-day present to my MIL, but that's more out of respect than anything else. I know I regretted telling people as early as I did; I want to savor this with DH and my mother for awhile longer.

I will probably tell work sometime after the 12 week NT scan. However, because there can be some heavy lifting in my position, I may need to spill the beans earlier rather than later.

bbradke0413 · October 2015

Thanks everyone! That was helpful!

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