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May 2016 Moms
bray9814
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Terrified of having another loss.
bray9814
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Hi my name is Brandy, I'm 19 and 6 weeks and one day. Me and my boyfriend are over the moon happy but 6 months ago we had a loss near mothers day that was hard on the both of us. I'm terrified that I'm gonna loose the baby again. Last time I believe it was a chemical pregnancy because it did happen so early.
I've been living in panic, every cramp I feel I check for spotting.
Nothing's there, I'm just terrified there will be! My first sanogram isn't for a week and they didn't do a blood test at my first prenatal because of how dark and fast the test read positive. 6 months ago (when I had the loss) all my positive tests were very light, so I have some reassurance.
I guess my real question is how has everyone's luck been after a miscarriage? What are some ways I can reduce my anxiety? Is there anything I can do this early that would hurt my baby.
I quit the obvious like caffeine and smoking cold turkey but is there anything else I can do?
Thank you all so much.
I've been living in panic, every cramp I feel I check for spotting.
Nothing's there, I'm just terrified there will be! My first sanogram isn't for a week and they didn't do a blood test at my first prenatal because of how dark and fast the test read positive. 6 months ago (when I had the loss) all my positive tests were very light, so I have some reassurance.
I guess my real question is how has everyone's luck been after a miscarriage? What are some ways I can reduce my anxiety? Is there anything I can do this early that would hurt my baby.
I quit the obvious like caffeine and smoking cold turkey but is there anything else I can do?
Thank you all so much.
Re: Terrified of having another loss.
Stay away from canned food!
Just kidding. It sounds like you're doing everything you can do... Just try to enjoy being pregnant and focus on the fact that your body is doing something really cool and that if the worst were to happen, worrying wouldn't have prevented it from happening.
Sorry for your loss. I am now 6 weeks 1 day pregnant after having a loss at 9 weeks, Mother's Day weekend. The only way I am managing to stay calm is to take it day by day.
I try to remind myself "Today I am pregnant. Today everything is ok."
We have a PGAL check-in every Monday that you are more than welcome to participate in. We had our first one yesterday and its just a good place to put your fears out there and how you are feeling and what is going on currently. You should also check out the PGAL board. Lots of great ladies there.
Make a pregnancy ticker
I had two miscarriages (my abbreviated story is in the PGAL thread from yesterday) and am now at around 6 weeks. I won't lie, I don't think the worry ever goes away - some of the "innocence" and trust is just gone.
But early losses like what you and I had are usually not related to anything we do (and most later miscarriages aren't, either) - it's either an underlying health issue from the mother or a genetic problem with the fetus. So don't worry about that too much - I still drink coffee and lift heavy weights, for example. And take medication for my gastritis, because I lost three kilograms in five weeks without it.
I've come to accept the cramping and aches as part of being pregnant and a good thing, because things are working down there. So I try to look on the positive instead of the negative, cramping = bad, instead cramping = baby is growing.
I've also had my husband recite a mantra to me to calm me down before bed "The baby is healthy, happy and whole. You are healthy, happy and whole. Everything is ok"
Maybe it's silly but it works for me.