Not finding it hard !!!

Re: Not finding it hard !!!

• jesshowland member

  October 2015

  I love being a mommy too! I work part time only on the weekends, so I spend all day at home with her through the week. It's all a learning experience and some things are definitely challenging and frustrating. But it's all part of parenting! I find that the hardest part is getting along with my fiancée. It's hard not to resent him because he is away at work. And we all know moms and dads do things differently!

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• mars8k member

  October 2015

  It was so tough at first, dh and i are still adjusting. My life is so very different! It takes endless planning to see a friend for an hour but i wouldn't have it any othet way!

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• gtellier member

  October 2015

  @weaves I agree with you 100%!!! I feel the same way- yes sometimes are hard and it's so easy to fall into the "complaining parent" role (guilty), but I genuinely enjoy spending my time with my little girl!! I LOVE being a mommy, and you're right that it's not hard. Before I had her, friends and family with good intentions, kept saying things like "sleep now, cause you'll never sleep", "babies are supposed to cry, so if you do, don't stress", etc. there is very little positive pre baby advice out there. My sister is 8 months pregnant and I always make sure to tell her that she WILL be tired, not because of lack of sleep, but because she will need every piece of energy in her body to help her heart grow with how much love she is going to feel! Thank you for posting this! We need more positive messages/words about motherhood out there!

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• chaglund member

  October 2015

  My husband and I decided to move to Europe right before we found out we were expecting, all our plans were set and the news of baby didn't stop us. Everyone told us to kiss our adventurous lives goodbye, that traveling with baby would be an impossible feat and to get used to staying in and never doing fun things again basically. Everything everyone has told us has been completely untrue for us, being a parent has been incredibly easy and having a mini human hasn't ruined our lives like so many people tend to hang on to, actually it's enhanced it in a way we didn't know possible. Traveling, exploring, adventuring and having fun haven't stopped. Sure we have all the same ups and downs that everyone has with littles but we listen to our babies needs and take care of it and move on. When my mom friends vent about it being so hard I tend to agree too just for the sake of them not thinking I'm naive or for them to hate me, but I honestly couldn't disagree more. Who knows, maybe we have an 'easy baby' or maybe how we handle life makes having a baby easy. But I'm glad other mommas are feeling this way too, because like PP's have said this is hardly ever talked about, parents only talk about the negative and that's so sad to me!

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• ditzy007 member

  October 2015

  I was expecting sleepless nights and losing my mind with a newborn and returning to work immediately after her birth. I work retail managing a clothing store and was able to bring her to work basically since she was born, just took her along in the baby bjorn. Maybe I just got terribly lucky but I have the most easy going baby or maybe it's because of brining her with me from the get go. She has had maybe 4/5 nights that have been all out rage fests since she was born. I guess it's best to expect the worst but sometimes it just all works out.

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• SmrBrd2012 member

  October 2015

  This so depends on every person's situation. I don't find raising and caring for my baby "hard" and I love it so much. That being said, there are definitely factors in my life that make it hard. Still have PP health issues, returning to work FT with an awful commute, keeping up with chores, and juggling daycare (not to mention daycare costs). If I didn't have to work or not work as much I could better handle the sleepless nights with mr crankypants! Sometimes I feel guilty about not seeing friends as much anymore but I mostly feel guilty about not really wanting to make the effort to see all of them anyway. I'd rather spend my time with my little guy.

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• marijaa333 member

  October 2015

  weaves said:

   before I had my beautiful girl i read book after book and they all basically said your life is doomed it'll never be the same again and friends and family constantly told us to enjoy each other before she came along ... 

  
  

  The culture of fear... it's everywhere!

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• cherindi member

  October 2015

  I don't find it hard! The whole reason I'm doing it again! Twice the love! Twice the happiness! Twice the cuddles. Motherhood is the best!

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• weaves member

  October 2015

  Yey super glad I'm not the only one

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• quirkyEM member

  October 2015

  Love this thread...same here. Things are great, no fighting with my hubby like I was told would happen, no exhausted "I need me time", that I thought I'd feel, no screaming baby that I was warned about. Things are great. Loving every moment. To hell with the negative comments people keep telling me! :-)

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• MrsWhiteToBe member

  October 2015

  I love it too. One thing I find funny is before she was born everyone said "you can't just get up and go to X place!" But then they call us like "Hey we're going to X right now! Wanna go?" I'd honestly rather just stay home with my sweet baby though:)

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• McRandy84 member

  October 2015

  I really love it too.. Absolutely love DS to bits and never knew how much more I'd love DH too.. We have such a sweet and happy baby who just lights up our life so much

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• ftm0413 member

  October 2015

  I love this thread! My husband and I were worried because everyone scared us. Our friends made it sound like having a baby was something that you "deal" with, like going to the dentist but the appointment lasts for the rest of your life. We're the last in our group of friends to have a baby (late 30's, our friends are on baby #2, 3+ or have kids already in school) so we assumed they knew what they were talking about. LO is almost 5 months and we're still having fun! I shower daily, take him grocery shopping, clean the house just like I used to. We still have football Saturday and go to our ranch on Sundays. The only difference is that we now have an awesome little friend to join us. The biggest change is that I love my husband even more. We still get the "just wait until ... " comments but we've learned to completely ignore them. I feel like my little family is prefect.

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• Sammadden27 member

  October 2015

  My friend scared us saying that they spent an extra $600 a month on their baby. And she breastfed so it wasn't on formula. $600? I'm still trying to figure out what to buy for my son to spend an extra $600 bucks a month. Even spending a little more on health insurance doesn't make us spend that much!

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• sunnyday016 member

  October 2015

  I'll preface my comment with saying that I love my children to pieces and I do love being a mom.
  
  I think when people say the more negative things about not being able to go out and do things or needing time away or kids causing stress with your spouse, most of the time they are talking about toddlers & preschoolers. Babies don't have an opinion of where you take them, they don't talk constantly so you and your spouse can still talk to each other. They don't squabble with you and whine and make excuses and refuse to clean up, etc etc etc. And they nap.
  
  The baby stage is easy compared to all that! Again, I love my kids and I love being a mom, but recognize that each stage brings new challenges and it gets a LOT harder.

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• Sammadden27 member

  October 2015

  @sunnyday016 so glad you said this. I mean, I've had harder jobs in my life. But I definitely wouldn't call motherhood easy. And I definitely don't think I can do everything I used to do befor having my son. But I do love this job!

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