I'll never complain about staying up all night again... Warning- sad story and pictures included

Re: I'll never complain about staying up all night again... Warning- sad story and pictures included

• kanga915 member

  October 2015

  You should put a trigger warning in your post title

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• Bellarose212 member

  October 2015

  Oh I'm really sorry! How do I do that?

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• eah325 member

  October 2015

  Maybe just edit the title to add (warning: sad story included)

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• jizzypuff member

  October 2015

  I am sorry for her loss but shaming sleep deprived parents doesn't seem fair to me. Just because something went horrible for her doesn't mean others can't be stressed out by their own problems. This is a case of " I have it the worse so you can't feel bad for what you have"

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• mamadeez member

  October 2015

  My friend wanted to be a mom her whole life and hasn't been able to conceive. I didn't want to be a mom and had an unplanned pregnancy that changed my life. I feel so blessed to have my boy that I try not to complain. I severely burnt the roof of my mouth because I was over tired a few days ago... It's hard but I'd rather have this than the life I had before.

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• capricelili member

  October 2015

  Not the best story to read while still pregnant and 1wk 3dy past due, but I understand the sentiment of the story. Of course this is a pregnant woman's worst fear and I just pray to God I get to see my little baby safe and sound at the end of all this. However I was warned at the title so my bad for reading it, I just can't seem to stay away from things that make me cry, wether sad or happy.

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• Sarahm8687 member

  October 2015

  I read this a few days ago and it left me inconsolable. I had visitors and had to leave them to go upstairs and cry it out. I felt guilty for being frustrated the night before because Addison didn't want to sleep more than 20 minutes straight.
  Did the trick for me, whenever I feel just utterly exhausted I think about how lucky I truly am to have such a beautiful perfect little girl. She was unplanned, but she has already made me a much better person than I ever was before. I couldn't imagine carrying your little one and never being able to feel them breathe or see them cry. It's truly heart breaking and I think @BellaRose15 was just trying to convey the message that we are all so blessed beyond words, and so when you're having a dark moment find comfort in the fact that you have been given a little miracle of life, and that there are people out there that never get to enjoy their miracles, so when you're mad about changing diapers, or having a fussy baby at 3am, just thank god for your little ones. I know I find myself crying and thanking God (not a religious person prior to becoming pregnant) for blessing me with such a beautiful, perfect daughter. I think the universe just knew what I needed before I did.

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• ForeverEverAfter member

  October 2015

  Last night I was crying because I put my toddler to bed at 7:30 and was still trying to settle the baby at 10:30. Plus I'd fallen (holding the baby, and I didn't drop her, but hurt myself worse because I dropped to the ground instead of breaking my fall) over a baby gate checking on my toddler. I was SOOO frustrated!!! And I remembered my very close friend who would give anything to be in my place. It did the trick. I calmed down, grabbed some cookies and tried to nurse for the millionth time. She lost her baby at 20w in preterm labour in August. She lost her first baby the same way last year, also at 20w.

  

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• momofsweetps member

  October 2015

  I read her story on fb last week and sobbed. Her baby came the same day my baby was born. It hit way too close to home.
  

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• piscesmommy222 member

  October 2015

  jizzypuff said:

  I am sorry for her loss but shaming sleep deprived parents doesn't seem fair to me. Just because something went horrible for her doesn't mean others can't be stressed out by their own problems. This is a case of " I have it the worse so you can't feel bad for what you have"

  Are you serious?? She didn't shame anyone.You clearly missed the point

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• jizzypuff member

  October 2015 edited October 2015

  piscesmommy222 said:

  jizzypuff said:

  I am sorry for her loss but shaming sleep deprived parents doesn't seem fair to me. Just because something went horrible for her doesn't mean others can't be stressed out by their own problems. This is a case of " I have it the worse so you can't feel bad for what you have"

  Are you serious?? She didn't shame anyone.You clearly missed the point

  I didn't miss the point, having a different opinion then yours doesn't make me an idiot. Saying that others shouldn't feel beaten down and tired just because they don't have it as hard as her is a very first world problem. Clearly I'm not the only one with that opinion if you look into the comments section of that article.

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• theglitteredpterodactyl member

  October 2015

  Her subject line is a pretty mild version of it, but in general the "I won't complain about normal complaint worthy things in my life because your life sucks way worse" is a pretty crappy form of gratitude. I haven't read the article becaus I dont want to, but also I don't know a lot of people who have suffered tragedies who gain comfort knowing people look at them as reasons to feel grateful, in an "at least I'm not as bad of as you" kind of way.
  
  And before there's a comment about how us mamas need to support each other, I am. I support people who don't like being held up as the worst case scenario, "at least this isn't you" example.
  
  (Ugh sorry to chime in this but this had always been such a pet peeve)

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• jbettles member

  October 2015

  This is terrible and horrible and a tragedy. I thank my lucky stars I never had to experience this and my heart goes out to all mothers who have lost babies. That being said, sleep deprivation still sucks. The baby blues suck. Taking care of multiple children on your own sucks. It's okay to resent these things and more - it's normal. I don't think she intended to shame, and the article does put things in perspective. Even though I'm so tired I want to cry sometimes I would never ever ever trade it for the pain and heartache some of you mamas have been through.

  

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• Bellarose212 member

  October 2015

  I feel terrible that my subject line was taken as shaming. It was just my own personal reaction to the story-not me saying you should feel a certain way. Again, my apologies for any misunderstanding.

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