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Babies on the Brain
ohheyimholly
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Rough pregnancy.
ohheyimholly
member
I'm sorry if this makes me out to be a complete whiner, but I promise you that I'm not.
I found out I was pregnant at 7 weeks. I bawled my eyes out for several hours because I'm in debt, maxed out on student loans before I could graduate college, I work at Wal-Mart, and the father of my unborn child is an alcoholic in denial. My frustration and self-pity quickly turned to excitement. My EDD was October 2nd!
On May 5th, I had my 18-week ultrasound. I invited my mom to be there because she didn't get to be a part of my sister's pregnancies due to my sister living out of state, and my mom is in very poor health. That day, we found out the baby is a girl. I was so excited. I thought my mom was too.
The last weekend of May, my sister drove to Michigan, where I live, with a U-haul full of baby stuff for the new baby. She stayed about a week, during which my step-father celebrated his 60th birthday. We gathered at my mom's house for the celebration and the house was packed full of friends and family. My sister and I both stayed the night. The next day, my mother accused me of stealing narcotics from her. She refused to search me, my purse, my bags, my car. Then she filed a police report. The police refused a search and turned down my idea to submit to a drug screen.
The day before father's day, I was arrested. They were charging me with felony larceny. I was 6 months pregnant. You don't even want to know the pain of passing time in a jail cell by watching your baby kick, let alone be reminded that your mother is the person who put you there for something you didn't do. Somebody who should have been there to support me and cheer me on was okay with putting her daughter in prison for 4 years and having her granddaughter placed in foster care just so that she could get her doctor to give her a few more pills.
Long story short, I was able to prove my innocence and the charges against me were dropped. I spent months resenting the fact I was pregnant because I thought my daughter would be taken from me at birth.
Today I am 40 weeks and 3 days pregnant. I'm being induced tomorrow morning. Yesterday, my sister called me and apologized in advance that she was calling to discuss something very awkward with me. My mother asked my sister to contact me because she wanted to know if I would be okay with having a supervised visit before I leave the hospital because she wants to meet the baby. This has me so upset and confused that I feel like I'm losing my s**t. The one person who should have been there for me, wasn't there for me. She tried putting me in prison, and instead of an apology, she wants me to set everything aside and do her a favor by letting her meet the granddaughter whose life she tried to ruin. I'm not sure what to do.
I found out I was pregnant at 7 weeks. I bawled my eyes out for several hours because I'm in debt, maxed out on student loans before I could graduate college, I work at Wal-Mart, and the father of my unborn child is an alcoholic in denial. My frustration and self-pity quickly turned to excitement. My EDD was October 2nd!
On May 5th, I had my 18-week ultrasound. I invited my mom to be there because she didn't get to be a part of my sister's pregnancies due to my sister living out of state, and my mom is in very poor health. That day, we found out the baby is a girl. I was so excited. I thought my mom was too.
The last weekend of May, my sister drove to Michigan, where I live, with a U-haul full of baby stuff for the new baby. She stayed about a week, during which my step-father celebrated his 60th birthday. We gathered at my mom's house for the celebration and the house was packed full of friends and family. My sister and I both stayed the night. The next day, my mother accused me of stealing narcotics from her. She refused to search me, my purse, my bags, my car. Then she filed a police report. The police refused a search and turned down my idea to submit to a drug screen.
The day before father's day, I was arrested. They were charging me with felony larceny. I was 6 months pregnant. You don't even want to know the pain of passing time in a jail cell by watching your baby kick, let alone be reminded that your mother is the person who put you there for something you didn't do. Somebody who should have been there to support me and cheer me on was okay with putting her daughter in prison for 4 years and having her granddaughter placed in foster care just so that she could get her doctor to give her a few more pills.
Long story short, I was able to prove my innocence and the charges against me were dropped. I spent months resenting the fact I was pregnant because I thought my daughter would be taken from me at birth.
Today I am 40 weeks and 3 days pregnant. I'm being induced tomorrow morning. Yesterday, my sister called me and apologized in advance that she was calling to discuss something very awkward with me. My mother asked my sister to contact me because she wanted to know if I would be okay with having a supervised visit before I leave the hospital because she wants to meet the baby. This has me so upset and confused that I feel like I'm losing my s**t. The one person who should have been there for me, wasn't there for me. She tried putting me in prison, and instead of an apology, she wants me to set everything aside and do her a favor by letting her meet the granddaughter whose life she tried to ruin. I'm not sure what to do.
Re: Rough pregnancy.
As for your mother, that person would no longer be in my life or my child's. Shared genetics is not a free pass to treat you that way. I'm sorry, I know it won't be easy, but I would not let her visit you during what should be a special time forming your new family.
**** Formerly Snoflakes4eva****