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RANT : unwanted opinions

madisenannemadisenanne member
edited October 2015 in October 2015 Moms
SO the other day I was talking to my dad. He wasn't really a part of my life until about a year ago and we've been "reconnecting". Honestly I don't know why I even talk to the man any more considering the first words out of his mouth when I announced we were expecting were "honestly, I think you should get an abortion" !!!!!!!!!! WHO EVEN SAYS SOMETHING LIKE THAT. so me being the nice person that I am have tried to continue getting to know the guy. This week he called to check in and see how things are going. While we were taking he asked if we had decided on a name. I told him yep, but didn't willing offer up the name because I anticipated him having an opinion I wouldn't care to hear. He asked what it was so I ended up telling him we chose Penelope Rain, Poppy for the nickname. He told me how he really liked the first name but we should reconsider the middle name. Annoying response, but all in all not that bad right? WELL about two hours later he texts me and says that we HAVE to change the middle name because it just sounds like a stripper name!!!!! The flipping nerve of this guy!!! Like, Hey can you please not sexualize my unborn child you prick?!? I never responded to him, but it's been really bothering me so I had to vent. Has anyone else had people share their unwanted opinions like you're supposed to care?
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  • myxunyamaexiongmyxunyamaexiong member
    The name is beautiful! It is wrong what he said! As long as you like it, and it does NOT sound like a stripper name!
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  • shantyraeshantyrae member
    Yes! Everywhere I go we get unsolicited advice. We just got back from REI where the cashier was outraged that we don't have a birth plan - and proceeded to tell us how their's fell apart and everything went wrong (after we told him we are due in 6 days). Who does that?
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  • CCasey2015CCasey2015 member
    whitemn04 said:

    I had an ex drug addict tell me I shouldn't drink the diet soda I was enjoying as its bad for the baby with all that crap in it. I simply said this soda won't get my child taken away from me like that meth took your teeth... Bitch!

    LMAO!!!! I can't stop laughing! Thank you for my Saturday laugh!!! "Like the meth took away your teeth"!!! I love it! I hate all the unwanted advice people feel the need to give you while you're pregnant.
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  • mommav83mommav83 member
    whitemn04 said:

    I had an ex drug addict tell me I shouldn't drink the diet soda I was enjoying as its bad for the baby with all that crap in it. I simply said this soda won't get my child taken away from me like that meth took your teeth... Bitch!

    That response is hilarious and I'm not sorry for laughing.

    I get all sorts of stupid advice especially bc I'm a scheduled c-section. It was never really a choice so it's aggravating that anyone thinks they can have an opinion.
    Btw your dad is a jerk and I would ignore him.

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  • tbasinskitbasinski member
    This is exactly why we haven't told anyone the names we like. People and their opinions. For the record, my younger daughters middle name is Rayne.
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  • TBar1589TBar1589 member
    Your baby, your decision. If you wanted anyone else's advice, you would have asked. I would ignore him and hope he doesn't bring it up again. If he does, I would say "thanks for your opinion, I'll think about it".
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  • satori15satori15 member
    I told my MIL we don't want our daughters nickname to be Tori- we prefer Sadie and she said, "Well, at some point she'll go by Tori." *facepalm*
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  • shantyraeshantyrae member
    @whitemn04 OMG so funny... I just WISH I could tell people what I really think about their advice!
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  • angela_angelangela_angel member
    Ha ha! Thanks for the laugh during this thread!!!!
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  • samisargentsamisargent member
    We chose Rain for the middle name too. We get told its a hippie name. But I don't care, that's not why we chose the name. It's easy for me to just brush off people's opinions. Most people, including family, know that if they tell me their opinion and I don't like it, I will ignore it. You did a good thing to ignore your dad's opinion and say in your child's name especially if he hasn't been in your life for very long. 

    My dad has been in and out of my life, we don't have much of a connection. In fact, I've talked to him 3 times since I got pregnant, one being when I told him we were expecting. His response was "I have a lot of questions to ask". To which I responded, "I'll answer any question that isn't judgemental or opinionated." I knew he'd ask, well when are you getting married then... He must have been wanting to ask stupid questions because he never did ask me anything. 
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  • jlr822jlr822 member
    The name rain is beautiful I have some of the same issues because I want my sons middle name storm
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  • Vallejomama3Vallejomama3 member
    My mother has had something to aha about what we are naming our son as if it's her decision! She thinks she has to have control over things! We are naming him Joaquin Jacob, she text me the other night and said I was thinking this little one needs a name to be proud of and offered up my great grandfathers name which is like 3 names, I loved him so much but I'm not naming my son after him. I just found it rude but didn't respond because honestly I don't want to fight!
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  • samisargentsamisargent member
    jlr822 said:
    The name rain is beautiful I have some of the same issues because I want my sons middle name storm
    We too wanted Storm for the middle name if we were having a boy. 
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  • babykitcatbabykitcat member
    Rain spelled Rayne was a consideration for me too. Definitely not a stripper name!!! =;
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  • jmere960jmere960 member
    Exactly why we aren't telling anyone the name prior. Too many people have an opinion!
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  • kirsty100kirsty100 member
    Went to my mil yesterday had to grab a few things, she asked if there was any updates on the baby and if the due dates the same still the 20th, first things first im not due till the 31st and it hasn't changed and secondly how many time do I need to tell her where due on the 31st, then she cracked it and stormed off who knows why. I'm over being harnessed
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