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Can't cut the cord...

nataliemarie02nataliemarie02 member
in July 2015 Moms
My little one is 9 weeks old and is still in bed with us. (I know all the pros and cons to cosleeping as well as any risks) Just need some support. I want transition her to the cradle in our room but I can't bring myself to do it. It's definitely harder for me than her. My issue is this impeding fear of SIDS. My older brother almost died of SIDS so my family is overly cautious about it esp my mom. I feel I'm more afraid of it than I should be because of what happened. My mom just thought to check on him randomly in the middle of the night and he was blue and not breathing. I'm an extremely light sleeper and I've woken up to her next to me taking a huge breath after not breaking for a while (I know that's normal) but I fear if she's not right next to me I won't catch it. She will still be in our room so idk why it's so hard for me. I know it's totally dumb; it's just so hard for me to just cut the cord on this one. Anyone else understand?
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  • kbrown2385kbrown2385 member
    When we were transitioning to the crib the pedi told us to pick a day and just do it. Dr didn't have an issue and we all slept really well. If you are worried about sids have you considered a Snuza?
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  • AziaNickAziaNick member
    I get it. I stopped breathing a view times and went into cardiac arrest because of asthma. My family and I have cardiovascular and pulmonary issues where breathing can be a work out. So I worry about our daughter having a hard time breathing and I am worried that by the time we get there she will be gone. We took a first aid and cpr class for babies so that comforted us a little bit. Baby monitor, not putting anything in the crib and also checking in on her has helped ease our mind :) it's a normal fear and from what you guys have experienced I'm not surprised you have that fear. Find things that you can do to ease your mind :) talk with other parents that maybe have dealt with the same situation. Don't worry, it will work out :D
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  • ToAoSheshaToAoShesha member
    Hugs, if you are not ready don't do it. When you both are ready it will happen. No one goes off to college still sleeping in their parents beds.

    If you want to work on the transition try starting during a MOTN waking or nap so it's not all night or a long period of time.
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  • dolly0132dolly0132 member
    edited October 2015
    I am the same and ended up getting one of these baby pods to co-sleep.

    I am now thinking about getting one of those cribs that attaches to the bed for the next step.
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  • Melis222Melis222 member
    The pp idea is great, get one that attaches to your bed. Keep LO with you as long as you want. I don't know if you're a FTM but it goes so fast! I feel like my son was just an infant and we had him in our bed using a snuggle nest because he was happiest there. Well I blinked and he's 6. My DD likes the rock and play due to her reflux. Not sure when I will move her to the crib. It is a scary thought to have her in another room.
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  • oneblessedmessoneblessedmess member
    Look into the Snuza monitor, it attaches to baby's diaper and will sound an alarm if it doesn't detect movement/breathing.
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  • jessieR358jessieR358 member
    Doesn't sound dumb at all after hearing what your mom went through with your brother. I would be overly anxious as well. I'm already anxious and don't have an experience like that. I agree that if you want to transition just pick a day. You will still hear every little cough, grunt, movement with LO right next to your bed. I would keep him in your room as long as you want to keep your anxiety down.
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  • qtjo5qtjo5 member
    My LO will sleep either with me in the bed or in the pack and play a step out of bed for me. It sounds crazy but I am not ready for him to go to his room where his crib is. His room/crib is maybe 5 steps from me getting out of bed, but I am most comfortable with him near me so I can check on him in the MOTN. I don't know when I will be ready for him to go to the crib. I am not rushing it, that's for sure.
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  • jrbcoug11jrbcoug11 member
    We have a baby monitor that measures babies movement/breathing. If he stops breathing for more than 15 seconds it blares through the monitor and the unit in the babies bedroom. You should consider getting one of those. We got one from my in laws and I'm not even worried about SIDS. It's a great monitor.
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  • kristyn831kristyn831 member
    edited October 2015
    LO goes back and forth between the Rock n Play and the bed. He's still nursing every 2 hours and it got exhausting to get up. I put him down in his RnP and when he wakes up to nurse, bring him in bed and fall asleep. Next time he wakes, I get up to nurse and change him and he goes back in the RnP, then repeat.

    Maybe you could split up the night like that until he's eventually in his own bed in your room.


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  • jessygirl1988jessygirl1988 member
    My husband is a sound sleeper, he nearly rolled over on top of the little one.. and that was the end of that. (co sleeping) we had a bassinet in the room at a point and time, 
    but we couldn't get him used to it, it took us forever. 
    finally we got him sleeping in that, but that only lasted 3 weeks before i wanted our room back.
    so one night we set up the baby monitor in his room and he's been in it ever since.
    Honestly you just need to pick a day, i was more accepting of it then my husband.


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  • klirwin82klirwin82 member
    Our LO is now 3 months and my husband wants him in the crib but I'm in no rush. He's in a bassinet next to our bed right now. I like our little family all sleeping in one room and I feel like it's kinda early to transition him cause he's on the small side, he's probably not quite 12 lbs yet. Maybe by 5 months. I'm sure my DH wants to move him to get some loving but I'm not into that right now and sleep better with babykins close by. DH will have to wait...*told him* we should've done it when I was 30 wks and horny but he didn't want to soooo he made his bed and now he has to lay in it ;)
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  • jerseygirl227jerseygirl227 member
    I also would recommend the Snuza alarm,  I got one for our LO and I feel so much better at night.  

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  • emfolstademfolstad member
    I agree with what someone else said  - if you're not ready, why push it?  They are only babies for such a short time, as long as you and your husband are in agreement, keep your LO in with you as long as you want. 
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  • CkorinesCkorines member
    My older daughter is 4 years old and I'm still not ready. I love her midnight snuggles. She will figure it out before college. It doesn't stress me out.
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  • corndogrobotcorndogrobot member
    Our 4 year old just moved to his bed. And I miss him.
    Love co sleeping and waking up to baby smiles.
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  • CkorinesCkorines member
    We had an issue with cosleeping because our daughter go so big. No naturally, like any rational parents, my husband bought us a bigger bed.
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