Tying tubes

mgdunn · October 2015

Okay so I've done a little research and discussed with my Dr. But I'm mainly just wanting some opinions and insight from outsiders. Back story - I am only 20 years old, however this is baby number three for hubby and I. I got pregnant with DD when I was 16, we got married & had DD2 at 18 and now are expecting our baby boy at 20.. Yes we are young BUT very happy. Needless to say, I'm not wanting anymore children, definitely not anytime soon. I am graduating college in December with my associates and will be starting full time for my bachelors next August so I will be doing good to balance the three we have. It's been tough on my body and my mind over the last few years & it want to ensure we don't have another one anytime soon. Yes I know there are other preventive methods but obviously those haven't worked very well for us.. I can NEVER remember to take the pill after about three months. My OBGYN suggested an IUD but I've heard several negative things about them. The closer it gets to EDD, the more thought I'm putting into it and I'm just having trouble deciding. I hate to make such a permanate decision at such a young age. Any and all advice (positive advice) is welcome!

chelseagrrl123 · October 2015

depo shot or nuvaring are options, but if those aren't a good fit and if getting your tubes tied is too permanent, perhaps he would be willing to get a vasectomy since it can be reversable.

mamawolf23 · October 2015

Just you saying you don't want a "baby anytime soon" numerous of times is a good reason NOT to get your tubes tied. Its a desicion you can't take back and there is plenty of birth control methods to choose from that aren't permanent. I am 23 and this is my third baby as well I have a 3 year old daughter 17 month old son and expecting another daughter in one week!
I am 100% on my decision to get my tubes tied and it was a hard choice to make because I am so young as well but I know my family is officially complete once she makes her debut. This will also be my third c section so a lot of my decision came from a medical perspective, if my babies were vaginal deliveries I think my decision would be much harder to make because I am so young and don't know what I'd want once I am older

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maiatene · October 2015

If you are on the fence, regardless of your age, I would suggest not getting the procedure done. Tubal ligation is such a permanent solution I would hate for you to wake up one day and decide maybe one more kid isn't a bad thing. I would suggest long term birth control that you don't have to think about daily like depo, nuvaring, or an iud until you are 110% sure you are done. Or hubby can have a vasectomy... reversal isn't always 100% guaranteed but your chances are better than a tubal reversal. Good luck with your decision :-)

shineysasha · October 2015

Maybe get the bar that they put in your arm for three years? Or even see your doctor or family planning centre to discuss long term alternatives. I would say not to get your tubes tied, because you are young... It is a big choice that you dont want to live to regret, especially since you are on the fence! Good luck with your decision x

tfk0912 · October 2015

I had three kids by 26 so I thought my family was complete as well and I was so positive I would not want anymore.. So I got a tubal well things changed down the line and I wanted to have another baby and I am currently pregnant due in a few weeks but tubal reversal was not an option because my tubes are to short so had to go through several rounds of ivf.. I think you should really think of something different to prevent pregnancy because you never know what will happen down the road.. Just a suggestion and wish someone would have told me .. Ivf is very expensive and insurance will not cover if you have a tubal.

midge519 · October 2015

I recommend the nexplanon. I had the implanon (I believe it's just a name change but still the same product). It goes in your arm and lasts for three years. It was absolutely amazing and was breastfeeding safe if that's something you need/want.

jsliko · October 2015

Def talk to Dr about other methods of bc! I had an IUD for 4 years (mirena) and had no problems. The year before I got my IUD, I really thought I never wanted kids (and I was in my 30s by this point). Today I am 2 days from my edd for my very much planned and wanted dd.

My point being that a lot can change over time, and there are other methods of bc that are safe, effective, and not permanent besides the pill.

Knottie16832459 · October 2015

These are just my experiences so don't take it as a rule of thumb or anything, but crap happens on BC. I have endometriosis and take my BC orally all the time, no placebos, as management for the pain. I have for 15 years, in fact the likelihood of me becoming pregnant was so low my gyno suggested a procedure that would send me into early meno just to be done with the BC. I declined since I was only 25 at the time. Then, years later I pop up with a tough cookie of a baby that made it past all that. My neighbor got pregnant on oral BC so she got the patch because her DH insisted she missed her dosage. While wearing a patch, she pops up pregnant again. Can I kick it old school for a sec and just suggest wrapping it in addition to a temporary BC method? Lol. No judgement please, I just think that most methods are flawed and sometimes it's better to take extra precaution than try and find "the perfect BC" which can vary so much by the person. The depo shot made me gain 30lbs in 2 months, FYI. It's not a rule, but a side effect I heard was common. My co-worker who is a Fertile Myrtle swears by her IUD, though. A lot of info, sorry, but I hope it helps.

agrhicks · October 2015

I had "the rod" (implanon) in my arm. It lowered my sex drive and I gained a little weight but I did not get pregnant. My SO and I did not use any other means of protection either. I had it removed in July of 2014 and still did not use protection at all and did not get pregnant until the end of January.

Littlehummingbird · October 2015

I had the mirena IUD for over four years and loved it. It was nice not to worry about taking BC everyday. I'm getting one again a few weeks after delivery. I would suggest not doing anything permanent, but finding something that is less prone to human error.