- Pregnancy
- Baby & Toddler
- Parents
- Getting Pregnant
- Baby Names
- Product Reviews
-
Registry
- Community
-
More
Want a personalized experience?
Download the free app
August 2015 Moms
tfdotgov
member
Does anyone else hate their inlaws? ~RANT~
tfdotgov
member
I cannot stand mine. We went over to their house Sunday because my BIL and family are in town visiting and they were having a dinner. There wasn't a set time to go over there we were just going to head over early afternoon. We get there and my husband asks how MIL is doing and she says she is pissed that we were late... uhh... we have a new baby.... even if there was a set time I would have to move around the baby's schedule... she is breastfed so I cant just feed her on the 45 min drive to their house... I have to plan around her. We got no sleep the night before, LO was having a rough time staying asleep so when she finally did sleep SO DID WE!!! We needed it!!! I find it rude of MIL to be acting so ridiculous.... fuck off! We have a newborn... did you forget how hard it was to learn a little human??? My FIL gives me the fucking creeps too.. he always makes comments about how beautiful my baby is and how he hopes she has beautiful dark eyes and hair like me.... constantly making comments on her looks, yet our niece (8mo old) got no comments on being cute or beautiful... and the whole visit he was glued to me and my baby... his son and grandkids came to visit too... FROM A DIFFERENT STATE.... we see them once a year!! And FIL had never met my baby niece.... spend time with them!! Get out of my face!! They bought a lot of baby stuff for their house for when they babysit.... little do they know im not driving 45 min to their house for them to babysit, that's silly. And when they were giving me a tour of "the babies room" my FIL had to go into extreme detail on the pack and play, what its for... why they got it... why its convenient... like I had no idea what it was... everytime he tries to conversate with me I cringe because its always about baby stuff and he talks to me like I know nothing... it is incredibly annoying. I know im a new mom.... but that doesnt mean im new to babies and kids.. I grew up babysitting and have been in my brothers kid's lives since day one... I know what im doing. My SIL is a CPA so i was asking her questions privately about taxes and then it got into LO's insurance and my MIL walks in and says, uhh you need to get insurance for her! And im like no shit!!!! We had met with an insurance agent earlier that week for LO... but I don't care to keep MIL in the loop, and we don't like talking about finances when they are around because they annoy the shit out of us. And they never think that maybe I dont want to constantly talk about baby stuff.... a little is fine.. but my whole visit? I still have things and hobbies in my life that I enjoy... I still have a life outside of my baby... im still me!!
Re: Does anyone else hate their inlaws? ~RANT~
I don't hate mine but I do have a general dislike for them. MIL constantly asks us for money, even now that LO is here. I was really hoping she'd understand the inappropriateness of this once we had a baby. Usually it's just $20 here and there but last week she asked us for $300. DH told her we couldn't and she asked him to dip into our savings! I couldn't believe that she'd ask such a thing of him. Luckily he said no to that as well! I have a small amount of sympathy for her because she's basically the sole bread winner between her and FIL. He's a "contractor" who can never find steady work.
She also is incredibly dramatic. Friday she texted my husband and his two brothers at 6 in the morning to tell them she had plans to go to the hospital that evening because she felt a lump in her armpit and was positive she had cancer. Turns out she has shingles and the inflammation was bc of the infection. I'm so glad she's okay but I was beyond irritated that she caused my husband to be anxious and worried all day when she didn't even have any concrete information for him to worry about. This is just one of thousands of similar incidents I've witnessed over the past 10 years of our relationship.
She too loves to talk only about baby stuff when we're together but she does it in a way that makes us feel like we have to defend our decisions. And she gives weird advice. Baby girl had some redness on her bottom and she started pushing me to do cloth diapers because Huggies and Pampers are "bad." She also said I need to change her diaper every 2-3 hours, even if it's not dirty. Wtf? Obviously I ignored her crazy ass and the redness went away a couple days later. \m/
Also u will not change my thermostat settings Bc it's just too chilly for a baby. Um he had a fleece sleeper on and a blanket but now he has on a onesie only Bc u think its cute??? Bye lady just bye!
The big problem is FIL definitely reeked of pot the day they came to see her. I tried to talk to DH about it and while we both agree it is unacceptable, he doesn't want to do anything about it. He still thinks I would let them babysit and I don't know how to nicely say hell no! I personally plan to either always arrange other care OR just let them stay uninvolved as per their usual, it may be a non issue.
My family who was there for the whole ordeal doesn't want me to even take her to visit their house...while I can't disagree, I also would have a hard time not taking her to at least visit. But again, we are talking just a few times a year. And she will always be in sight of me.
End rant.
So not only does she want to visit. She is bringing more family AND hubs will be gone. How do I get out of that without seeming like the bad guy. Ughhhh