February 2016 Moms
rainbowminion
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PGAL check-in *discussions of loss*
rainbowminion
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How is everyone doing? Have most of us had our anatomy scans? How did you feel going in? If you got good news, did it help with the anxiety?
Re: PGAL check-in *discussions of loss*
How are you? Have you had your scan? I forget if you know the sex of your baby- let me know. And again, thanks for posting these and the continued check-ins! Hope you are well xo
I had my scan yesterday as well. We are having a lil boy. He measured in at 12 ozs. The ultrasound tech and doctor both said he was measuring fine and in great health. I was 18 weeks 6 days. He didn't want to be active though. He was curled up and hiding behind my belly button and the tech couldn't get him to move at all. He's already being stubborn.
I was excited, nervous, and scared when I went in. When he didn't want to move around, even with being jiggled and pushed, I got scared really bad because I thought something was wrong with him, but the tech and doctor assured me that he was fine.
My EDD is 2/24 but the Dr and tech are talking about me having him on 2/16 as I'm having a c-section.
Personally, I think I was a bit relieved when the Dr told me they won't do a VBAC. I've had 2 vaginal births and one c-section. I felt like the recovery from the c-section was a bit better for me than the vaginal births. But each person is different. I think it mostly depends on what your doctor/midwife/doula and you think and agree on with what would be best.
I hope that helped. :-)
We found out we're having a boy which I'm actually a bit upset about because it's going to make things more difficult emotionally - like going through baby clothes. I don't think I can put this baby in things I associate with the son I lost. And so far my boys have been born around 38 weeks and haven't been strong nursers, have lost weight and had a hard time putting on weight, etc. Plus boys are at a higher risk of SIDS for some reason.
So... Otherwise I'm estactic to be having a little boy, it's just that it increases my anxiety for a variety of reasons.
An elective csection crossed my mind (glad I'm not the only one!)- my first was a c section so I'd actually be allowed- but I've had 2 VBACs and I'd like to continue with that. I prefer vaginal birth and we want to have more kids so that's safest in the long run for me. And I'll personally have less anxiety if baby stays in as long as possible to keep developing.
We may need to have more frequent check in's as we all get closer to the end!
I lost twins who were boys too. I try to think that this little guy has two brothers in heaven looking out for him.
@SarahS06 that's all awful. I'm so sorry! I hope your OB either comes to her senses or you can find another one who actually knows how to deal with the condition--especially since it seems like a properly timed c section will greatly improve the outcome/reduce the risk to the baby. I very rarely advocate raising hell, but I think it's more than justified in your situation. I'll be thinking of you tomorrow--please keep us posted.
The A/S, i was sooo nervous. SOs mom was with us, i felt really bad saying no to her because she's out of this world excited, and she doesn't know about our previous loss. We have a hb doppler so i knew everything was fine in that sense going into the a/s.
It's a girl!!
According to our midwife, baby girl is measuring a little small, which of course opens a whole new can of worry... baby is in the 24th percentile and at 19w4d she was 10oz.
My hopes are getting higher, but there's still that thought and worry always lurking in the back of my mind. I don't think it will ever ever go away.
And eff your coworker. Seems like a DB. easier said than done I know, but try to avoid him or not let him get to you.
Re: elective c-section, I don't know a whole lot of moms who lost their babies during delivery. Most of the loss moms I know never got that far, so it hadn't actually crossed my mind. I think I'd like to deliver vaginally but it's too early to say that's what I'll do for sure. While c-sections can be planned in advance and are therefore somewhat more controlled, there are still so many unknowns (as with any pregnancy/delivery, and because I'm a FTM) that I'm not sure there's a clear benefit to having one myself. I think whatever you feel most comfortable with will probably be the right choice!
@SarahS06 I'm sorry you're going through all that stress! I hope you're able to find a doctor you like and trust. I don't have any experience with vasa previa, but from the little bit of reading I did, it seems like most physicians have a standard procedure for monitoring and delivery. I'm hopeful that you are able to find a doctor with lots of experience managing and delivering vasa previa cases. Please don't lose hope! We're all here for support
I know it's stressful finding a new OB. I had to do it with my first in the 3rd trimester. Just remember that once you've got one that you like and trust, all that work is so worth it!
I hope your appointment goes well today despite expectations. I did some reading online about vasa previa and it sounds scary. BUT the survival rate is 97% (according to one source) with a c section before labor starts, and there's no issues with the baby's growth before labor, so that's very encouraging!
I know what you mean though about people saying "it'll be ok"... That doesn't address your worries.
I hope you find a doctor that has a good, solid plan to get baby through this.
If I were you I'd text your friend and ask that she stop mentioning her runs so much while you're pregnant. "Please stop telling me about these awesome runs! It's more of a reminder of what I'm missing out on" or something like that. I'm sure she'll understand and maybe realize you need some more support.
As for work, I'd ask the guy to stop with the comments as well - maybe he's totally clueless and that's all it'll take to make him realize he's being a jerk- or go straight to your manager or HR. It's not acceptable for him to say those things.
@rainbowminion - I feel you! I never even thought to mention it to anyone and when you brought it up I was like "wow, I'm not crazy!"
The control aspect is what appeals to me too. I actually had a pretty good c section experience (it was a much easier recovery than one vaginal birth and a harder recovery than my other one) which makes it that much more appealing.
I think with previous losses we're more fragile and just desperate to find something stable and controllable.
Unfortunately, I think the reality is that a csection doesn't have less risk for mom and baby, but I bet your doctor wouldn't be surprised to hear you voice your thoughts, and maybe they can help you with your decision.
@SarahS06 - I'm glad your appointment went well. I agree that you need to say something to your insensitive friend and colleague. You are going through enough to not have to deal with that.
I'm glad all of you ladies had great A/Ss! I hope the good news keeps coming!