So let me start off by saying I really do try to put LO in her rock n' play by our bed every night. In the middle of the night, she wakes up to eat and will not go back in it. Most of the time we fall asleep while nursing. We keep our bed safe. No extra blankets or pillows and we have a light weight blanket. I feel like even when we sleep, I'm still aware LO is right next to me. She can make the tiniest noise and I will hear it. If we don't fall asleep nursing, I try to put her back in the RnP but she just screams or will cry until I pick her up and snuggle her. I don't know what to do. Her doctor said cosleeping is way too dangerous and he does not recommended it at all and I should "let her cry it out". My husband has been saying this to me for weeks and once he heard the doctor say that, he harrasses me about it at home. I'm sorry but a 4 week old should not be left to cry it out. I am the one who is up in the middle of the night with her while she is upset and crying and letting her sleep with us is just easier. We do swaddle her, use white noise machine, but nothing works...
Re: Husband and doctor against cosleeping
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My husband has never been okay with bed sharing but it saved my mental health tremendously. If done correctly it can be safe and studies done are showing its better for avoiding SIDS. Crying it out...goodness me...especially for a newborn? No way.
Do you have a swing? This is the only way DD1 would fall asleep and we'd just turn it off once she was out and she'd stay. She couldn't sleep lying down until she was about 6 months old.
Good luck!
I could never let my baby girl "cry it out" - us moms are so in tune with our babies that not rushing to them when they need us goes against our every instinct!
One thing I will say is that the best thing to do for us has been to try every possible option, when we run into a roadblock we start brainstorming and asking friends that have kids what options we have and what we could try next and it always seems to work with us. So I would say that you and your husband can team up together and come up with some alternatives and make a list of things that you can try that might satisfy both of you? I hate when me and hubby are at odds about a solution!!
@babs02 yes, I always try to put her in the RnP after she falls asleep, but less than 2 minutes of being it, she screams her head off, but she will sleep like a rock with me :-/
They have a mother-baby sleep lab with loads of research behind their recommendations. We bedshare using those guidelines (EBF, baby between me and a sturdy bed rail).
I personally don't think CIO is necessary (and definitely not for a newborn). We bedshared with DD1, she switched to her own room without sleep training at 8 mo, and puts herself to bed at 2.5yo.
I will definitely try the womb sounds!
I have this! I really didn't want to spend the money either but it has saved my sanity. My LO wouldn't sleep unless he was in bed with us. It made the first nights he was home really terrible for me. But after buying the snuggle nest he sleepers perfectly. I also enjoy being close to him so I can make sure he is okay at night. It really was money well spent!
Also I've heard many bad things about using RnP for sleep so be careful with that.
Crying it out at 4weeks seems crazy to me. Hope you can find a good solution.
Hopefully over time those stretches will be longer and longer. But no crying it out. Hopin to put in the ground work and soon we will have a baby that sleeps on her own. This is so exhausting. I kind of want to cry...