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2nd pregnancy and feeling a bit sad

britabit56britabit56 member
in October 2015 Moms
So my pregnancy is about to end (due oct 5th )and Ive been fine till now but Ive all of a sudden I feel a bit sad that these are the last few days that i have to be a mommy of just one baby. I have a 15 month old and shes awesome. She has been as perfect as they come as a first baby and I already know that she will be the greatest big sister. I just almost feel guilty since she really has no idea what's going on and then there will be a new baby.
Also for the fact that this pregnancy has gone by so fast since my oldest was only 7 months old when we found out. I feel like I really haven't given the attention to this bump as I did in my first and now it's ending. Ugh ready for all the emotional fits to go away.
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  • chrishayekchrishayek member
    My first will be 14 months when our baby is due so I know the feeling. I have lots of guilt and I've been apologizing to him.... I just feel bad that he won't know what hit him when the baby arrives.

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  • LiveNLove44LiveNLove44 member
    Over the summer I had a very similar feeling with regard to my own DD. I held her and cried about it for awhile! I don't know why it hit me like that, nor do I think I could explain it now, but I do think it's pretty normal. Hold your DD and love her, but know that seeing her become a big sister will be amazing, too!
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  • CocoR04CocoR04 member
    I'm in the same boat, but my DS is 2.5. Even though I'm super emotional about changing his life so much when he's already so attached to mommy, I think about the gift I'm giving him in a sibling. Sounds sappy, I know. i never had a sibling around my age, so I'm excited for him!! But sad, too. Crazy pregnancy hormones.
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  • silly514silly514 member
    AGMeeks said:

    I felt the same way when I went from 1 to 2, but I was completely surprised by the fact that, once the new baby arrived, there was so much love between the siblings, it more than made up for the loss of attention from mom and dad, for both of them. You won't ever be able to give the same kind of attention to either child that you gave your first before there were siblings, but everyone will have another entire person to love and be loved by. The best is when the little one is not a newborn anymore and you realize you are standing at the sink and they are playing together, alone, on the floor for a few minutes. It's magic.

    I cannot wait for this. Also super emotional lately about all the changes coming for my 2yo dd.....


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  • nbpa3027nbpa3027 member
    AGMeeks said:

    I felt the same way when I went from 1 to 2, but I was completely surprised by the fact that, once the new baby arrived, there was so much love between the siblings, it more than made up for the loss of attention from mom and dad, for both of them. You won't ever be able to give the same kind of attention to either child that you gave your first before there were siblings, but everyone will have another entire person to love and be loved by. The best is when the little one is not a newborn anymore and you realize you are standing at the sink and they are playing together, alone, on the floor for a few minutes. It's magic.

    So much this! My 2nare 23 months apart and I had a lot of guilt at first that he wasn't going to be getting the attention that he would if he were the only one. I still feel guilty sometimes about having to divide time. Are things different? Absolutely. I am really glad we had them close together because now that they are 5 & 3 it is amazing when they play together. My daughter is even a little lost sometimes when my son is in school and she is home. When they are that little they don't even remember what it was like to be an only child and they adjust pretty quickly. And sometimes I just sit back and watch the mischief unfold, laugh at what they think they are getting away with and remember the amount of fun they are having with each other is better than the attention they missed out on.

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  • britabit56britabit56 member
    edited September 2015
    Thanks ladies, Glad to know that im not the only one. I know that they will be the best of friends, hopefully. I also just found out that im going to be induced this monday so im going to soak up as much only baby lovin as i can. I mean now its real, i mean really really real!!!!
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  • EricaOOEricaOO member
    Feeling the same way.  My girls will be 22 months apart.  I sometimes get really sad that it won't be just the three of us - myself, my husband, and DD.  I don't have much advice to offer as DD2 isn't here yet but know that this is normal, you're definitely not alone!
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    TTC #1 December 2012
    DD born December 2013 
     
    BFP  January 2015
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  • ChariZaeChariZae member
    I felt the same way. My first two are 15mos apart and I felt guilty for not giving my second pregnancy, and truthfully my second daughter, the same attention her older sister got. But as PP said, seeing them play together, sing together, hearing them whisper to each other at night, etc. melts my heart. My oldest was old enough to recognize the change, but not old enough to miss being an only child. Life with a little sister became her new normal, and she has loved being our big helper. It will be tough in the beginning, but as your youngest gets mobile and vocal, their relationship will blossom and you will enjoy watching them grow together. Good luck!
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