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babymakes8ofusbabymakes8ofus member
in February 2016 Moms
any one else fighting a lot with there spouse. I know I'm hormonal but holy hell. I love him dearly ..I do ..but he can be such an insensitive #%&$. I just find everything about him just pisses me off. To make things worse his family came from Georgia down for a visit August 22 to be exact and they are still here. I have 5 kids and work full time. I have to be up at 4 am. They sleep all day up all night. Lights on tv on and my bedroom is right next to the living room . On top of the struggles of pregnancy trying to sleep. I already have trouble sleeping. Any little noise will wake me up and I can't go back to sleep. I just think if you are in someone's house you need to be respectful and be quiet and go to bed at a decent hour knowing i have to be up early. His dad is so picky when it comes to food. Can't have onions. Needs sauce blah blah.. and I will work come home cook and the food I served them will sit on counter all day and night and not be eaten. Isn't that rude or is it just me ? And then I say something to him because I will not disrespect my inlaws. I'm the wrong one and I'm going to make them feel uncomfortable ?? REALLY? Am I going nuts ? Like today my car is in shop so I've been using there car to run errands. I didnt get to go today because they went out. Fine ill pull outs nuggets and carrots for kids and when they get back I'll have to go to store for something for us to eat because fridge is down to bare minimum and I need to get to market. He knew that. I told him more than once. Did he listen ? No he walks in 630 and has food in his hand for himself knowing there is nothing for me to eat because i didnt get to the store ? really ? Is it just me? Should I not be pissed ? Sorry for long vent but I just had to let it out
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  • AchaeAchae member
    I would ask your husband to talk to the "guests" because they are not. I also would not make them food if they are unappreciative. You're working and pregnant with 5 kids, they can fend for themselves. They are adults! If they ask where the food is tell them just that.
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  • slthomp92slthomp92 member
    I wish I could give you a hug. You have every right to be angry.

    I'd have a sit-down talk with him and spell it out. It isn't your job to support that many people alone.
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  • moomeemoomee member
    edited September 2015
    Totally off topic, but NATALIE DEE! :D@Miss Lilac
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  • Lindsaym5!Lindsaym5! member
    You poor woman! They sound like absolute terrible houseguests and your husband is not helping. If my husband got dinner for himself and not me I would be livid! And they should be having dinner ready for you when you get home. You need to get them out of there any way you can. I'm so sorry!
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  • babymakes8ofusbabymakes8ofus member
    We have been together since I was 15 and he was 18. We got married at 20 and 23 and had our first at 22 and 25. I'm 34 he is 37 so it's hard to just tell his family about these things. I don't even call my in laws by there name. I did tell him and again I'm rude and that would make them feel uncomfortable. He says so what if there here 2 months it's not forever @-) really !! Moments like this makes me just want to give up thanks for listening ladies it's kind of lonely when you have no one to talk to
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  • moomeemoomee member
    babymakes8ofus said:
    We have been together since I was 15 and he was 18. We got married at 20 and 23 and had our first at 22 and 25. I'm 34 he is 37 so it's hard to just tell his family about these things. I don't even call my in laws by there name. I did tell him and again I'm rude and that would make them feel uncomfortable. He says so what if there here 2 months it's not forever @-) really !! Moments like this makes me just want to give up thanks for listening ladies it's kind of lonely when you have no one to talk to
    I'm sorry he reacted that way. They're in your home and they've obviously overstayed their welcome. You need your rest and they all need to understand that. That's just really inconsiderate of them.
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  • ohbaby714ohbaby714 member
    Yep, I'd say they definitely have overstayed their welcome and it's time for them to go home. Maybe make your husband cater to them and see if that changes his mind. You have every right to be upset!

    PS- no, you are not the only one who is fighting with your spouse. My husband is the "picky" type and recently it's been driving me crazy! He will say something and I KNOW he is joking but it just sets me off. Then he blames the hormones and that just pisses me off more. Hang in there! Good luck getting rid of your house pests... I mean guests ;)
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  • DaisyTortillaDaisyTortilla member
    I would be very angry and vocal. When my FIL came over for 10 days I was going insane after 3 days. I just can't! I need my space! So sorry you are going through that, hope you get relief soon!

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  • tooba22tooba22 member
    I had house guest once... Got rid of every extra bed, pillow and blanket in my house after. Also told friends and family due to the lack of respect from other house guest we won't be planning on having anymore. Turned the guest room into an office and the other guest room will be baby's nursery.
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  • 4N6s4N6s member
    They have overstayed their welcome!!
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  • rachrobertsonrachrobertson member
    Definitely overstayed their welcome! They need to be pitching in for groceries if they have been there that long. You are not alone. My husband literally does nothing around the house. I asked him to go through his closet and get rid of anything that doesn't fit or he doesn't wear anymore. I needed the space and more hangers so I could hang up all of HIS clothes I picked up off our bedroom floor and washed. What does he do? After the tenth time asking, he finally goes and grab some hangers and throws them in a messy pile on top of the laundry needing to be folded. Seriously?! Our yard has not been mowed since end of July because he refuses to mow. I usually mow, but after one loss and some scary bleeding this pregnancy, I don't think I should have to ask him to push mow our yard. I asked him again last week and he said it would be winter soon so it didn't matter if it was mowed. So selfish and so lazy.
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  • chelenwhisarbochelenwhisarbo member
    I would be very irritated as well. They could help. They could cook. But my mom had to deal with this but it was only 2 weeks. They expected her to take care of their kids too. It was my dads brother and his wife. I wouldnt cook for them if they wont eat it. Why waste food? Im sorry you have to deal with it. We live with my husbands dad. I just grin and bear it. But i cant stand him. He eats alot and drinks alot since hes always home. And before he bought his own toilet paper u wuld go through a roll a day for 3 people he used more then me. But if i dont get over it im the bad guy. Just what women seem to face to make their husbands and his family happy. My dad may not be the best to be around but he sure helps buy for our baby and we dont live with him. Hopefully theyll leave soon so u can get some peace. Just realize they been there a month. Yea time to look for u and kids a hotel and have ur own vacation :) maybe a pool in ur life !


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  • glitteryantglitteryant member
    WTF they sound totally inconsiderate. Sorry you're dealing with that and I'm seriously impressed you've held it together this long.
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  • g8trkimg8trkim member
    Who stays for a month? Don't they have jobs and responsibilities at home? Sorry you're dealing with this. It's not you... it's them! Anyone would be cranky after having visitors for that long.




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  • bbax44bbax44 member
    Yes, definitely overstayed their welcome.
    SO's step mom, she's been in his life since he was 8. She told me the other day that she's planning on taking 2 weeks off to help us after birth. I'm gonna make him tell her no. I just can't. I don't want a guest in my house that long, i don't even want my own mother staying, much less his. So we'll just see how that conversation goes. She also wants to be in the birthing room with us, i don't want anyone but SO with me. So, she's gonna be a disappointed grandma.
    Sorry not sorry?
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  • CentralmnmomCentralmnmom member

    Yes they have definitely overstayed their welcome.  Time for them to go home. 

    No you are definitely not the only one fighting with there husband.  We are fighting/arguing once a week to every other week. H's dad committed suicide in March and it has been a very stressful pregnancy with H.  He's such a worrier and freaks himself out about everything that I'm going to be so hormonal and he's not going to be able to handle it.  We went to visit one of his friends that just had a baby, now he's refusing to go see anybody else that has a baby until after ours is born because it freaks him out.

    **sorry to hijack your post, just needed to vent a little myself**

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  • Katty422Katty422 member
    That is a way to looooooonnnnnngggg stay!
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  • cvolkmarcvolkmar member
    You're a much nicer person than I am.
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  • babymakes8ofusbabymakes8ofus member
    Thanks guys for listening. I just want my space back. I am a very routine person if that makes sense. I have to be with five kids. And it just throws me off having them there. I am trying really hard because kids and hubby are enjoying them but I know they hear me bitching to him. Just say a prayer for me lol. Hopefully by November they will be gone because they plan on going to the islands for a couple of weeks. And added bonus my mom is coming this Saturday to visit for the weekend as well. So it will be interesting. I love my mother dearly but she drives me nuts. Oh gotta love family.
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  • hlmdeckhlmdeck member
    Cooking for two extra people for a month is expensive... especially when they don't eat it! I hope they are pitching in in some way..
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  • babymakes8ofusbabymakes8ofus member
    edited September 2015
    @hlmdeck It's actually 3 people my sister in law is here as well. 28 yr old lawyer goes where ever mom and dad go lol that's another story. It's expensive as is with the five kids So I told my husband this weekend ,listen money is tight because being pregnant I physically can't do my 16 hr OT shift. So they have to help with groceries. They bought meat and fruit and things here and there. Also since again I don't have a boyfriend at electric company and since they have been here it's gone up around 50 buck I told him to ask them to help pay. So they did that as well. I feel bad but it's hard enough with us here. My husband is upset because he doesn't think we should ask them for help. But I feel they are raising my bills being here they should help . I don't even want to know what the water bill is going to look like .
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    babymakes8ofus said:
    @hlmdeck It's actually 3 people my sister in law is here as well. 28 yr old lawyer goes where ever mom and dad go lol that's another story. It's expensive as is with the five kids So I told my husband this weekend ,listen money is tight because being pregnant I physically can't do my 16 hr OT shift. So they have to help with groceries. They bought meat and fruit and things here and there. Also since again I don't have a boyfriend at electric company and since they have been here it's gone up around 50 buck I told him to ask them to help pay. So they did that as well. I feel bad but it's hard enough with us here. My husband is upset because he doesn't think we should ask them for help. But I feel they are raising my bills being here they should help . I don't even want to know what the water bill is going to look like .
    They should absolutely chip in for 3 people! A week or two is a house guest, any more than that and you are becoming a free restaurant/hotel. Good for you for standing up for yourself.
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