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Bringing Sexy Back?

mltarriomltarrio member
in December 2015 Moms
Ok ladies, I need some help. My husband and I have been keeping things pretty sexy throughout my pregnancy, and pretty regular in terms of frequency, (several times a week). At first he was a little weird about hurting the baby and stuff, and but we got over it, and for me anyway pregnant sex has been VERY good and VERY sexy........

..... Until now. It's like we hit the third trimester, and there is just nothing. We are working to have sex once a week, and it is not great. I feel gross. I am so huge and bloated and gassy and tired, I just don't feel up to it by the end of the day, and he doesn't seem super interested, which makes me feel worse about how gross I am. I know I am not sexy right now, but any ideas on how to bring the sexy back? 

I should also say that part of this is wearing on me because it feels like I am losing some part of myself that I wasn't prepared for. I have always been comfortable in my body, and over the course of the 14+ years we have been together my husband has always made me feel sexy. And now I am uncomfortable in my own skin, and I don't feel sexy at all, and not having that time close to my husband is making me feel like our connection is not as good as it used to be. Is this what being a Mom is like, or will I recover? How do you stay close to your partner after the baby is born and there is a long mandatory sex shut-down? Anyone else feeling this way, or know how to get the sexy back? 
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Re: Bringing Sexy Back?

  • Mizuiro007Mizuiro007 member
    Honestly, what works for hubby and I is just to lay in bed together and snuggle without any expectations, just a mutual desire to be close. Sometimes there aren't clothes involved and that skin-on-skin can feel very intimate and sensual. Sometimes it goes somewhere and sometimes it doesn't but it keeps me from feeling like we're losing that closeness. Mostly I just find trying to make things happen can be a mood killer and it's better to just relax and let things happen if they will.

    If they don't happen right away, relax. Once I got past the healing, I was feeling much better postpartum and sex for us became pretty frequent again.
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