My dad died :( worried about stress on baby

Knottie70261981 · September 2015

I'm 36 weeks pregnant, Gestional diabetes positive (but well controlled by diet) and my dad passed away unexpectedly Wednesday. It's been such a difficult time and while I've been trying so hard to keep my emotions in check for my little guy I of course haven't been able too. I've been in touch with my ob just to let them know but I'm worried about the effect all this stress can have on my little guy. I was already measuring a week ahead and my daughter as born a week early. Just wasn't sure if anyone had any recommendations. I have a long few days ahead of me with visitation Sunday and funeral Monday

Cupcakesandquilts · September 2015

I'm so sorry for your loss. Just be good to yourself. Stress is unavoidable in this situation and being hard on yourself because you're stressed will only make it worse. Your baby will be fine.

candicequeen · September 2015

I'm so sorry. Focus on celebrating your dad's life. Baby is going to be fine and will carry on part of who your father was.

SweetnSassy23 · September 2015

I am sorry about your dad. Grieve as you need to. Eat and drink when you can and try to take good care of yourself. This is a lot to handle but baby should be okay.

wildbutterfli2001 · September 2015

I'm so sorry for your loss. Allow yourself to grieve momma, your baby is pretty resilient and you may be doing yourself more harm than Good trying to keep it in check.

gerbies · September 2015

I know exactly what you are going through. My dad passed away unexpectedly just 11 days ago when I hit 37 weeks. It's incredibly stressful. I have found that just allowing myself to grieve whenever it comes and how it comes is helpful. Unfortunately, I live 3,000 miles from my parents and cannot travel to the services. I have found helping to coordinate the service...finding pictures, helping to draft the obituary and eulogy has been cathartic. You are at a good place in your pregnancy. Just try and take it easy. I was able to take bereavement time last week from work and then my doctor signed me out from work as of this past Monday. Taking work off my plate has helped with stress. I try to find comfort in the fact that my little baby will have the best guardian angel his entire life. Sending you prayers of comfort at this difficult time.

violetgin · September 2015

I have no insightful advice to offer, but I wanted to offer my condolences for the loss of your father. I can only imagine this must be a very stressful time for, but you need to be allowed your time to grieve. Baby will be okay, wishing you the best.

LLynde5 · September 2015

So sorry for your loss.

NDimanov · September 2015

I'm so sorry

I lost my father when my daughter was only 10 months old and there was no comparing that pain to anything else. Just take one day at a time. It would be easy to tell you not to stress out, but that would not be realistic. Like another poster said, let yourself grieve. Take things slow and rely on the people in your support system to help out even more right now. The baby I am sure will be fine. Take comfort in that little one growing stronger every day in your tummy and know that your father is watching over both of you. *hugs*

tate62610 · September 2015

I'm so so sorry for your loss. That is so heartbreaking

I'm no doctor but I think what I would do is still allow yourself to grieve. I would think it'd be more stress on the baby trying to keep it all in rather than just letting it happen. But, make sure you are still eating and drinking plenty of water and take deep breaths often. I wish I had better advice for you. I'll definitely be thinking about you.

angela_angel · September 2015

Aw, I'm so sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself Mama, and take some comfort that your new little one will have a special angel watching over him/her. ((Hugs))

KLopez33 · September 2015

I am sorry for your loss. Praying for you, your family and your little one.

AmyB421 · September 2015

First: I am so sorry for your loss. I will be praying for you and your family

Second: I actually had this conversation with my Dr on Thursday as I found out on weds my best friend has terminal cancer. My dr said at this point in pregnancy the baby should be fine. She said its ok to grieve and be upset because holding it all in is usually more stressful for your body. So let yourself grieve however you need to, it's part of taking care of yourself.

Again I'm so sorry for your loss.

meghan82 · September 2015

i am so sorry for your loss! i am 39 weeks and my uncle passed unexpectedly last week. as others have suggested i think it's important to let yourself be upset. i found it very hard to keep my emotions in check and spent two entire days crying, couldn't go to the services because they required traveling so every time i talked/texted with family things got very emotional. i found staying in frequent touch with everyone at home helped a lot. baby will be fine so don't give yourself additional stress by worrying about that. my family and i talked a lot about how we believe my uncle will watch over the baby... and how it is a blessing to have such a happy thing for our family to celebrate after a sudden loss. my heart goes out to you during this difficult time.

cderitz · September 2015

So truly sorry for your loss....

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