Any former one-and-doners here?

AppleRidge · September 2015

Hi! Pregnant with #2 (very unexpectedly) and have a 4.5 year old at home. We're really struggling with this, as we planned all along to be one-and-done. Having a reallly hard time picturing life with two. Anyone in a similar situation?

LPCat · September 2015

Yes! We also have a 4.5 year old at home and finally got to the point where life was easy-ish. The thought of going through the early days/months/years of insanity again is terrifying. Definitely going for the snip/tubal ligation after this one.
At least I know it will get easier again once baby #2 is older. I remember the dark days with baby #1, thinking it would never end, but it did.

You will get your freedom back (a bit, at least), and hopefully baby#1 will be old enough to help a bit!

Lolabug86 · September 2015

Not really an official one-and-doner since we've been going back and forth on having another one for years. However, I am definitely feeling that omghowamigoingtodothisagain panic. We have a 5-year-old daughter. She just started kindergarten. She can feed herself, dress herself, and wipe her own rear end! I'm excited to have a new little one on the way, but holy moly I am going to miss sleeping through the night!!!

AppleRidge · September 2015

Ah, good to hear. We were emphatic about one-and-done. I practically shouted from the rooftops how great it was. We've spent the week since we found out trying to figure out whether to go forward with this or not. Just decided last night to go for it. I'm mourning the loss of opportunities we were looking forward to, mourning the financial freedom of finally being done with paid childcare, terrified of imagining another little person in another bedroom, yet excited about watching my son become a brother. AAAGH.

ProfessorMommy · September 2015

Yes. I have a 6 year old... then I met my current husband.... he has an 11 year old and an 8 year old. But I had said, "one and no more"!!!!

cortney626 · September 2015

My DD is from a previous marriage. So after the divorce I always thought she was it. Then I met my now husband and he had no kids, my daughter wanted a sibling. I felt like our family would be complete having one more. But I struggled with it. Our life is so easy! My DD is 7. I was on the fence for awhile. Do I really want to start over? Ultimately I did and here I am now. But even then when I found out I was pregnant, I got emotional b/c it's been my daughter and I from day one (through a divorce, single parenthood, etc). But I know before too long I will not know what life was like before 2 kids.

countrygrl5533 · September 2015

When we first got married, we said 3, maybe 4. Then after our DD was born, it was a definite 3. Then after my m/c in August I pretty well decided I was done. One is easy. She's easy. Having another means a loss of freedom for awhile, harder to find babysitters (we generally need overnight/weekend babysitters not just for a couple of hours), etc...and I didn't want that. Then surprise! Pregnant again. I'm 99.9% sure this will be it.

laurenmdrn16 · September 2015

All of this! Every single thing!

Seriously I am still in shock/denial and my son is only 2. We were so adamant about one and done. My family is going to be absolutely shocked when they hear we are going to have another. I hate to admit it, but I still have days when I wonder if we should go through with it. I never thought I would feel this way about a potential baby, but my son is so wonderful and I want to be able to give him everything and I know with having another we are going to have to tighten things financially and not do trips etc.

But, the other day, I went to pick him up at daycare and there was a new 6month old baby there. My son's teacher said he spent the whole day with Baby Georgie, reading to him, helping get his bottles, giving him a blankie, etc. I burst out crying right then and there and knew that all the "things" we were giving up couldn't come close to what we are gaining. My wonderfully kind and loving son is going to be the best big brother and he will be better for it.

ktmannix · September 2015

I am in the same exact boat. It is surreal.

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