Just Feeling Down

Baby6kennedy · September 2015

Lately I have been feeling down. I was initially excited about planning a baby shower and the whole pregnancy process but now the feeling is gone. I'm 40 years old, live with my MIL which I can't stomach for much longer and just feel so overwhelmed with everything that needs to be done before the baby comes.

camusoh2011 · September 2015

Sounds like you need a day out. Treat yourself to a little something special, and if money is an issue, maybe just go work on a baby registry or something on your own so you can relax without other people bothering you.

Baby6kennedy · September 2015

Yes I do. I'm on semi bed rest but I think I can get out some.

Baby6kennedy · September 2015

Thank you

purpletulip · September 2015

I imagine being on partial bed rest is partly to blame. I know when I'm stuck at home or not feeling well and stuck in bed it can really get me down.
As simple as it might sound, some things that help me are finding really good books to read or fun shows or movies to watch.

acuteangles · September 2015

I'm so sorry you are feeling down. I imagine you are not alone in your feelings either. Perhaps if you started getting into planning for the baby by creating a Pinterest board or something similar, you would kind of reinvigorate your excitement for the baby. I agree with @purpletulip that partial bed rest may be in part to blame, and that some good TV shows, movies, and books can help. Do you have any baby or pregnancy books or DVDs? They might also help you become more excited about the baby.

CuriousKiddosMama · September 2015

I'm sorry, that sucks. My mil is very nice and it would still drive me completely bonkers to be in bed rest and at their house 24/7 (not sure I'm going to survive a 10 day trip there to be honest).
Get out if you can soon. Even just for coffee or to a movie, doesn't have to be anything that may stress you out.

Baby6kennedy · September 2015

No I don't have any baby or pregnancy books. I love television and now Empire starts tonight I have something to look forward to on Wednesday nights.

Baby6kennedy · September 2015

See my MIL and I are cordial but I don't trust her at all. It's a long story but she's very condescending and passive aggressive. Can't move until the spring and the mere thought of her send my blood pressure up.

DaisyTortilla · September 2015

Sorry you are feeling down. I was also feeling down a couple of weeks ago. I started doing crafts, reading and occasionally going out and it helped a lot. Hope you feel better. Soon! Hugs

wisco29 · September 2015

It can't hurt to talk to someone as well. You could talk to your ob or have them direct you to someone.

pbtoast · September 2015

Great suggestions above. Just wanted to send a big virtual hug!

Baby6kennedy · September 2015

Thank you and I receive it.

FunnyGal18 · September 2015

Everything is temporary. Think of good things. Focus on the positives. It could be worse.

I wrote a list of all of the things that I needed for the baby in order to not feel so overwhelmed on the last pregnancy. I looked at lots of baby stuff online, even if I couldn't afford it. A favorite thing of mine to look at was celebrity nurseries.

Mariah Carey

Brook Burke

wisco29 · September 2015

FunnyGal18 said:
Everything is temporary. Think of good things. Focus on the positives. It could be worse.

I wrote a list of all of the things that I needed for the baby in order to not feel so overwhelmed on the last pregnancy. I looked at lots of baby stuff online, even if I couldn't afford it. A favorite thing of mine to look at was celebrity nurseries.

Mariah Carey

Brook Burke

I would be afraid to go in those rooms. I would spill something, I wouldn't let the baby in either they poop, pee, and puke!! Too much white

Achae · September 2015

DaisyTortilla said:
Sorry you are feeling down. I was also feeling down a couple of weeks ago. I started doing crafts, reading and occasionally going out and it helped a lot. Hope you feel better. Soon! Hugs

This is a good idea, op do you like knitting (or want to take it up?) or cross stitch, that you can do in bed and knock out something for baby

chitownparent · September 2015

I love the book idea. Do you have Kindle, or a library pass where you can download a book onto a mobile device without leaving the house? I would read fiction rather than baby books. Something to take you away from the situation you are in. Isolation usually feeds depression and anxiety. If you are cordial with your MIL but you don't trust her, I would say that's a pretty awkward situation to be in for months on end. Can you husband help you out at all? Can you skype with friends/family? You are in my Ts&Ps.

Shayliciouss00 · September 2015

I'm so sorry you're feeling down. I truely appreciate your post and honestly- because I've just started feeling overwhelmed myself- which resulted in a 30 minute why am I crying session and my husband comforting me. This board just shows me why I come here, you are not alone and people are here to support you.
I'm going to suggest you write out your feelings, pray or read some affirmations and create a routine for yourself so your day doesn't feel like your trapped in you MIL house. It will get better, try to surround yourself with positive things and even ask some of your good friends to visit you.

What did you think of last night episode? I can't believe Jamal kicked his mom and brothers out of Lucious house. I also can't believe Hakeem is still messing with boo boo kitty..
Can't wait til next week.

Take care of yourself, your baby is depending on it.

Baby6kennedy · September 2015

Thank you for your support! Yes very kind ladies here. I pray often but really need to get back into journaling. I hope you feel better as well. It's hard being a woman let alone a pregnant one.

Yes I saw the first episode last night and I'm hooked again. Lol I love Jamal's role.

Baby6kennedy · September 2015

Yes living with someone I don't trust is hard because there's always a motive. I don't have a Kindle but I do have an IPad that I can download books on. My husband is supportive and the goal is to move by Spring so I am praying for strength and perseverance in this matter. Thank you

cantobean · September 2015

Maybe catch up with an old friend on a coffee date or a phone call? Personally, I'm introverted, so sometimes I go weeks without having meaningful interactions with anyone other than H or coworkers. Although I love my "me" time, it's important to make sure you get meaningful connection time with friends.

If you feel "blue" for more than 2 weeks straight, you should talk to your doctor. You may be depressed, and there are ways to help.

pbtoast · September 2015

cantobean said:
Maybe catch up with an old friend on a coffee date or a phone call? Personally, I'm introverted, so sometimes I go weeks without having meaningful interactions with anyone other than H or coworkers. Although I love my "me" time, it's important to make sure you get meaningful connection time with friends.

If you feel "blue" for more than 2 weeks straight, you should talk to your doctor. You may be depressed, and there are ways to help.

That's a good point! Sometimes I feel like I want to be alone (or with my SO) but then am amazed at how much better I feel after I have good face time with a friend and remember how much I value that.

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