Announcing after M/C

mrslampert · September 2015

Hi! I'm back!! We're SUPER early in the journey....3W4D. Literally, took a test yesterday.

Our last pregnancy ended with a D&C and ultimately, I was diagnosed with a uterine arteriovenous malformation (UAVM). We have taken care of the UAVM, but tehre are still potential risks. We have met with MFMs about the risks and possible complications.

We announced to our families last time around 9 weeks, m/c shortly after. Obviously, our families were very supportive both before and after. Now we are really nervous about announcing again because we don't want our families to worry about the UAVM, get them excited about a new little bug, etc...

Any on else going through the same thing?

bennetpl410 · September 2015

We had a blighted ovum in march at 8 weeks. We had already told our patents and they were very supportive. Just had a positive test on Saturday and have already told or parents. I figure they will be there to help us thru if something does go wrong again. I know that our patents want to be in the loop and know what's going on with us. We are all just praying for the best.

krzyriver · September 2015

My parents were devastated when I told them we had miscarried. So hubby and I decided to wait until 12 weeks this time. We just don't want to put them through that again. But it's hard. We feel very good about this one and we're so excited. So far we've only told my brother-in-law (my husband is an identical twin, he doesn't know how to not tell his brother stuff lol) and his girlfriend. And my niece knows because she walked into the bathroom when I was squinting at the test. But I'm trying really hard to wait to tell others. Earliest I might tell my parents is 8 weeks, one week longer than my longest pregnancy.

amanda0783 · September 2015

We had a blighted ovum with twins at 9 weeks last year. We trying to wait to announce but is hard. I'm starting to get really bloated so hopefully we can hide it for another 7 weeks

Happygolucky0814 · September 2015

I am sending positive vibes and prayers for this pregnancy!!!!

TheThornBird · September 2015

We had this happen in June; had a MMC at 12 weeks, baby had died at 8.5 weeks. I'd like to wait until after our 12 week ultrasound to announce. My BF wants us to basically not tell anyone at all until I am too enormous to hide it anymore, or preferably, not see anyone until the baby is born and tell them then, lol. So we'll probably tell everyone at either Thanksgiving or Christmas.

gingerbride26 · September 2015

We're going through something similar. Had a MC just short of 6 weeks in June so we were really hesitant to even tell the parents until end of 1st trimester. However, we are going to Disney next week and members of DH's family will be there. Well, when I'm crying out of all my favorite rides for no good reason, not partaking in the food and WINE festival, and the fact I'm already so bloated I look 12 weeks instead of almost 7....they're going to figure it out. Especially since they've been staring at me asking when we're going to "finally get around to having kids" for a year now. We didn't want MIL to find out second hand or find out that someone else knew first, so we did tell the parents this past weekend and made them promise not to tell the family. Honestly - I'm glad we did. I had a REALLY hard time after the MC in June and think it would have been a little easier with family support.

rojabonita · September 2015

I've had two losses. With my first no one knew we were pregnant because we wanted to wait as long as possible. I called my mom right away when we found out the embryo had died. We would have been 10 weeks.
With my second I told my parents after our first U/S (7 weeks) and then we discovered the embryo died with our next ultrasound 2 weeks later.
With this one, we have only told my parents for support. We will tell other family closer to 12 weeks and won't go public til maybe 20 weeks.

daphne814 · September 2015

I had a m/c at around 7 weeks with my first pregnancy. I had told most of my family and friends without even thinking anything of it, and having to untell the world was so hard. With the following two pregnancies we waited to tell anyone other than really close friends and my parents who I'd want to be there if I had a m/c anyways. So far this time we've only told a few close friends who knew we were trying and I'll probably tell my parents after the first appointment next month. We'll announce to everyone else sometime after 12 weeks.

SteviePLB · October 2015

My husband and I are going through the same thing. We started trying earlier this year, got pregnant right away, but miscarried at 8 weeks. We had told quite a few people because we were so excited and nervous and it was just such a life altering thing that we really couldn't think about anything else. In some ways I was glad that some people knew when we miscarried, because it was nice to have the support, but some of those conversations were very hard to have and it was awkward for awhile. We're pregnant again now, 8 weeks again, and this time we've told almost no one - I've just told my 2 closest girl friends, one who was super supportive after the loss before and one who is just extremely perceptive and picked up quickly on my early symptoms

Its been nice having a few people to talk to about it, but we're not going to tell anyone else until we get through the 1st trimester. Although I can't wait to tell my boss... explain why I'm not quite myself and out once a week for dr's appointments lately!

babycakes8214 · October 2015

Congrats on your BFP!

We had a loss earlier this year at 9 weeks 3 days due to a "dent" in my sac. We had told our parents immediately (we found out Easter weekend) so we told them all on Easter. My dad has early onset Alzheimer's and he took the loss pretty hard. It was one of the very few times in my life I have seen him cry (and now I'm starting to cry thinking about it!). This time around, I have known since I was 3 weeks 2 days and I haven't told anyone except my neighbor, who is also my best friend. H is on board with telling people whenever I want to. Part of me wants to tell everyone, the other part of me wants to wait until Thanksgiving. I'm not sure I have that sort of patience.

altronbaby · October 2015

Thanks for sharing everyone! It nice knowing I'm not alone. We had a MC at 7.5 weeks but didn't find out until the 12 week ultrasound. A day after we told the family. I found it harder to 'untell' everyone but at the same time it's nice to have support. We told some close friends as I couldn't drink at my wedding and stagette. Had a heartbeat at the 7.5 week US. I think we are waiting to 12 week US to tell family. Then Xmas to be more public when I'm bigger. Thanks again for everyone being open in this community!

kace937 · October 2015

I had a miscarriage @ 5 weeks July. Started with a light amount of blood on the tissue and then progressed to more of a period. My levels dropped.
Luckily, we are pregnant again and due date is May 19th.
I am 7w1d - feel nauseous and fatigued.
It is difficult to not over analyze every symptom and hope that everything is okay in there! I go to my first appointment on Friday [I'll be 8w1day] - hoping for a healthy pregnancy and that everything works out.
It is great to hear everyone's stories to know your not alone...
We told family and friends and ended up having the MC that next week and it was rough telling everyone!
We plan to tell family after my appointment and will officially announce sometime in the 2nd trimester.

Good luck to all!!!

linzandjer11 · October 2015

I'd say annouce to your inner circle or support on the sooner end of things. Going through a miscarriage with support is so much easier. However, from experience i've found that if you extend beyond those close few the you're breaking down in the grocery store weeping because someone just asked what your due date is after the baby has been gone a couple weeks. So up to do, but after two mc this year, that's my adivce. Hope the best for you and all!

Cassandramariec · October 2015

Last time, we found out days after telling family (including extended family) and the day before we intended to announce at church and then publicly. I am thankful we didn't get to do that, but just the same, untelling extended family was awful. My husband handled most of it, but it's something we dread repeating. This time I wanted to wait to tell anyone but one nearby couple and one distant couple we consider mentors (who have experienced loss and difficult pregnancies). The compromise was to wait until the first successful US to tell immediate families and any other close friends, but wait to tell everyone else, including grandparents and extended family, until after the end of the 1st trimester.

The US was a huge relief, but the worries are starting to come back. This next month will be easier than the last, but still difficult, I think.

christianmom83 · October 2015

Were struggling with the same thing. We had a missed m/c last July at a little over 9 wks - learned the baby's heart stopped at 8 wks, just a week after we told our parents, siblings, and close friends. It was hard to have to tell them all so shortly after but it was great to have their support. This is our first pregnancy after the loss and we are right at 9 wks today. Everything looked really good at our 7 wk u/s but we are still waiting until after our next u/s at 10 wks to tell our parents and siblings. We will wait to announce at church, work, and publically until sometime in the 2nd trimester closer to thanksgiving. It has been really hard to not tell but for some reason I feel safer waiting until after the point in the last pregnancy when we miscarried to tell our parent and siblings to spare them heartache in case it happens again. We have told our pastor at church and each have told one of our closest friends so it is nice to at least have someone to talk to and support us through these past weeks. Praying for the best for us all and that our worries are less and less in the weeks to come.

lilyandtheoandlulu · October 2015

I had a very early mc in June. We had been waiting to tell our parents, and my mom was kind of upset with me for not telling her sooner. So this time I told her the day I found out!

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