Sex in first trimester

dcheard · September 2015

Hi everyone, is anyone else scared to have sex in this first trimester? I know it won't harm the baby but have previously experienced a miscarriage and am SUPER scared it will happen again!

benicode · September 2015

I also experienced a miscarriage previously. While it's hard not to, you can't blame yourself for what you may have done to cause it (or would this time around). This is just the body's natural process to end a pregnancy that wasn't viable. You will be fine to have sex. Try not to worry too much!

mariaalene · September 2015

Not me. But I was totally turned off sex last pregnancy. It sucked. I hope it's not the same this time. I want to have sex. I want to want to have sex

yogahh · September 2015

Since we got our bfp almost three weeks ago we haven't had sex. Tried this weekend but our standby positions felt weird to me; almost like poking! Well try again but honestly I'm scared to.

yogahh · September 2015

Ps I actually started a thread about this a few weeks ago. If you use the search function you will be able to locate and see what the ladies on this board have already said about this topic!

vinerie · September 2015

I actually haven't been nervous about it. Maybe I should be??

eaorear · September 2015

We did at first and I wasn't nervous at all, but now I'm on pelvic rest...so no.

dsmith211 · September 2015

We've only done it twice since I found out and last time was kind of uncomfortable, I'm guessing maybe bc of the extra blood flow going on down there. I wouldn't be worried though unless it's super uncomfortable for you or your doctor says otherwise.

skiingstark · September 2015

Not worried but not interested, my stomach has this constant pressure feeling so that just feels like it would add more pressure where i do not want it and honestly we did a lot BDing, every other day, so I am just no in the mood.

laurenmdrn16 · September 2015

Sex? What is that?

Seriously, I am so wiped out, I am lucky if I am awake by the time MH gets home from work. I have absolutely no idea where I would get the energy for anything other than sleep in bed.

m6agua · September 2015

I am 4 weeks today and we had sex twice since I found out 6 days ago. It hasn't been weird and I have had no bleeding. We did have to switch it up because not all positions are the most comfortable.

saladflambe · September 2015

I have zero sex drive.

No, less than zero.

I have -100 sex drive.

kbrands7 · September 2015

saladflambe said:
I have zero sex drive.
No, less than zero.
I have -100 sex drive.

Lol. This is me right now. Though, if last pregnancy is any indication, in a month or two I may end up with +100 sex drive. We'll see.

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sapphirerose915 · September 2015

I want to.. but my BF is scared... he wants to wait til we go to the docs on Mon... ughhhhh

beff12 · September 2015

I want none of the sex. I think my last pregnancy we DTD maybe 4 times? I was too nauseous and didn't want to puke on DH and then after that ended, I just didn't want to. Zero sex drive. So far that's where I am now. I wish that I had more desire for it right now.

wsgjmw1 · September 2015

ZERO sex drive combined with the fact I am nervous as well. Probably going to wait until after my first OB appt. which I am hoping with calm my nerves after seeing the baby and talking to my doctor for the first time.

Turtle37 · September 2015

Ugh. Too nauseous to think about it. Maybe next trimester. Hopefully.

balamama · September 2015

Omg I'm so happy to hear I'm not the only one at -100 right now. That's exactly how I feel plus nervousness and discomfort. Nice to know I'm not alone!

gracefulruby33 · September 2015

Ha! DH wanted to a couple of weeks ago and get weirded out. Last weekend, I wasn't into it. I told him he missed his window, all two weeks of it.

benicode · September 2015

I am very early but my sex drive is much higher. Once m/s sets in though, I'm going to be all - don't touch me!!

mtallent01 · September 2015

I am the complete opposite! My sex drive is like +1000 and my husband is so excited.

vinerie · September 2015

My drive has decreased also, although over the weekend I was into it. How are you all dealing with decreasing the sexy time? Is it something you've discussed with your partner? We went a week without it and DH brought it up with me; he wasn't demanding it or anything, but he definitely was feeling kind of low that we weren't in our usual routine and wanted to know why. I explained how I felt and he understood, but it definitely feels a bit awkward right now without the usual hijinx

morganakeene · September 2015

Can't get off of my boyfriend. He's more worried about it than I am lol oops!

Kurrant · September 2015

I haven't been in the mood at all and when we do I can't again for a bit as things tend to be more sensitive but I decided to give it a shot a few times. Once we get going I'm into it no matter how convinced I was that I wanted none of that.

autie5cp · September 2015

I hope so because I'm as dry as the Sahara desert

josie12367 · September 2015

I've been a bit more nervous this second time around. Last pregnancy we had sex all the time until mid-third trimester. This time I've had way different symptoms. I'm way more emotional, which isn't attractive i'm sure to DH, and i'm cramping a lot which makes me nervous even though I know it's normal. I'm going to give it a shot this weekend, as we've been fighting (mostly my fault) a little bit more than normal, which normally means that both of us need to get laid

Pranks · September 2015

My doc has told us not to, in there first trimester so we are not doing it but I so want to!!! Feels like on an overdrive so kinda bummed out about not doing it!!

wellinaustin · September 2015

I'm so nervous about having issues during the first trimester! We haven't yet, but I can tell that the hubby is not going to put up with it much longer haha.

jjroxtx · September 2015

My DH assumed we wouldn't be getting sexy for 9 months but when I told him I'm more ready to go now than I have ever been he was on board. Only caveat is no pressure on the stomach and we are good.

babymackey · September 2015

Sex was scary to me at first too but when doc gave me the OK I thought I'd try!! We only had sex a handful of times from the time we got the positive test to about 6.5 weeks but my sex drive was lacking but around 7 weeks until current I get randomly excited (when I'm not nauseas LOL!) and he's been loving it! Hang in there ladies who have no sex drive first trimester.... Most women say the second trimester is a complete turnaround: energetic, not sick, and libido off the charts! Hoping this is true for me too!

kns1988 · September 2015

Pranks, why did your doctor tell you not to?

My doctor said sex and orgasms are perfectly fine. We did it last night and I was so sensitive, although it took a little work to get going. It was great!

lionstigersbears · September 2015

Bloat has made me uncomfortable but we've still had sex pretty regularly since my BFP. Last time my drive dropped, especially after a tiny bit of spotting after sex freaked me lit. Hoping it sticks around this time for sanity's sake

thalassaz · September 2015

our RE told us no sex until heartbeat, but other friends at clinics were told no sex for first trimester. so im not sure...we are 6 weeks and have been too nervous to try.

sosweet487 · September 2015

I am definitely freaking out about sex in the first trimester. My hubby keeps pawing at me constantly and I am just too nervous about having a miscarriage. I want to be able to talk to my doctor first.

Kurrant · September 2015

The huge breasts don't help the situation. I'm already pretty busty but these things are getting massive and its spring around here. With the weather warming and my clothes being more revealing it's pretty easy to understand why DH is always in the mood. Going with 1-2 times a week at the moment and so far no spotting or anything. Doc said it was fine for us unless spotting occurs.

Jessabelly · September 2015

kbrands7 said:

saladflambe said:
I have zero sex drive.
No, less than zero.
I have -100 sex drive.
Lol. This is me right now. Though, if last pregnancy is any indication, in a month or two I may end up with +100 sex drive. We'll see.

Same!!!! Poor DH. He has been sweet as can be about it but I just feel bad. I am at about a -150 sex drive. : (
We make these guys do it an overwhelming about while we are TTC then we shut it off. Haha.

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