I would like to get my Mother and SIL gifts as hosting my baby shower and being so incredibly generous. It is going to be coed after all (this seems more common with Hispanic families) and so I would also like to get my older brother a gift. He has been invaluably helpful emotionally, he has helped pay for the shower, and he helped immensely to put together a registry (I was clueless).
Should I do a joint gift for my brother and SIL or individual gifts? Any suggestions?
Also, when do you think I should present them with their gifts? I was thinking in private before or after but then was thinking it would be nice for them to have some recognition from the guests as well for putting together the shower. Many of my moms friends will be there so they might like that.. BUT, my stepmom will be there and it kind of makes me feel weird presenting only one of the "grandmas".. My stepmom offered to throw me one and I politely declined and had even declined the one I'm having now, but it was insisted upon by my mom.
So, am I looking too much into this (I tend to do so)? How would you guys go about these probably pretty simple matters?