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Who's in your delivery room?

LSchullLSchull member
in October 2015 Moms

My husband and I want it to only be us...and the family come in after our son is born. Who are you having with you while your give birth?

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  • leah665leah665 member
    My mom and boyfriend. Then obviously the midwife. At my birthing center recovery time is usually 8 hours and then you are discharged, so other people can wait till we get home.
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  • oywiththepoodlesalreadyoywiththepoodlesalready member
    My husband and SIL will for sure be there. My sister will also be there if she can make it, she lives out of state. Others will not be invited in until at least 2 hours after birth.
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  • usmcrenegde01usmcrenegde01 member
    My momma and husband. Only allowed two right now due to rooms being smaller in size. (Labor and delivery is under construction, so they have temporarily moved it to another floor) I'm not complaining lol its a pretty good excuse not to have anyone else in there even if they really wanted to be lol....Everyone else is just gonna have to wait a couple hours to see baby girl.
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  • trishee13trishee13 member
    My husband and my mom.
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  • saintpaulJesssaintpaulJess member
    Just my husband and hospital staff. I had my sister as well last time, but she'll probably be helping watch the kids this time.
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  • straithavocstraithavoc member
    My boyfriend, my mom & my sister.

    My boyfreind will definitley be there. My mom lives about 5 hours away, so she will more than likely make it in time, lets hope.
    & my sister depending if she's working, and if they're behind in her department!


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  • midge519midge519 member
    SO, my mom, and his mom.
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  • mommy_wife_nursemommy_wife_nurse member
    My boyfriend and my aunt. My aunt is actually a L&D nurse at the hospital we go to, so hopefully she isn't on shift while I'm in labor so she can be there with just me instead of having to tend to all of the new mothers. :)
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  • AmandaRN03AmandaRN03 member
    Just my husband and I, our saying has been "if you weren't there when it went in your aren't going to be there when it comes out" (other than medical staff!) my grandparents will be staying with us for a couple weeks so they will be at the hospital but our hospital has a 1 hour happy hour and no one is allowed in until at least 1 hour after the baby comes, a good excuse to have our time!!
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  • LSchullLSchull member
    edited September 2015
    SamiDesch said:
    Only my SO. And we decided not to tell anybody when we are heading up to the hospital. I'd rather not have a waiting room full of anxious family members. I want bonding time for at least the first few hours, depending on what time I have her. My mother has asked me 6 times to be in the delivery room and each time I tell her no. You'd think she'd get a hint. 

    Believe me I understand. My mom has been doing the same thing. My SO and I want a little bit of time to ourselves with our little guy and she doesn't seem to understand that and gets offended.
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  • LSchullLSchull member
    AmandaRN03 said:
    Just my husband and I, our saying has been "if you weren't there when it went in your aren't going to be there when it comes out" (other than medical staff!) my grandparents will be staying with us for a couple weeks so they will be at the hospital but our hospital has a 1 hour happy hour and no one is allowed in until at least 1 hour after the baby comes, a good excuse to have our time!!
    I absolutely love that! I wish our hospital did that! There is an hour or so after delivery that the doctors and nurses come in and out to check on me, baby and clean us up. When I told my mom about it she got all offended..
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  • mandy903mandy903 member
    My husband and my mom as long as my dad can watch my 2 older kids. But sleeving on when my mom may have to stay home.
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  • arwestover3arwestover3 member
    Just my husband. His aunt is watching our first, but both sets of parents and most of our siblings live out of state so no danger in sending texts when we head in. And I doubt we'll put much, if anything, on social media until after we're home from the hospital. I love having people visit but I also want it to be just our family for the first little bit.
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  • carmv01carmv01 member
    My husband and my doula.
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  • MandahGirlyMandahGirly member
    Just my husband. My parents and MIL will be at my apartment which is a 5 minute drive away. Once we are in postpartum they will come over.
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  • mrs.plummer2bemrs.plummer2be member
    Just me and the hubby here also. Getting alot of crap from my MIL. She doesn't get that we want those special alone moments to bond. My husband travels 75% of his job and time together is very limited. She started crying on the phone, hung up on my husband and upset him very badly all because she is trying to be there from start to finish. We can't get those moments back. So i have been standing my ground here.
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  • Rikki_5Rikki_5 member
    Just my husband and myself when I start pushing.  I don't mind my MIL and mom being there while I'm in labor :)
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  • mjudson5mjudson5 member
    Just my husband. I don't want the pressure of people waiting around outside the door. We'll spend a couple hours together just the three of us, then my husband will go get our son to meet his new sibling. We'll call family to announce the birth a few hours later. For us, it's a special bonding time as a family of 4!
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  • kelsojohnsokelsojohnso member
    "Only my SO. And we decided not to tell anybody when we are heading up to the hospital. I'd rather not have a waiting room full of anxious family members. I want bonding time for at least the first few hours, depending on what time I have her. My mother has asked me 6 times to be in the delivery room and each time I tell her no. You'd think she'd get a hint. "


    This is us too!!! My mom is in town and the in laws are 3 hours away to be fair they will get a "she's already here" text.. Just hubby and I and then recovery time.. THEN the madness can begin. (Also, not a soul gets in the room with out a flu shot)
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  • EllioCorEllioCor member
    edited September 2015

    Just us. I live and work within 1 mile of our hospital choice and fully intend to hang out in my shower snacking until the contractions are very close together or I get paranoid. We don't intend to tell anyone when I go into labor (coworkers will depend on several things- if my water breaks there, how close I am to the end of my shift, etc., whether or not DH is at work and how close he is to the end of his shift) and everyone can just get the nice, calm "he's here!" announcement after the fact.

    ETA: we don't intend to announce "he's here" to anyone other than immediate family until after we get HOME. We'll tell our parents after he's delivered, but we're not telling EVERYBODY until we're out of the hospital. I hate hospitals, i'm going to be tired and probably feel achy and gross, and getting the hang of that whole breastfeeding every hour thing and I do not want to be worrying about other people that day. 


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  • pkfinnertypkfinnerty member
    Grandparents will be there when I'm in labor; I'm sure my hubby will need a break. Bury once I start pushing, it's just me, him, and the medical staff! Our hospital has a 2 hour window after. First hour is parents only. Second hour is 1 person at a time, IF we want them. I think that will depend on breastfeeding. If he gets its quickly and gets fed, I wouldn't mind grandparents coming OB the second hour. But if he's having trouble, I'm going to take my full 2 hours with a lactation nurse and keep working on it.
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  • Rikki_5Rikki_5 member
    A lot of people say they worry about people waiting....my thought is this -- if people want to wait at the hospital and waste their time that is their business, unless they are expecting to be in the delivery don't worry about what other people want to do!  It's most likely they are just excited and want to be nearby to see the baby as soon as they can because they love the baby and you :) 
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  • jefinley1jefinley1 member
    Rikki_5 said:

    A lot of people say they worry about people waiting....my thought is this -- if people want to wait at the hospital and waste their time that is their business, unless they are expecting to be in the delivery don't worry about what other people want to do!  It's most likely they are just excited and want to be nearby to see the baby as soon as they can because they love the baby and you :) 

    Some people just have different personalities. I'm an extreme introvert (not anti-social, just the more people, the more stress) and in spite of my ability to put on a bitchy face when I have to, a total people pleaser. If I had people just waiting outside, I would not be able to calm down. I would constantly be thinking about the people waiting outside, what they could hear, if my husband had to leave the room, would they detain him. It's easy to say don't worry about what other people do, and for the majority of things in life, that's exactly what I do. But this one is pretty unique and also a little stressful. So I don't understand why people get so confused or annoyed when a woman says, "Ya, ya know, that's just not for me." We're all wired differently, so while you may be able to just not worry about it, for some people that just isn't how it works. And really if people love you, they'll respect what you say is best for you, not disregard it. So I don't buy the "Oh they're just excited and love you" line.
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  • meghan82meghan82 member
    nimmunogirl said:
    wow, saying (or writing) the word daughter feels so weird and cool!

    haha, i had this experience yesterday! i was at the hospital for a normal appointment but went to buy some more parking coupons (discount if you buy them in packs of 10). the woman selling them asked if i wanted the weekly unlimited pass instead for when i am delivering. but i said, "my son's doctor is here too so we will definitely use the coupons after he is born!" i think it was the first time i mentioned him to a stranger as "my son" and not "the baby." 

    anyway, delivery will be me and my husband. i get people not wanting a crowd waiting, too, but i personally don't mind if my parents happen to get to the hospital before he is born and want to wait there. if i am not about to deliver and they make it (they have a 4-5 hour drive), they can come say hi and i will ask them to leave before i deliver. if they come when i am closer to delivery, they will be waiting a while because we will have an hour or so with just husband, baby, and i after he is born and before we go to our postpartum room. my in-laws have a 12-13 hour drive! so they probably won't make it to see us til the next day.


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  • vamomtobevamomtobe member
    Just my husband!  We will have to tell our in-laws when we head to the hospital because they are awesome and will be caring for our 3-yr old while we're at the hospital, but aside from them, I'll only tell my sister right away.  I think I'll play it by ear and let her spread the news only when we're ready to share.  With my son, I told everyone when we were headed to the hospital, and with cell phones and social media, it was distracting and overwhelming to have everyone checking in.  Of course, it was also really wonderful to have all of that "digital" support and to know everyone was thinking of us, but this time around I'd rather rely on just my wonderful husband's support.
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  • Knottie59387608Knottie59387608 member
    Just DH! My mom is going to be in the waiting room, ill let ONLY her in after we have spent a good 30 minutes together to bond with baby. If i make her wait anymore time than that she might bust the door down, haha. Everyone else gets to meet baby the next day.
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  • shianthomasshianthomas member
    Just my husband and I will be there while I'm delivering although I'm sure the waiting room will be full which I'm fine wit . We get the say so on when people begin to come back. We decided not to find out the gender this time. This is baby #4 and will most likely be our last. We are super excited and dying with anticipation on what this baby is, we have three girls 4, 2, and 1. So all of the family wants to be in the waiting room for the big announcement of the gender.
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  • babykitcatbabykitcat member
    Only DH and a really good friend of mine who has her Phd as an RN and specializes in L & D. However if she can't make it in, no big deal but it would be nice to see her pop in and check on me :).
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  • clengelke clengelke member
    Just my husband. I was going to have my grandmother (who raised me) but then my mother and MIL were saying they wanted to be there as well, so we told them only one person in the room. XD If I have to deal with my mother and MIL in the same while I'm giving birth, I can promise you one or both of them are leaving in a body bag. I've been debating on just waiting to announce our son is here until I'm home, because I definitely want my bonding time before everyone starts thinking that they can just take him from me. I can already tell I'm going to be a bit of a protective mother. :)

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    Due Date: Oct 11th 2015

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  • comlandcomland member
    edited September 2015
    Just myself, husband, and hospital staff! We will probably send out a few texts or emails to close friends and family to let them know once the baby is born. No family in town, so we won't see them until we are home and settled in. I think some of our close friends will plan on visiting in the hospital the next day or so. Exciting times for this FTM!
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  • LouislLouisl member
    Hubby and doula :)
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