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TTC after 35
Jenniferk08
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What once made me feel like a woman...
Jenniferk08
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in TTC after 35
the first time I got my period I felt like a woman, now it's a reminder that I'm not pregnant and like a failure.
I know I shouldn't feel that way. I do have a child who I love with all my heart but every time someone asks if I'm having more it's like a knife. "Don't you want more kids" "he needs a sibling" "are you trying to have more" "he's such a good kid you should have more" "he would make such a good brother" My favorite "you know you aren't getting any younger" "don't you want him to have family when you are gone"
Sorry AF showed up a day early and I'm a bit emotional tonight.
I know I shouldn't feel that way. I do have a child who I love with all my heart but every time someone asks if I'm having more it's like a knife. "Don't you want more kids" "he needs a sibling" "are you trying to have more" "he's such a good kid you should have more" "he would make such a good brother" My favorite "you know you aren't getting any younger" "don't you want him to have family when you are gone"
Sorry AF showed up a day early and I'm a bit emotional tonight.
Re: What once made me feel like a woman...
sorry! Sending hugs and understanding!
Me(38)PCOS/Hypothyroid DH(43)Low T/ED
MMC at 10 weeks 03/2011 DD born 01/2012 TTC #2 since 04/2014
BFP 8/26/2016
I'm sorry
Everyone has their own timeline, and their own challenges, often unspoken. I'm with you.
Married 5/30/15
TTC #1 June 2015
BFP #1 9/28/15, EDD 6/10/16. DS born 5/23/16!
TTC #2 May 2017
BFP #2 m/c 11/18/17 5w5d
BFP #3 12/17/17 EDD 8/25/18. It's a boy!
I'm sorry people aren't being sensitive. Don't let it get to you. In my case, some of the people I know who make similar comments are irresponsible, awful parents, so as soon they open their mouths I think "yeah I should have done like you and had a child to hand over to the grandparents because the parents are too lazy and broke to give a shit."
Seriously, it's a two way street.
Have you all seen this? Same topic. Hope it catches on.
https://www.buzzfeed.com/michaelblackmon/tyra-banks-and-chrissy-teigan-got-emotional-about#.nsmOXXRx9
X(
San Diego, CA
TTC #1 since June 2015
Prior D&C due to blighted ovum 2003
If you have no kids it's when will you have one
One kids it when will you have another
Have 2 of one gender are you going to try for the other.
Have 1 of each, so you are done now right.
Can't freakin win. My mom keeps telling me she wants a granddaughter. I told her good thing she has 2 much younger kids who can hopefully one day give her one.
And I have to take the BRCA test to see if I get to keep my breasts but because of my family history they want my ovaries out before 40... So no pressure there. No enough wine in the world sometimes.
But it's a new day and a new cycle. I have a new set of OPK coming in along with HPT from a different company. Praying that this cycle will be the one for all of us.
BFP 2/19/15 • MMC found at 9 wks • D&E at 11 wks (age 36)
BFP 8/29/15 • CP (age 37)
TTC#2 since May 2017
BFP 10/18/17 • MMC found at 8 wks • Misoprostal at 10.5 wks (age 39)
BFP 2/16/18 • CP (age 39)
BFP 4/13/18 • CP (age 39)
BFP 5/07/18 • MMC found at 10.5 wks • D&E at 11.5 wks • Testing showed it was a girl with Trisomy 22. (age 39/40)
9/5/18 Diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve (4-5 follicles, one ovary had none and was very atrophied)
RE says the low egg count is likely causing my recurrent pregnancy loss. Less eggs results in more aneuploidy.
BFP 9/24/18 • CP (age 40)
BFP 2/19/15 • MMC found at 9 wks • D&E at 11 wks (age 36)
BFP 8/29/15 • CP (age 37)
TTC#2 since May 2017
BFP 10/18/17 • MMC found at 8 wks • Misoprostal at 10.5 wks (age 39)
BFP 2/16/18 • CP (age 39)
BFP 4/13/18 • CP (age 39)
BFP 5/07/18 • MMC found at 10.5 wks • D&E at 11.5 wks • Testing showed it was a girl with Trisomy 22. (age 39/40)
9/5/18 Diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve (4-5 follicles, one ovary had none and was very atrophied)
RE says the low egg count is likely causing my recurrent pregnancy loss. Less eggs results in more aneuploidy.
BFP 9/24/18 • CP (age 40)
One day I might snap and tell her that I would've gladly and another child but instead I had a chemical pregnancy which I was just getting better from when a truck decided to run a light, total my car and break my wrist. So much fun to have weeks of X-rays with the Constant question of "any chance you could be pregnant". Mother f-ER I wasn't pregnant last week, or yesterday or today when I am believe me everyone will know it.
But for know I bite my tongue.
Things NOT to say to a woman who has had a miscarriage
Things NOT to say to a woman who has lost a child
Things NOT to say to a woman with infertility
Things NOT to say to a pregnant woman
I could go on...
Married 5/30/15
TTC #1 June 2015
BFP #1 9/28/15, EDD 6/10/16. DS born 5/23/16!
TTC #2 May 2017
BFP #2 m/c 11/18/17 5w5d
BFP #3 12/17/17 EDD 8/25/18. It's a boy!