Major job changes (rant, bad day)

Re: Major job changes (rant, bad day)

• ChrissyD1203 member

  September 2015

  I'm sorry to hear that. That stinks! Are you getting promoted in the process? Can you ask not to go? Do you think they are doing this because you are preg so you will quit?

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• ambercakes92 member

  September 2015 edited September 2015

  That does sound stressful and I really hope everything turns out not to be the nightmare you're imagining! Honestly, that amount of change would probably make me cry even if I was happy about it. I don't have a job to stress about currently, but I suppose that's a stress in and of itself with DD on the way and dad currently unemployed as well
  
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• mrsm224 member

  September 2015

  @ChrissyD1203 Unfortunately I won't be getting a promotion. If that was the case, it might make things a lot easier! I am already head of my department at the store I'm currently at, now they're just sending me to the same department in a different store (hope that made sense). I also considered the possibility that maybe they're pushing me out because of my pregnancy, but even though my boss and I didn't always see eye to eye, she was telling me she hopes I do really well in my new store and realize my full potential, eventually get promoted again, etc. So I doubt that's it...
  
  @ambercakes92 I can't even imagine the stress of that. My thoughts are definitely with you and your family! I hope things get figured out for you soon.
  
  Thank both of you ladies, the support on here is awesome.

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• starree444 member

  September 2015

  Boo urns. That sucks that they're adding so much stress to your life when you're pregs.

  I was laid off at 12 weeks so I totes understand the stress.

  
  

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• MeghaJake member

  September 2015

  I have been under a lot of job stress too and I want to quit but I need the health insurance and want my paid leave even though I am only planning on taking 4 weeks off.
  
  So last December my boss said I was going to be his assistant director, which entails certain extra duties. He started giving me some of those duties. A few weeks later he stopped asking me to assist him and started giving the assistant director duties to two young women who don't have kids - I already have two. These extra duties involve working after 5 pm I should note.
  
  He has still never spoken to me about the situation. He basically just ignores me. When he told me I was going to be assistant director, I was very excited and told him I wanted the opportunity. I never told him I couldn't put in the hours. I want to talk to him about it but I don't want to be confrontational and I'm afraid I will cry because I am very emotional about it. Then when I got pregnant, I had other things to worry about. It has been a humiliating experience.
  
  I told family and friends I was promoted and then had to tell them the promotion was taken away even though I was never told it was taken away. I'm also so confused because he has never said anything to me about it or anything about my work performance in the past year. Also I have the most seniority in the office.
  
  The worst part is I am taking a very short maternity leave because I am due right at the beginning of our busy season and I don't want to over burden my co-workers. It makes me wonder why I'm bending over backward and sacrificing time with my newborn. I am eligible for 12 weeks FMLA leave.
  
  I feel for you. It really sucks having job stress on top of the stress of pregnancy.

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• starree444 member

  September 2015

  @MeghaJake Take your 12 weeks that you're entitled to. You'll most likely regret not taking all of it. There are so many women that only get 4 or 6 or none. Take advantage of it. Time with your nb is more important than your coworkers.

  
  

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• l4rk member

  September 2015

  Taking over a challenging team is a make or break opportunity. You get to prove what you're made of. You want to get promoted? Show them what you've got. Take today to feel sorry for yourself, then clear your head and decide where you want your career to go. Woman up or throw in the towel--it's up to you, but your fate is ultimately in your own hands.

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• ariasbabyblog member

  September 2015

  No job changes as I am a SAHM, but a bad day. Started last night when my DH opened a bottle of home made root beer and it sprayed everywhere, so now the kitchen is entirely sticky. DS woke up this morning with a blown out diaper, and then the dog rolled in something. This evening though, we had dinner at my SIL's (which we do regularly) and her irritating little sh*t of a dog. This dog hates my son. Always has from the moment they met. Now when he walks around her house, she runs after him and nips at his feet. She hasn't hurt him yet, but it pisses me off and I'm very much not happy about this dog trying to bite my children. My DH's response? "Calm down, there are other things to be stressed about. She isn't hurting him. You yelling at the dog is stressing my sister out." Are you f*cking kidding me? I'm supposed to be ok with this damn dog basically attacking my children? He wants me to save the yelling at the dog for if she is attacking an infant that can't move. I'm seriously NOT ok with this and feeling very unsupported. Kennel the damn dog.

   
  

  
  
  

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• gerd1986 member

  September 2015

  I am in a similar situation too. My boss decided to move the office to the town he lives in. My drive to work is now 12.9 miles and it would be 54.6 to the new location. They are offering me $2,000 a yr for compensation which is b4 taxes and is roughly 10 cents a mile. When i drive for travel work related im paid .54/mile without taxes taken out...it also would force me to choose if i have my newborn in daycare in the town i work and then drive w her 2 hrs a day 5 days a week or I have her go to daycare closer to home but cant visit her over lunch and my husband has to be the parent dealing w a sick baby and all picking up/dropping off. The good thing is i can transfer to a department staying in the town i work now but ill have to start over basically in my career and i have no idea what will happen to my pay. The worst part is ive been trying to work w my boss on a solution (work from home/compensation thats realistic) or move forward w transfering and hes dragging his feet, talking from his ass and saying one thing then doing another.
  
  I feel for u all with job stress. Thinking about 6 wks at home w my baby girl is whats kept my head straight the past few months.

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• ChrissyD1203 member

  September 2015

  @gerd1986 my husband was relocated to a different state for work. I've known this was coming for over a year so unrelated to the pregnancy, I had been negotiating with the heads of my office to work from home. It was a long battle but I was persistent and one of my bosses tried super hard to help me. In the end -- they finally OK'd it under the conditions that I switch from salaried to hourly (I'm making the same $$ but if some reason I worked less hours than usual I would make less) and that I be part-time (at my employer that means no more than 35 hrs per week) so that they wouldn't have to offer me medical insurance (fine because I just went on my husband's plan). A few months in this has worked out amazing. I told them it is only temporary (which is true because we are only in the new state for a year). So my advice is don't give up and try to find some creative solutions. If you pitch your plan as temporary and then it works out great-- it might just become permanent.

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• jrouge12 member

  September 2015

  Sorry to hear! I was just moved from part time to full time. It means my days are very long now catching up (I'm a teacher and I have 4 preps, 2 of which are classes it's been years since I've taught and 1 I've never taught) and I am at school Monday through Friday for 11 hours each day. It's tough but I've been part time for so long that I'm just happy to finally be full-time.

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