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kqualls5kqualls5 member
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So this is my first pregnancy. I'm 22 weeks along. Super uncomplicated pregnancy so far. But last night, we were having sex and when we went to switch positions, we realized we were in a puddle of my blood. We went to the ER and they monitored my contractions (there weren't any) and baby's heart beat. Everything was fine. But there was SO MUCH BLOOD. Just wondering if any of you have had similar experiences!
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  • Winters12Winters12 member
    Yes! With my last pregnancy and we both panicked. I was about 22-23 weeks then as well.

    Your cervix is very sensitive and there's an increased amount of blood in the area (and whole body) making the blood vessels inflamed and overly sensitive. Everything turned out completely fine, but we did not have sex again until close to my due date (and then when I was overdue) in fear (and then to try and get things started) it would happen again/start labour!

    You might be kissing sex goodbye for the next 18 weeks out of fear, but otherwise in sure everything is just fine!!!

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  • kqualls5kqualls5 member
    edited September 2015
    Winters12 said:

    Yes! With my last pregnancy and we both panicked. I was about 22-23 weeks then as well.

    Your cervix is very sensitive and there's an increased amount of blood in the area (and whole body) making the blood vessels inflamed and overly sensitive. Everything turned out completely fine, but we did not have sex again until close to my due date (and then when I was overdue) in fear (and then to try and get things started) it would happen again/start labour!

    You might be kissing sex goodbye for the next 18 weeks out of fear, but otherwise in sure everything is just fine!!!

    So relieved to hear someone else has had it happen. When I googled bleeding during pregnancy (I know, don't google things) everyone just said they had spotting. It definitely wasn't spotting! But yes, definitely kissing our sex life goodbye. We've silently agreed not again during this pregnancy. It won't be fun but baby is so much more important! Thank you for your reply!
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    SummerFall03 said:


    BostonTerrior2008 said:

    Why run to the ER, when a simple phone call to the after hours line to your OB would have been fine. If you told them that you had sex and were bleeding, they more than likely would have told you that Your cervix is very sensitive and bleeding can happen with sex. It happens and to watch for other signs. Its always better to call first, before running to the ER.

    The impression I got was that there was a significant amount of blood. That alone would send me running to the ER. If it was spotting, probably not, but a puddle of blood? Get me the keys to the car, I'm out!
    BostonTerrior2008 said:

    Why run to the ER, when a simple phone call to the after hours line to your OB would have been fine. If you told them that you had sex and were bleeding, they more than likely would have told you that Your cervix is very sensitive and bleeding can happen with sex. It happens and to watch for other signs. Its always better to call first, before running to the ER.

    Agree to disagree, lol. I'm much more calmed down by hearing his heartbeat than a doctor telling me over the phone it "could be nothing".
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    kqualls5 said:
    BostonTerrior2008 said:
    Why run to the ER, when a simple phone call to the after hours line to your OB would have been fine. If you told them that you had sex and were bleeding, they more than likely would have told you that Your cervix is very sensitive and bleeding can happen with sex. It happens and to watch for other signs. Its always better to call first, before running to the ER.
    The impression I got was that there was a significant amount of blood. That alone would send me running to the ER. If it was spotting, probably not, but a puddle of blood? Get me the keys to the car, I'm out!
    Why run to the ER, when a simple phone call to the after hours line to your OB would have been fine. If you told them that you had sex and were bleeding, they more than likely would have told you that Your cervix is very sensitive and bleeding can happen with sex. It happens and to watch for other signs. Its always better to call first, before running to the ER.
    Agree to disagree, lol. I'm much more calmed down by hearing his heartbeat than a doctor telling me over the phone it "could be nothing".
    I would rather hear "It is nothing" then "could". I think you did the right thing.
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    SummerFall03 said:


    kqualls5 said:

    SummerFall03 said:


    BostonTerrior2008 said:

    Why run to the ER, when a simple phone call to the after hours line to your OB would have been fine. If you told them that you had sex and were bleeding, they more than likely would have told you that Your cervix is very sensitive and bleeding can happen with sex. It happens and to watch for other signs. Its always better to call first, before running to the ER.

    The impression I got was that there was a significant amount of blood. That alone would send me running to the ER. If it was spotting, probably not, but a puddle of blood? Get me the keys to the car, I'm out!
    BostonTerrior2008 said:

    Why run to the ER, when a simple phone call to the after hours line to your OB would have been fine. If you told them that you had sex and were bleeding, they more than likely would have told you that Your cervix is very sensitive and bleeding can happen with sex. It happens and to watch for other signs. Its always better to call first, before running to the ER.

    Agree to disagree, lol. I'm much more calmed down by hearing his heartbeat than a doctor telling me over the phone it "could be nothing".

    I would rather hear "It is nothing" then "could". I think you did the right thing.


    Exactly! I'm the worst natural pessimist so until I had proof baby was okay, I would've driven myself nuts. Thank you :)
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  • SarahS06SarahS06 member
    BostonTerrior2008 said:

    Why run to the ER, when a simple phone call to the after hours line to your OB would have been fine. If you told them that you had sex and were bleeding, they more than likely would have told you that Your cervix is very sensitive and bleeding can happen with sex. It happens and to watch for other signs. Its always better to call first, before running to the ER.


    While I understand this position, I respectfully disagree. At my a/s, I was diagnosed with partial placenta previa and vasa previa. Both conditions increase the likelihood of bleeding during the second tri, particularly after sex. As a result, I was put on total pelvic rest. I had several ultrasounds and these were missed. While vasa previa isn't that common, placenta previa is. My thought is that your peace of mind is worth the cost of waiting and the ER visit, particularly after hours.

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  • kqualls5kqualls5 member
    SummerFall03 said:


    BostonTerrior2008 said:

    My theory is- you had sex. You bled during/after sex. Sex caused the bleeding no other trigger no other symptoms. A call to the doc is warranted and not run to ER.

    This is due to the knowledge that sex = bleeding, no cramping no contractions nothing - it was sex. I am sure a free phone call to my doctor would have been sufice (if he would have said to go to ER, then I would take his advice)...., I don't just run to the ER because. I am always told by my OB it's always best to call first for recomendations.

    I would take a free phone call than to pay $250 copay for the ER because I had sex and no advice from my OB. .

    "puddle of blood"... Sorry but I would rather fork out the $250 after a puddle of blood. A friend of mine had a still born after bleeding without cramping, contractions etc. Anything can happen and I think the most important thing is to keep you and baby safe. 

    Not that this matters because regardless of the cost, I would've made the same decision. But my insurance covers everything with a $10 co-pay, no matter what. It's legitimately costing me $10 to have this baby. Doctor appointments and all. And my ER visit cost me another $10.

    Maybe a 3rd or 4th time mother would just call an OB instead of "running to the ER", but this is my first baby, and all of this is brand new to me. And yes I'm aware that sex can cause SPOTTING, but may I add again, PUDDLE of blood.
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  • PrimRoseMamaPrimRoseMama member
    I would go to labor & delivery-- not the ER. With significant bleeding like you describe the best place to be evaluated is the L&D. The ER is not a horrible place, but they have to call in an OB specialist a lot of the time. I'd rather not have to wait for that & just be seen at L&D.

    So yes, seek treatment for a bleeding episode like you describe. The ER is not necessarily the most advisable location though. They are very limited in what they can help you with during pregnancy.


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    PrimRoseMama said:
    I would go to labor & delivery-- not the ER. With significant bleeding like you describe the best place to be evaluated is the L&D. The ER is not a horrible place, but they have to call in an OB specialist a lot of the time. I'd rather not have to wait for that & just be seen at L&D. So yes, seek treatment for a bleeding episode like you describe. The ER is not necessarily the most advisable location though. They are very limited in what they can help you with during pregnancy.
    This. A puddle of blood, I would have gone to L&D; it's also subjective, I don't know OP's definition of "puddle". More often than not, an ER doc is going to diagnose you with a threatened MC and send you home. They always seem to just freak people out more than help. Glad to hear you are okay, however.

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    FinePlacentaPie said:


    PrimRoseMama said:

    I would go to labor & delivery-- not the ER. With significant bleeding like you describe the best place to be evaluated is the L&D. The ER is not a horrible place, but they have to call in an OB specialist a lot of the time. I'd rather not have to wait for that & just be seen at L&D.

    So yes, seek treatment for a bleeding episode like you describe. The ER is not necessarily the most advisable location though. They are very limited in what they can help you with during pregnancy.

    This. A puddle of blood, I would have gone to L&D; it's also subjective, I don't know OP's definition of "puddle". More often than not, an ER doc is going to diagnose you with a threatened MC and send you home. They always seem to just freak people out more than help. Glad to hear you are okay, however.

    I went to the ER and when the lady up front started checking me in, a guy in the back who was listening came up and told her they needed to wheelchair me to L&D. Again, first time being pregnant, when I think emergency I think ER. Anyways, I was wheeled down to L&D. So I wasn't seen by an ER doctor. (The fine gentleman pushing my wheelchair actually asked me if this was "my first miscarriage". I've never seen my boyfriend so mad.) All is good now. No bleeding. Baby's as active as always. Thanks for all the replies.
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    kqualls5 said:

    FinePlacentaPie said:


    PrimRoseMama said:

    I would go to labor & delivery-- not the ER. With significant bleeding like you describe the best place to be evaluated is the L&D. The ER is not a horrible place, but they have to call in an OB specialist a lot of the time. I'd rather not have to wait for that & just be seen at L&D.

    So yes, seek treatment for a bleeding episode like you describe. The ER is not necessarily the most advisable location though. They are very limited in what they can help you with during pregnancy.

    This. A puddle of blood, I would have gone to L&D; it's also subjective, I don't know OP's definition of "puddle". More often than not, an ER doc is going to diagnose you with a threatened MC and send you home. They always seem to just freak people out more than help. Glad to hear you are okay, however.
    I went to the ER and when the lady up front started checking me in, a guy in the back who was listening came up and told her they needed to wheelchair me to L&D. Again, first time being pregnant, when I think emergency I think ER. Anyways, I was wheeled down to L&D. So I wasn't seen by an ER doctor. (The fine gentleman pushing my wheelchair actually asked me if this was "my first miscarriage". I've never seen my boyfriend so mad.) All is good now. No bleeding. Baby's as active as always. Thanks for all the replies.


    I would have lost it and nut punched that dude so fast! I'm sorry you had this experience but I'm happy that everything is ok :)
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    kqualls5  : Yeah I'm sorry that guy said that. What a bone-headed thing to say to a scared pregnant lady that is bleeding. Also, what kind of question is that? What if you had said, "no, this is my 6th one in a row." How bad would he have felt. I understand he was just trying to make conversation, but holy heck dude, THINK.


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    Geez, glad everything turned out okay. That must have been terrifying. 

    And I think you absolutely did the right thing by getting checked out right away. Spotting after sex? Sure, call your doc but you're probably fine. Actively bleeding, never mind a PUDDLE OF BLOOD, is ER/L&D time, pronto. Had I called my OB in your situation they would have told me to head straight for L&D anyway. I can't believe people (well, one person) are trying to tell you otherwise.
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  • FinePlacentaPieFinePlacentaPie member
    kqualls5 said:
    PrimRoseMama said:
    I would go to labor & delivery-- not the ER. With significant bleeding like you describe the best place to be evaluated is the L&D. The ER is not a horrible place, but they have to call in an OB specialist a lot of the time. I'd rather not have to wait for that & just be seen at L&D. So yes, seek treatment for a bleeding episode like you describe. The ER is not necessarily the most advisable location though. They are very limited in what they can help you with during pregnancy.
    This. A puddle of blood, I would have gone to L&D; it's also subjective, I don't know OP's definition of "puddle". More often than not, an ER doc is going to diagnose you with a threatened MC and send you home. They always seem to just freak people out more than help. Glad to hear you are okay, however.
    I went to the ER and when the lady up front started checking me in, a guy in the back who was listening came up and told her they needed to wheelchair me to L&D. Again, first time being pregnant, when I think emergency I think ER. Anyways, I was wheeled down to L&D. So I wasn't seen by an ER doctor. (The fine gentleman pushing my wheelchair actually asked me if this was "my first miscarriage". I've never seen my boyfriend so mad.) All is good now. No bleeding. Baby's as active as always. Thanks for all the replies.
    L&D vs ER notwithstanding, this is extraordinarily unprofessional and I would be reporting him. 

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