I posted yesterday about how my father passed away unexpectedly 3 days ago. Not only is it devastating for the obvious reasons (losing my beloved father), but also considering I will be giving birth in 12 days or less and he will never know my son. And I'm too pregnant to travel to the service (they live in CA and I live in CT).
Before his death, my mother planned to come stay with me for a month after my husband went back to work (he is taking 2 weeks off). I spoke with my mother today and said that I understand she may want to postpone her trip (it would have been a month from now). She essentially said, "Yes, I will try to get the money back from the airline...maybe I'll come out in 2016, but only for a week." She and my father have two small dogs and she will not put them in a kennel for more than a week (my dad would have been with them for the month she originally planned to visit).
I didn't say anything, but I am tremendously hurt. Before my dad passed, she was super excited about this baby and couldn't wait to meet him. I know my mom just lost her husband and is emotional, but I don't understand why she would just decide she'll come out next year. I mean, she'll be alone from now on with my dad gone. Also note that this is typical of her...in terms of having "rules" and not being able to do for others outside of her rules.
She has NO access to social media...no e-mail, no facebook, nothing. My dad was that connection with her. She won't have any idea what our baby will look like, sound like, etc., until she decide she wants to come out for a week sometime next year. And I am not going to go out of my way to take pictures, have them printed and mailed.
I hope I don't sound bratty, but with the loss of my dad and now this, I feel so alone. I have my husband, but I was counting on my mom to be here.
Re: Feeling frustrated...and guilty at the same time.
I can understand you feeling very alone right now. I would feel that way, too. I am so sorry for your loss at this very important time in your life.
I wouldn't cut her off from pictures, again a lot of what she is doing is coming from grief. I am sure you will be taking lots of pictures, maybe you can upload them to shutterfly and have them send prints to your mom. It will take only a few min, and allow your mom to see your LO.
I am sorry for your loss.
Also, just because she doesn't have social media, doesn't mean your can't share pictures. You can email or text them. My sister in law hates social media and always texts us pictures. You don't have to go to the extreme of printing and mailing.
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