UO Thursday - Unpopular Opinions

leighann1 · September 2015

Got an opinion that isn't typical? Add them here (at your own risk)!

midge519 · September 2015

I love the end of pregnancy!!

Even with all the aches, pains, walking like an old lady who had hip surgery, heartburn, not fitting anything, the waiting game, etc I absolutely love it. I love having the things I need arrive. I love the frequency and strength of the movements. My friends tell me I'm crazy but this is my favorite part!

eheba · September 2015

Can I just say why are Charlie horses existent?!? I had my first in my calf this morning and omg is it such an awkward pain!! I can still kind of feel it there while walking. Terrible.

sjembry93 · September 2015

Not sure how unpopular this but I just don't understand the point of the Baby Brezza. I feel like just making a bottle the regular way would be so much quicker..

leighann1 · September 2015

sjembry93 said:

Not sure how unpopular this but I just don't understand the point of the Baby Brezza. I feel like just making a bottle the regular way would be so much quicker..

Can my UO be that I have no idea what this is, and it really annoys me how many different "must-have" products there are out there?I feel like it would take our whole 9-month pregnancies plus some just to figure out what all this crap is.

vamomtobe · September 2015

I should start by saying that I have the most basic, boring nursery on earth, and have no interior decorating skill/knowledge, but -

I wish the chevron would go away. You can't escape the chevron.

leighann1 · September 2015

@vamomtobe I'm so with you on this. Just say no to chevron!

AshleeM7784 · September 2015

Here's a random one... I'm totally grossed out by the Nose Frida (the booger sucky thing that everyone swears by). I just used the bulb one that they give you at the hospital. I don't care if there's a filter, the idea of sucking on one end of a straw thing and having boogers come up the other end is disgusting.

jefinley1 · September 2015

I was looking through the "another generation lost" post, which is actually a really amusing idea, to reflect on what will be different for our children. But I was surprised to realize that in spite of being an incredibly nostalgic person, I couldn't think of a whole lot of things that I felt my daughter would miss that were important. So maybe my UO is that I'm really excited that she gets to grow up now!

In spite of our world not being perfect, it is by far the best time in history to be a woman. I like a lot of the technology and how globally connected it has allowed us to become. I'm hoping that it will continue to develop the human connection and help us realize our similarities over our differences. I think it's made books and the analogue even more worthy of pursuing instead of completely obsolete (vinyl anyone?). I don't really relate to the idea that it will be harder for our children to share their opinions, as I feel like there are more accepted opinions and ideas now than ever before. Maybe people just think any difference in opinion is the same at not being allowed to have it? I love the pluralism that is developing in our society and that on any given day in some of my favorite cities, I can hear "a salam wa alaikum" and "God bless!" and "Hola" with less and less people batting an eye about it. I love that she'll grow up in a world where people were never prohibited from getting married solely because of their genetic makeup. Just think about how cool that is! People fought for over a century in this country to achieve what we did this year! I feel like hard work is still rewarded, even if we're more open to acknowledging different types of success. Obviously the world isn't perfect, and Trump is still running for president, but overall, I think I'm OK with her not having to mess with cassette tapes in exchange for all of this.

I will be pissed if she can't see a whale, seals, or polar bears because they don't exist anymore outside of a zoo.

elmann1 · September 2015

I will NEVER understand ANY woman's perspective/opinion on "Men will be men: they don't like to discuss things, they just want sex, food and a happy wife." Implying that it's always the woman's fault when the men are mad. Are you kidding me?? I can't believe that people STILL think this way! Since when do men come on pedestals? Also, after repeating this to my husband, he was highly offended. As a grown adult man, he hates the stigma that's put on his gender by younger, immature idiots. "All" men are NOT Like that. Women need sex, food and happiness too. Never in a relationship is one person more important than another. Ever. I'm so sorry for any woman who has had people shove this BS mantra down your throat or has made you feel like YOU'RE doing something wrong. Communication is always key, and any live human being is capable of it.

jennylynn103 · September 2015

The number of "I'm freaking out!!1!11!!1" threads annoys me. I know I tend to be a bit more methodical in my approach to life, and I also know there are definitely things worth freaking out about. But it annoys me when someone is "freaking out" about something that should be perhaps concerning or stressful. It just comes across as message board click bait and makes me want to throw some Xanax in The Bump water supply.

oywiththepoodlesalready · September 2015

Cloth diapers. In my family/friend group I'm one of the very few that is going with disposables. Everyone wants to know why I don't just use cloth because it is "so easy" to wash them yourself and saves tons of money. I'm sorry but unlike you, I work full time and I just can't do it, how I collect my child's waste is none of your business so please judge me in private and leave me alone.

sjembry93 · September 2015

leighann1 said:

sjembry93 said:

Not sure how unpopular this but I just don't understand the point of the Baby Brezza. I feel like just making a bottle the regular way would be so much quicker..

Can my UO be that I have no idea what this is, and it really annoys me how many different "must-have" products there are out there?I feel like it would take our whole 9-month pregnancies plus some just to figure out what all this crap is.

Haha its like a Keurig for baby bottles. Completely pointless and a waste of $150 in my opinion. But I agree I think a lot of the "must haves" are way to frivolous and unnecessary!

ilikestars089 · September 2015

My UO- I don't like the idea of a "Sip and see" or a shower after the baby comes... My MIL is really pushing for this so that everyone can see the baby and we can "get what we still don't have". But, she is mad that we have bought so much for baby because she feels like there's nothing left to get... Yeah, because I'm due in like 3 weeks and want to be prepared! I don't even care if I have a shower. It's nice that she is planning something, I'm not trying to be ungrateful, but, my (totally ignored) preference would be before baby gets here.

First, I don't want the pressure to go and see all kinds of people shortly after pushing a kid out of my vagina, especially since it's my first time and I have no idea how my body/hormones will respond postpartum. Second, I'm kind of a germaphobe and the idea of passing a little one around for everyone to touch and breathe on just doesn't sound appealing. Considering I don't know half the people she wants to invite, it also sounds awkward and like a nightmare as flu season is starting up. Sorry, this got a little longer than I thought it would when I started

millereliz13 · September 2015

jennylynn103 said:
The number of "I'm freaking out!!1!11!!1" threads annoys me. I know I tend to be a bit more methodical in my approach to life, and I also know there are definitely things worth freaking out about. But it annoys me when someone is "freaking out" about something that should be perhaps concerning or stressful. It just comes across as message board click bait and makes me want to throw some Xanax in The Bump water supply.

I totally agree with you. And most of them are such minor things. I have had legitimate reasons to freak out, including falling down the stairs, spraining my hand and having to be in the hospital overnight, but I wouldn't post it as an omg I'm freaking out. I guess that's what I view my irl friends and family for. *shrug*

My UO is in order to do the preenclampsia screen, it can't be ordered on a Thursday and done on Friday. You have to start the collection at the beginning of the day and my lab is closed on weekends. If it's a concern, you'd think the dr would let me take it to the hospital. The dr that ordered that isn't my regular dr, I am monitoring my blood pressure at home from now till Monday in case it's a problem. I have my blood pressure right niw

margies2010 · September 2015

I feel like I may be flamed for this, but here goes.

I want this baby out. NOW. The whole bedrest for ONE week to "keep my blood pressure stable" when my MFM has given the green light for delivery, and yet here I am, still pregnant. My beached whale body can't take much more.

CocoR04 · September 2015

ilikestars089 said:
My UO- I don't like the idea of a "Sip and see" or a shower after the baby comes... My MIL is really pushing for this so that everyone can see the baby and we can "get what we still don't have". But, she is mad that we have bought so much for baby because she feels like there's nothing left to get... Yeah, because I'm due in like 3 weeks and want to be prepared! I don't even care if I have a shower. It's nice that she is planning something, I'm not trying to be ungrateful, but, my (totally ignored) preference would be before baby gets here.

First, I don't want the pressure to go and see all kinds of people shortly after pushing a kid out of my vagina, especially since it's my first time and I have no idea how my body/hormones will respond postpartum. Second, I'm kind of a germaphobe and the idea of passing a little one around for everyone to touch and breathe on just doesn't sound appealing. Considering I don't know half the people she wants to invite, it also sounds awkward and like a nightmare as flu season is starting up. Sorry, this got a little longer than I thought it would when I started

I'm with you on thinking "sip and sees" are a bad idea! If it were held in some outside location and the baby wasn't touched or seen at all by the attendees, it might be ok, but I got SO paranoid about germs after DS was born. I didn't even want friends bringing over food because it was flu season.

maiatene · September 2015

Presents from you husband/partner after the baby is born.... aka a push present!!!! I don't know why so many people are outraged by this. I am a gift giver and see no problem with my husband giving me something shiny (or not so shiny) just because I just spent the past 9 months sharing my body with another being. Pregnancy can be challenging for any number of reasons so someone acknowledging that with a token of gratitude is not a crime or selfish. If you aren't into that cool but don't shame others who enjoy this newish tradition.

rgisaly · September 2015

My UO is all these scheduled inductions at 37-38 weeks. Does nobody let the natural birth process happen anymore? It's so crazy to me!

floyd1rl · September 2015

elmann1 said:

I will NEVER understand ANY woman's perspective/opinion on "Men will be men: they don't like to discuss things, they just want sex, food and a happy wife." Implying that it's always the woman's fault when the men are mad. Are you kidding me?? I can't believe that people STILL think this way! Since when do men come on pedestals? Also, after repeating this to my husband, he was highly offended. As a grown adult man, he hates the stigma that's put on his gender by younger, immature idiots. "All" men are NOT Like that. Women need sex, food and happiness too. Never in a relationship is one person more important than another. Ever. I'm so sorry for any woman who has had people shove this BS mantra down your throat or has made you feel like YOU'RE doing something wrong. Communication is always key, and any live human being is capable of it.

I'm pretty sure I know which thread you are referring to. I was reading the replies last night and was utterly disgusted. I do not understand this 1950's mentality. I read the replies shaking my head and being thankful for having a loving, supportive partner and equal.

MommyPhoenix · September 2015

rgisaly said:

My UO is all these scheduled inductions at 37-38 weeks. Does nobody let the natural birth process happen anymore? It's so crazy to me!

This...but only in the context that there isn't a valid risk that requires the induction. I just spoke with a friend who is due two weeks after me and she said that her doctor wants to meet with her next week to discuss an induction at 39 weeks because they don't want her to "go over", simply because of her age! She's 40, FTM, fit like crazy (personal trainer) with no risks to her pregnancy...."other than her age"?? I don't understand this.

cbolton19 · September 2015

elmann1 said:
I will NEVER understand ANY woman's perspective/opinion on "Men will be men: they don't like to discuss things, they just want sex, food and a happy wife." Implying that it's always the woman's fault when the men are mad. Are you kidding me?? I can't believe that people STILL think this way! Since when do men come on pedestals? Also, after repeating this to my husband, he was highly offended. As a grown adult man, he hates the stigma that's put on his gender by younger, immature idiots. "All" men are NOT Like that. Women need sex, food and happiness too. Never in a relationship is one person more important than another. Ever. I'm so sorry for any woman who has had people shove this BS mantra down your throat or has made you feel like YOU'RE doing something wrong. Communication is always key, and any live human being is capable of it.

This. Pretty sure I know which thread that was, and I was pretty shocked by the response. I just went back and finished skimming it some. Glad she got some good responses, because whoa. Just whoa. I think a lot of men would be offended by that sweeping statement.

kmama37 · September 2015

The multiple boards on the same topic. Who gives a shit. If you don't wanna read it skip it don't go harrass the poster and tell them to find the other peoples. Maybe they don't want to!?

elmann1 · September 2015

@kmama37 We do this because we want the poster to get answers. If she posts something another person posted last week, most people will skip it and nobody will "harass her?" with the previous link and she would only have 2 responses to her question. Whereas, if you kindly let her know that it's been spoken about before and where to find it, she can check that page out and hopefully get what she's looking for.l

leighann1 · September 2015

kmama37 said:

The multiple boards on the same topic. Who gives a shit. If you don't wanna read it skip it don't go harrass the poster and tell them to find the other peoples. Maybe they don't want to!?

@elmann1 basically said what I was thinking, but just to clarify... I will post links to more active threads, simply because those are the places the poster will most likely find information or replies. Singleton threads about topics that are commonly discussed don't tend to get many replies.

I've lurked on other boards here, and some people can get downright nasty replying to repeat posts. I haven't really seen this on O15, and I hope posts with links don't come across that way. For me anyway, it is truly meant to try and help the poster find more information.

jefinley1 · September 2015

kmama37 said:

The multiple boards on the same topic. Who gives a shit. If you don't wanna read it skip it don't go harrass the poster and tell them to find the other peoples. Maybe they don't want to!?

I think the people posting links to other threads are just trying to make sure they get more answers, as generally that's the point of posting a question... At least I certainly hope it isn't just to demand individual attention! I like giving people the benefit of the doubt though. The other thing is that sometimes, someone has a post that is really important and doesn't already have 2 doppelgangers on just the front page. If three people post about contractions, and then two about the TDAP, the important thread is suddenly on page two.

If they genuinely just want their own thread and a couple of answers, obviously they can do what they want, but as it's counterproductive to the usefulness of the board, and a lot of people really care about using this as a tool to help people, they will get comments!

kim1228 · September 2015

The stick figures on the back of cars....dislike!

babymazzei · September 2015

Why are we still starting threads for each specific day of the month? "Two weeks left for Oct. 1 babies!" We all know how far away we are. Make like the Frozen movie and LET IT GO!

cmjn94 · September 2015

babymazzei said:
Why are we still starting threads for each specific day of the month? "Two weeks left for Oct. 1 babies!" We all know how far away we are. Make like the Frozen movie and LET IT GO!

Haha seriously. And it makes all the rest of us feel worse because we have more than two weeks! And I'm even due Oct 3 so I'm not even far behind!

MelMel92 · September 2015

cmjn94 said:

Why are we still starting threads for each specific day of the month? "Two weeks left for Oct. 1 babies!" We all know how far away we are. Make like the Frozen movie and LET IT GO!
Haha seriously. And it makes all the rest of us feel worse because we have more than two weeks! And I'm even due Oct 3 so I'm not even far behind!

This! Im due Oct 21 and I'm just like, well we dont make these for people in different weeks so why is it such a big deal to point out the Oct 1 weeks left? Its not like its a countdown to babies starting to pop out, because we've had so many ladies already have their babies!

cdepperschmidt · September 2015

oywiththepoodlesalready said:
Cloth diapers. In my family/friend group I'm one of the very few that is going with disposables. Everyone wants to know why I don't just use cloth because it is "so easy" to wash them yourself and saves tons of money. I'm sorry but unlike you, I work full time and I just can't do it, how I collect my child's waste is none of your business so please judge me in private and leave me alone.

I 100% agree. Sorry I hate the earth I guess... You know what else is so easy, throwing a diaper in the trash and if my choice is cloth diapers or family time I pick family time.

My UO (maybe). What moron thinks Donald Trump is a good idea? How can 25% of republicans think that will end well? Even most disturbing...how do women actually like him. he's a pig.

babymazzei · September 2015

MelMel92 said:

cmjn94 said:

babymazzei said:
Why are we still starting threads for each specific day of the month? "Two weeks left for Oct. 1 babies!" We all know how far away we are. Make like the Frozen movie and LET IT GO!
Haha seriously. And it makes all the rest of us feel worse because we have more than two weeks! And I'm even due Oct 3 so I'm not even far behind!

This! Im due Oct 21 and I'm just like, well we dont make these for people in different weeks so why is it such a big deal to point out the Oct 1 weeks left? Its not like its a countdown to babies starting to pop out, because we've had so many ladies already have their babies!

---quote fail----

I too am due on the 21!

so maybe I'm just being bitter? But I don't care, it's annoying for anyone not due on that specific day. As if your symptoms and experiences are that much different than anyone else's. All I can picture when I read those threads is this:

floyd1rl · September 2015

My UO: I LOVE chevron! The rug and curtain in my nursery is chevron, as is the duvet cover on my bed.

vamomtobe · September 2015

@floyd1rl, the funny thing is, I just realized that MY duvet cover is kind of a broken-up chevron pattern. It's everywhere, I can't escape!!! LOL. And I bet your nursery is awesome.

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