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Am I being unreasonable?

smcomersmcomer member
in July 2015 Moms
I am getting annoyed that mine and my boyfriends family expect that they can take our.son whenever they want. I am ok with them babysitting when we are working or comming over to see him when I'm not but they constantly want him during the.week even when I'm home relaxing. My boyfriends mom takes him every Fri, until sat afternoon and his family is always.asking if they can come grab him. He is 2 months old today and I'm tired of not seeing him when II am home relaxing. My boyfriend thinks I'm being unfair and we got into a huge argument but the way I see it, he's my son, and if I'm home relaxing, I want him to be here with me. Period. Am I being unreasonable?
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  • VTomanVToman member
    I don't think you're being unreasonable. But maybe you can all work something out for times when they can come visit or something.
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  • abbymessinaabbymessina member
    Definatley not being unreasonable and I don't get how they think that it's ok to constantly want to take him. He's a very young baby still and in my opinion needs his momma right now. It's still a very important bonding time for you both. I have 3 kids. (7,3 and 10 weeks) and I don't even like my older kids away from me. Stand your ground and what you believe in and how you feel . Your his mom and your feelings mean the most !
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  • eclohoecloho member
    Wow! They are pushy! & no you are absolutely NOT being unreasonable! He's only 2 months old, you should be calling the shots! Period!!
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  • AziaNickAziaNick member
    No you are not being unreasonable!!
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  • n3na94n3na94 member
    edited September 2015
    You are most definitely NOT being unreasonable. You have every right, you're his mom and he's YOUR son. You carried him inside for 9 months and he is only 2 months. You can have a day when They can come visit but he's way too young to be taken away from you so much. Honestly stand your ground and speak up, until you do they will continue to do it and won't understand that a son needs to be with his mom. As he grows of course but like I said he is only 2 months! Good luck and I really hope everything works out! And happy 2 months to your little one! :)
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  • acciocoffeeacciocoffee member
    Umm I would never let anyone take my daughter like that! My MIL is supposed to watch her when I go back to work, but we are planning to ask her not to take her anywhere during the days. I want to know where she is while I'm at work.
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  • lovehorse77lovehorse77 member
    Not unreasonable at all. Feel good standing your ground momma!
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  • jmucc421jmucc421 member
    Nope not at all unreasonable.
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  • keri0426keri0426 member
    Oh, NO! NO! I would never allow my children to go with anyone, whether it be my parents, in laws, family whoever! My 8 and 5 YO have never had a sleepover never mind my 8 week old. Take your stand now because the longer you let them take him the harder it will be to change your rules.
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  • CkorinesCkorines member
    Eff no! Not okay. My in laws no better than to even try that shit. Not up in here!
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  • eclohoecloho member
    edited September 2015
    Yes!! Advocate for yourself & your LO momma!!! Show them who's boss!!! And don't let em forget!!
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  • Vronyo16Vronyo16 member
    edited September 2015
    Why do they even think it is okay to take your LO at all and esp overnight..I would knock the shit out of my MIL or mother if they even thought about taking her without me being okay with it. Stand your ground..you are the one that gave birth and you have every right to say NO! Teach your bf who is boss too ;) lol
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  • MariahstMariahst member
    I agree with everyone that's completely unfair for them to be doing that. My baby is 10 weeks old and home is the only place she sleeps. My mother in law has been pushing me to get a breast milk supply going so she can't take her. Nope I just say I don't have enough milk
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  • wheresilenceismusicwheresilenceismusic member
    You have to set firm boundaries while LO is little.  Make a list of rules.  Write them down for you and your boyfriend to see.  Tell your families.  Stick to them.

    My rule:  I will not let anyone hold LO unless I expressly ask them to.  I have never been away from LO for more than 20 minutes and I have no plans to leave her any time soon.  
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