Scared of Change

stacyrenee820 · September 2015

I'll start off by saying that my husband and I are super excited about this pregnancy! Everything seems to be lining up for us , we wanted to be married for 2-3 years and have a house we were settled into before having and child and that is exactly where we are. I couldn't be more greatful! even though we were nervous about it a friend once told us "you'll never reallly be READY for a kid" which made since to us so we occasionally stated trying. we are so excited this is happening and feel ready in so many ways but I'm also terrified for my life to change...I feel so selfish in saying this but I keep thinking of all the things we will miss out on now that a baby is in the picture...sleep, the freedom to come and go, relaxing in the evenings, spending time with friends and family, and doing things for ourselves. I'm sure i will feel differently when the baby comes around but I can't help but be nervous! I've gone through a lot of loss in my life so I'm not exactly the fan of change yet I also want this! Ahhh anyone else feeling this way!?

cortney626 · September 2015

Life doesn't stop when you have a baby, there's just someone else to enjoy it with you! I've been married, divorced, single mom for a few years, remarried. So I've been through changes. Not all easy but I've managed. With my daughter, I never felt like I was missing out on things. We still got together with friends, just with kids in tow. Your life just shifts. A year ago at the river my husband made a comment about if we had a baby we wouldn't be at the river. I said that's not true, we'd just have more crap to pack but we will still be there!

finnybooboo · September 2015

From a second time mom, I will tell you that your life is going to drastically change. Sleep is a blessing, not a given, coming and going is centered around your LO, nap times feedings, etc, I used to veg out on the couch in the evenings and was always caught up on my tv shows. I have a full dvr of shows to catch up on right now. We were the first of our friends to have a baby, and it definitely changed things. You are moved to an entirely different life stage that one doesn't understand until you have kids.

Having said all of that, I wouldn't change things for a SECOND! Life has a whole new purpose when you cuddle that adorable little baby, that little part of you. As PP said, life doesn't stop moving, but your world definitely begins revolving around that beautiful little person.

countrygrl5533 · September 2015

I personally didn't notice that much of a change. Yes, life changes, but you adjust. Having a baby didn't really slow us down all that much. We still did everything we enjoyed before. Maybe not quite as often or we had to take our DD along but life certainly didn't stop.

saladflambe · September 2015

I'm equally terrified and thrilled. My husband was more ready for this than I was. I don't mind giving up most things; I am most worried about the sleep. I'm afraid of getting zero sleep. I can handle anything if I can just get some sleep... but without sleep, I just can't. It currently takes me 4+ hours to fall asleep. With a newborn, I just foresee getting no sleep whatsoever because I'll never have 4 hours to toss and turn to even fall asleep at all... I'm just ... terrified. But, this is coming from a place of extra anxiety because I've just gone through a horrible withdrawal off of anxiety medication, and that included going 3 days at a time, multiple times, with absolutely no sleep. It was so torturous...as in actual torture. It's terrified me regarding sleep deprivation.

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