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MIL Monday

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Want to rant or rave about your MIL??

DH and I have been sick and my mil has had her feelings hurt that we don't let her help out more, so we asked her over Saturday to keep the baby while we got some rest. She chose not to come and went out with friends instead. Well, she came today instead (I feel better, she and I don't quite mesh, and DH isn't here to buffer). She has been great folding clothes that I hadn't gotten to. And I appreciate that. BUT if she tells me one more time that I am spoiling my 5 week old son for holding him and picking him up when he cries, then my head may explode. She follows that up by informing me that she leaves him laying on his own as much as possible.
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  • mdfarmchickmdfarmchick member
    Other than the double guilt trip over Thanksgiving, I haven't minded my MIL's visit. I just wish my FIL wasn't visiting with her. Plus, with the guilt trip over Thanksgiving, I don't feel like it's my place to say what I am really thinking... :|
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  • usernameneededallaretakenusernameneededallaretaken member
    Thankfully she was only alone with him for a total of 2.5 hrs today while I showered/napped. Other than that, she has never and will not be left alone with him. We requested she not smoke in the car with him and her reaction was to shut herself in the vehicle for a cigarette. Needless to say, he hasn't and won't ride with her either.
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  • taylorharber1108taylorharber1108 member
    My MIL and I have had so many disagreements and arguments that I can't even look at her anymore. Today DH and I had breakfast with her and my FIL and she seemed to feel the need to tell me that she disagreed with my parenting and how DS acts the same way DH did. Sometimes I just want to slap her and tell her I don't give a shit what you think! Can you tell I am irritated with her?


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  • Shine2015Shine2015 member
    I'm not sure MIL even knows she has a granddaughter. She never answers her phone and her voice mail is full. Maybe her phone doesn't even work anymore. But she lives with my SIL so you would think she could at least barrow her phone to give us a quick congrats call. We have invited her out to DD baptism but apparently she isn't coming. She lives about an hour an a half away but never makes any attempts to visit. Whatever. If after 5 weeks you make no attempt to acknowledge your granddaughter then don't think I am going to make an effort to bring her out to you for a visit.
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  • MouseMama817MouseMama817 member
    @shine2015 my MIL is starting to be like this too! Her first granddaughter lives about two hours away so when we got pregnant all she could talk about was how excited she was to have a grandchild right here (20 min away). Yet she's literally only seen her three times in the month she's been born. She texts or calls daily asking for pictures and talks about how much she misses her, yet whenever we invite her to come over she won't. She quotes a headache or being tired from work. We called her last weekend to ask her to babysit for a couple of hours instead of asking my parents (who live right next door) in an attempt to be fair and give her time with her granddaughter. She said no because she didn't have any gas in her car and then said I shouldn't be going out anyway because of my C-section incision, which is totally healed by the way.

    I can tell it really frustrates my husband and I feel so bad for him. But secretly, I'm relieved that I haven't had to deal with my in-laws very much.
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  • deleted22152218deleted22152218 member
    I'm in the "my mil rocks" camp. She and I were pregnant at the same time and our little ones are five days apart :)
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  • tsiviawtsiviaw member
    Mine is driving me crazy. So sweet, yet so annoying. She doesn't listen and I'm running low on patience.
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  • limoncatlimoncat member
    Mine is oddly paranoid. She told me the vibration feature on our rock n play was dangerous. Also told me I feed my 3 week old too much. Um no
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  • BlindSheepBlindSheep member
    Mine lives an hour away and told her friends she wanted to help in any way we needed. Then she didn't come out once during the month I was bed-ridden when we asked for help and she won't babysit the 2 kids for a few hours in November with my FIL so that DH can take me on a date. Said she wasn't comfortable watching 2 kids, but she had 3, and she could bring my FIL. My SIL is due in February, and I'm sure she'll get all the help she needs. So frustrating. And I think it's actually all because my FIL tells her not to come, but not really sure.
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  • laineyjewellaineyjewel member
    lisajean07 said:

    I'm in the "my mil rocks" camp. She and I were pregnant at the same time and our little ones are five days apart :)

    that's so neat!
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  • hcook321hcook321 member
    tsiviaw said:

    Mine is driving me crazy. So sweet, yet so annoying. She doesn't listen and I'm running low on patience.

    ^^ this. So much this.
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  • Ambermom043Ambermom043 member
    pabeybaby said:

    My MIL isn't an issue (other than never ending drama that's at her house but that's another story). Her son however (my dearest darlingest husband) has pissed me off. I don't want to be that wife that says he can't socialize but I'm home alone with our daughter four days out of the week while he's at class. He's never been alone with her. I'm stuck here without a vehicle and I'm getting really tired of it. I feel trapped.

    Same exact situation over here! Hubby works 5 days/week, and goes to class 4 of those nights until 11 pm..... I too have no car and am completely alone all day. Weird... I'm not mad at him tho, he does his best, I can't complain.;)
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  • LittleFox2015LittleFox2015 member
    I have seen MIL every other weekend since l.o. was born. I cannot stand the woman. Even my husband gets annoyed with her but pulls the "its my mom" card. His family was here to meet the baby and no one got to hold him more than 5 minutes because she kept taking him away. She follows me into our room when i go to breast feed to "help" .uh how? Here hold my boob while he suckles, better yet manuever baby to get the best latch. This sunday fils mom is coming to meet him for the first time and low and behold MIL is coming down since its now a family weekend. I am so done with her i may punch her. Just cannot deal with her anymore. She is already asking for baby to stay overnight at her house two hours away.
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  • bhargrave88bhargrave88 member
    This makes me thankful my mother in law is amazing. We disagree on some things (like how many children DH and I should have! Lol!)but we respect that, and we talk all the time. Considering my own mother sent me 800 miles away when I was 17, I value my relationship with my MIL. Her and I are like one and the same, which leaves DH shaking his head most of the time ;) I'm so grateful for how much she loves me.
    She apparently brags about me on Facebook all the time! What what!
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  • Ambermom043Ambermom043 member
    Mine lives 755 miles away.. She had 13 children, and never pushes anything on me, so I couldn't ask for more!
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  • irohspupilirohspupil member
    Mine has been great lately. She offered to have LO spend the night at her house to give me a break when I really needed it (they live just ten minutes away). It was hard parting with LO, but I was such a better mom after getting a good night's rest.
    Now my MIL and mom take turns watching LO one night a week. My husband and I try to make the most out of those hours. Sleeping and bonding with just us time.


     
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  • yennie0810yennie0810 member
    My mother in law failed to tell me or my husband that she has the sickle cell trait. I found out when I got my baby's results back from his first blood test. I had to call her and ask if my husband had it because she never told him. I just love her (sarcasm). She then stated that if she were me she still wouldn't tell him... Why not you nut case???? She just kept saying "it's really nothing"
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  • ChristyM87ChristyM87 member
    My MIL I can't stand, for lots of reasons. The biggest one is the day i came home from the hospital she and my SIL held LO more than I had held LO his whole life (NICU baby ). I was too tired,emotional, and in too much pain to do anything then but it hurts now
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  • cseley321cseley321 member
    I have no complaints about my MIL. She is great. If anything I wish she worked less so I could get a break one day
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  • talisha1992talisha1992 member
    My mil is a pain in the ass. She's pushy bossy and I'm "always doing it wrong" regarding LO. So a big fuck you to her as he's fattening up nicely. Always clean and very happy. I'm currently in hospital 5wpp with a womb infection and of she invited herself for a visit I may just smack her lol she has 11 kids and tbh only my boyfriend is normal the rest are just like her. She's off the Christmas card list haha
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  • steph4gachsteph4gach member
    Our little guy was born at 33w5d so he's now 8 weeks old. My MIL, who lives less than 5 minutes away and doesn't have an overwhelming work schedule, has made the attempt to see him THREE times since he was born. Once in the NICU, once at 2 weeks when he came home and then once about two weeks later. She's made no effort to even call or text me or my husband since we saw her on August 23rd to even ask about him/see how he's doing. We kind of expected this to happen because she's the same way with with 6 of her 8 grandchildren but it doesn't make it any easier for my poor husband to accept.
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  • MouseMama817MouseMama817 member
    MIL finally asked if she could come over last night w/ FIL and FIL's mom. Hubby said he'd talk to me first and my response was that if they could respect baby girls 9pm bedtime, then of course come on over! The entire 10+ years we've been together has been a constant struggle with my in laws to be on time for things and the one time they came over to see LO, they kept her up til 12:15am ~X( He tried to argue that since they don't see her much, she could just sleep out in the living room while everyone held her. Um, nope. Not happening.

    I knew DH wasn't going to relay that message so I took it upon myself to text her "we'd love for you to come over! Lexie's bedtime is at 9:00 so we'll see you before then?" She called DH and cancelled, saying she'd try again the next day when she had more "notice." Annoyed that 4 hours prior to bedtime when they only live 20 min away wasn't enough time for her but really proud of myself for taking things into my own hands. Win!!!
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  • gulimzgulimz member
    I hate mine. I always have. She fake "likes" me. It's so fake it's disgusting. They live next door and like her and my stupid FIL come here every single night and disturb my sleeping baby. And my DH is too much of a pu$$y to say or do anything. There's so many reasons why I would love for her and fil to drop dead, but too long to type. I've unfortunately been subjected to see their ugly faces more often now because of DD .
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  • heath3erheath3er member
    I used to enjoy mine until the delivery day! Sheared me so mad the week before.

    She has not called mee or my husband since baby Levi's birth. Selfish. So I am writing her a thank you for all she did when she was here(nothing but she feels like a hero)

    I just feel bad for my husband and that she hasn't called.

    My husband has dealt with my mom his mil since babies birth. She's been a lifesaver.. She leaves this weekend
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