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I want some answers

Leslie1129Leslie1129 member
in Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss
I just experienced my second miscarriage I lost my first baby at 7 weeks this was 8 months ago 3 days ago I just lost my second at 7 weeks I just turned 21 I am healthy did everything right and don't know what I am doing wrong when and how do I start to TTC again I just want to do this right I want a healthy baby I'd do anything to have a healthy baby.
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  • Romano123Romano123 member
    I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I don't have any answers for you; but try to take it easy and take care of yourself.
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  • jackieoicklejackieoickle member
    edited September 2015
    I too thought I was doing everything right. Taking my vitimains, tryig to eat right, not over doing it but sadly my baby died at 5 weeks, I had no clue until I went for my first ultrasound. I thought I was 10 weeks but my pregnancy didnt progress past 5 weeks. I'm lucky to have a beautiful 18 month old boy which makes it that much more harder. I thought because I had a really great, easy pregnancy that I wouldn't have any issues the second time around. Good luck to you, it's great to hear other people's experiences. Maybe you should talk to you health care provider to get some medical advice for where to go from here. So sorry for your loss.
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  • catherinemccarrellcatherinemccarrell member
    I know it hurts so bad right now but I promise time will help. I lost mine at 8 weeks three weeks ago and I'm still very sad but I am starting to find joy in the things I love again.

    It is not very common but it is definitely possible for someone as young and healthy as you to have two "fluke" losses. There is also a possibility that you have an underlying condition that is making you unable to sustain your pregnancies. The good news is that you know that you can get pregnant! That is a hurdle that you have sailed over that many women cannot get past. I hope you can find some comfort in that, at least.

    You should talk to your doctor about types of tests you can do to look for underlying causes, but be aware that they may not recommend or even offer them before your third or even fourth loss. If this is the case, you may still be able to demand them but your insurance may not cover the costs (especially in the US).

    If you are the information-seeking type, I highly recommend this book: https://www.amazon.com/Coming-Term-Uncovering-Truth-Miscarriage/dp/0813540534 It helped me gain a new perspective on the miracle that is conception and pregnancy, and, though it doesn't make the loss less painful, it helped me cope and have the strength to start to move on.

    I hope that you and your partner can lean on each other through this hard time and come out stronger on the other side. You will have a healthy baby, you just have to wait a bit longer.
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