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Trying to keep the bun in the oven as long as possible!

queen+of+heartsqueen+of+hearts member
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i know, a lot of people have asked why in the world would I want to keep my little one in as long as possible...

Because the father is only able to return home a few days before I'm due (November 4th) he initially planned to be back weeks in advance, but major things came up, and we agreed he would be in the room with me. This is my first child, and I'm young. I have nobody else I would feel comfortable with me in the room.

I am also not at all ready, we are in the middle of getting renovations done at home and things just haven't played out as smoothly as we had hoped, a simple task from the outside turned into complete chaos under the drywall.

My pregnancy hasn't been the most fun either, I have PUPPPs, which makes it impossible to sleep or even function, I can't even think or hold a conversation because my skin is constantly on fire... Everything I've tried to help ease the discomfort works for an hour at most, then it flares up worse than before.

So any advice would be nice, on either how to keep this baby from coming early, or the likelihood of the little one coming before week 40... to how to manage my skin that's constantly on fire. Or any other positive words :)

(Please don't post anything if you are going to be a rude and inconsiderate.... It's a waste of time for both of us. Thank you)
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Re: Trying to keep the bun in the oven as long as possible!

  • stephaniearthursstephaniearthurs member
    As a FTM myself, I can't speak with any certainty, but from everything I've read, a completely complication free, first time pregnancy will tend to go a weekish past the estimated due date! Hope that helps ease your mind! But just make sure, that for any medical reason the baby might have to come early, you are ready for that! But as long as the two of you are healthy you SHOULD be fine.

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  • kynbar5kynbar5 member
    As pp stated there's not really anything you can do to hurry or slow the baby down. When baby is ready, that's it. I hope you get/find some relief for the PUPPS. Also, I do hope things work out to where your SO can be there for the birth. :)
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  • Snoflakes4evaSnoflakes4eva member

    Keep your legs crossed?

    Like others have said, this is really out of your control. And you also have no right to tell people how to post.

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  • adcorbinadcorbin member
    Everyone I know with PUPPS has been induced around 37 weeks. Good luck.
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  • christina4436christina4436 member
    I don't think there is really anything you can do but bc they put people on bed rest for preterm labor I would think relaxing and laying around as much as possible could help. While it may not hold baby in longer could help you not go early. So house renovations etc are probably not things you should be doing even though you may want to get stuff done Incase any strenuous activity could propel you to go earlier. I'm hoping to make it at least to 38 weeks since baby is small, although it's not pleasant!
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  • wedding crazedwedding crazed member
    My BFF had PUPPS and it was so bad for her. Sorry about that, hope you find some relief. Just remember this is only temporary. As for keeping the baby in I don't think there is anything you can do. Maybe avoiding exercise those last few weeks. My water broke when I was 39 weeks with my 1st.
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  • yaellibellyyaellibelly member
    lots of rest 
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  • groovylocksgroovylocks member
    So I'm a ftm. And actually come from a family where firsts have a habit of coming early. My aunt's children were ALL dangerously early and weighed very little. I was 3 weeks early and huge. We are in a similar situation as we are about to close on our first house and then I have to renovate our baby's nursery, yadda yadda.. We will literally slide into home to get in and set up before she arrives.

    I expressed worry about this to my mom. She said "Here's the deal, dear. If you're late, you need to get induced to reduce risk of complications. But if you're early, you're early." and I told her that it would be hugely inconvenient if she came early and was there NOTHING that i could do to prevent it? And she said, and I'll never forget this, "Welcome to being a parent. If you think they're going to adjust to your schedule, good luck to you."

    And oddly that made me feel better. Because she went ON to say that no matter what, you make it work. And that nothing, from here on and forever, is going to be guaranteed to go according to any kind of plan.

    It is what it is. But good luck! I hope it all works out for you. It might, you know. 
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  • groovylocksgroovylocks member
    Also, btw. I'm sorry to hear about the PUPS. I don't know much about it but I have heard that it can be quite uncomfortable to live with. I hope your pregnancy goes as easily as possible.
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  • PrimRoseMamaPrimRoseMama member
    A) You really can't tell others what to post. It can set your post up for the exact opposite of what you are hoping to hear. Friendly & positive reminder: this is a public forum with a variety of women.

    B) There is absolutely no way any of is can tell you when you will go into labor or if you will have to be induced due to your extenuating circumstances. Your own doctor can't even make that prediction. It's just not reasonable, I'm sorry.

    C) I'm really sorry you've got a rough road with this pg & the possibility that you might have to labor alone. I will tell you from experience that even if you are alone it's not horrific or scary in the beginning. I was lucky that a friend got to make it before I was in the throes of active labor, but I wasn't afraid. The nurses were amazing & if they know you are alone they can check on you more frequently.

    Do you have any plans for a doula? You might consider it. That way you can have a support person on call. It's very valuable. I would look around ASAP. It's worth the money in my opinion.


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  • eamarateamarat member
    I had a super long informative post but then I accidentally deleted it. So:

    Things happen when you least expect, look into a doula in case he isnt there.

    Someone told me her doctor recommended using crisco and that it really helped. I cannot guarantee that it will but who knows. And I've also heard things about coconut oil or butter.

    And adding things like that in the end invite negativity in where there might not have been any. Best to leave those sorts of statements out, as you are posting on a public forum and you never know what you're going to get.

    That being said, I do hope he makes it in time and that you find relief soon.
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  • kfry22kfry22 member
    I have pupps as well and my doctor has put me on a low dose of prednisone until I deliver
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