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Am I being irrational? Talk me down...

CocoR04CocoR04 member
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I'm due on October 29 and have had an uneventful pregnancy (so far). Tonight my parents, the ONLY people in town that we trust with our 2-year-old DS, announced they are going on vacation for the first two weeks of October. They will be within 5 hours of driving distance.

I am kind of freaking out at their plans to be away when I could possibly go into labor, but feel it's not my place to ask them to stay when they are returning to town 2 weeks before my EDD. My mom is the type of person who would hold it against me if I asked her to stay home and then I went past my due date or whatever.

Am I wrong for giving these plans the side eye?? Is a 5-hour drive anything to worry about? It's not like they'll be out of the country.
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  • CocoR04CocoR04 member
    tate62610 said:

    I think you'll be alright :)  

    That's what I need to hear! :)
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  • tate62610tate62610 member
    I promise, I totally get why you're nervous about that.  To help put your mind at ease, just make sure they keep their phones on them in the event you do go into labor while they're gone so they can be reached.  Just in case, do you have ANY friends that could keep an eye on DS until they could get there?  Or someone who could come to the hospital with you and hang out with DS?
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    tate62610 said:

    I promise, I totally get why you're nervous about that.  To help put your mind at ease, just make sure they keep their phones on them in the event you do go into labor while they're gone so they can be reached.  Just in case, do you have ANY friends that could keep an eye on DS until they could get there?  Or someone who could come to the hospital with you and hang out with DS?

    We have friends who have kids, so worst case scenario, they come over for a bit. But they all work full time and I'm going through all of these scenarios of what if I need to leave in the middle of the night? On a random weekday morning? That's why my parents are #1 and pretty much the only people who would come at odd hours.

    I'm thinking the only other option is that DH care for DS until someone can stay with him, even if it means me going to the hospital alone or being there alone for a while.
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  • Krysta6Krysta6 member
    I'm kind of in the same situation (just a dog not a kid). My mom is supposed to stay with my dog when we go into labor. Well she is only going to be home at the beginning of October until like the 11th (Edd is 10/7). My dad who was the backup is out of the country now until September 25th. Am I totally nervous? Yes!!

    But we have some friends that worse case scenario would jump in and help if needed, it's just not the same as we have been going over these plans for months so I understand the worrying!
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  • CocoR04CocoR04 member
    @Krysta6 I totally get your worries over your dog! We have two dogs, so that makes things complicated, as well. The last thing we need to be worrying about are our babies and fur-babies, right??
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  • margies2010margies2010 member
    You should be fine, but if your mom would be one to rub it in your face should you go past your date, I'd be passive-aggressive as well and rub it in her face if you go into labor while they are out of town.

    Maybe this pregnancy has just turned me into a total bitch, though. :)
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  • comlandcomland member
    I completely understand on both fronts (kiddos and pets). We have 2 dogs (FTM) who should be ok here since DH can come home for a bit here and there to check on them and hospital is 5 minutes away. On the kiddos front just know that your friends are probably more than happy to help out. I know I would be there if needed by a friend and have been on call a few times!
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    margies2010 said:

    You should be fine, but if your mom would be one to rub it in your face should you go past your date, I'd be passive-aggressive as well and rub it in her face if you go into labor while they are out of town.

    Maybe this pregnancy has just turned me into a total bitch, though. :)

    Hah! I love it!
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  • christina4436christina4436 member
    You'll be fine. You can't expect your parents to plan their social life over you deciding to have a kid. You will either need to bring your kid or find someone else to watch temporarily until they get back should you go into labor. Won't be the end of the world just may require a little back up planning. Imagine if you never had family around. We dont, we have two dogs but have already asked a friend to be on call should we need!
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