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Freaking out!

abkenyonabkenyon member
in October 2015 Moms
18 days until EDD (10/1) and I'm starting to freak out. Nervous and scared (FTM) and just unsure about this whole labor and delivery and being handed a life that will depend on me and hubs for the rest of our lives. Anyone else?
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  • 1stComesLove4211stComesLove421 member
    I felt that way with our first. It takes months to get into the swing of things, but I promise you it is worth it. :)
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  • bucher1sbucher1s member
    I'm right there with you. Terrified
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  • BlueTopazBrideBlueTopazBride member
    Terrified and excited. There's no turning back now. What you are feeling is totally normal. We'll all get through this.

    Just the fact that you are worried proves that you are a good mommy because you care how you baby wil be taken care of. You are gonna be great. Take it one day at a time.
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  • CocoR04CocoR04 member
    edited September 2015
    STM here and I'm terrified, too! Not knowing how my delivery will go, when it will happen, how DS will react with mommy being away, and complications top my list of worries. I lost my sister a year ago to post-surgery complications (minimally invasive stomach surgery) the night she went home from the hospital. She left two LOs and it's been a bad year, so I have a special kind of heightened anxiety about something happening to me.
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  • meghan82meghan82 member
    yeah 10/2 due date and i am getting nervous, too. i am effaced and 1 cm dilated. so much uncertainty about when i will actually go into labor and how things will go makes me nervous. but there is nothing to do but wait!! 
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  • meghan82meghan82 member
    CocoR04 said:
    STM here and I'm terrified, too! Not knowing how my delivery will go, when it will happen, how DS will react with mommy being away, and complications top my list of worries. I lost my sister a year ago to post-surgery complications (minimally invasive stomach surgery) the night she went home from the hospital. She left two LOs and it's been a bad year, so I have a special kind of heightened anxiety about something happening to me.

    wow, what a sad story. it is certainly understandable why you feel extra anxiety! i hope your labor and delivery goes smoothly! 
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  • abkenyonabkenyon member
    I think the unknown is what is getting to me the most.  I don't know what is going to happen, when it is going to happen or how it is going to happen, how much it will hurt, etc.  I'm a planner...  Oh well, one day at a time and there is no turning back.  I am glad I am not alone and that even S,T,FTM's feel the same.
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  • CocoR04CocoR04 member
    meghan82 said:


    CocoR04 said:

    STM here and I'm terrified, too! Not knowing how my delivery will go, when it will happen, how DS will react with mommy being away, and complications top my list of worries. I lost my sister a year ago to post-surgery complications (minimally invasive stomach surgery) the night she went home from the hospital. She left two LOs and it's been a bad year, so I have a special kind of heightened anxiety about something happening to me.


    wow, what a sad story. it is certainly understandable why you feel extra anxiety! i hope your labor and delivery goes smoothly! 


    Thanks! I hope yours does, too! You're lucky to be at the beginning of the month, so your anxiety over delivery will be over soon.
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  • meghan82meghan82 member
    CocoR04 said:
    CocoR04 said:
    STM here and I'm terrified, too! Not knowing how my delivery will go, when it will happen, how DS will react with mommy being away, and complications top my list of worries. I lost my sister a year ago to post-surgery complications (minimally invasive stomach surgery) the night she went home from the hospital. She left two LOs and it's been a bad year, so I have a special kind of heightened anxiety about something happening to me.

    wow, what a sad story. it is certainly understandable why you feel extra anxiety! i hope your labor and delivery goes smoothly! 
    Thanks! I hope yours does, too! You're lucky to be at the beginning of the month, so your anxiety over delivery will be over soon.
    thanks!! i just talked with my neighbor and her son was nearly 2 weeks late so it made me realize i may not be as close as i think lol. but no matter what it's coming up fast, just have to try to be patient! 
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  • meghan82meghan82 member
    Wee3Kings said:
    Fourth time mommy here. It is so natural to worry about this new experience and it's true that no single aspect of your life will ever be quite the same again (most for the better, some not), but it's not nearly as overwhelming as you imagine it to be. The first few months are a blur and I have never found them to be that precious nor rewarding, but after that, parenting is the most amazing gift. I read something over the weekend from Humans of New York that so well encapsulated this emotion: (accompanied by a photo of a man and his two children) "I don't remember deciding that I didn't want kids. I just always knew. I expected to have a solitary and philosophical life. It had nothing to do with the noise or the responsibility or the diapers, I just didn't feel qualified. I couldn't figure out my own life. How was I supposed to be responsible for someone else's happiness and sense of self-worth? I pictured fatherhood as a quiet living room where everyone was unhappy and nobody knew why. But I was wrong. They made me so much happier, and it was so much easier than I thought. I didn't realize how much of being a father is just about doing things together and being where they are." 
    This has been my experience 100%. It is SO much easier and more beautiful than I ever imagined.
    this is great. thank you for sharing it!
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  • usmcrenegde01usmcrenegde01 member
    I am also freaking out...due date also 10/1st...but seems it may be next week now...that I just found out today! And I'm like crap I don't have a breastpump yet or this...or that....I have majority of the essentials but still feel so unprepared and worrying about my other child (she's 10)....such a big change for her and making sure she is taking care of while I'm in hospital......and labor...I had it easy last time...was only in labor 4 hrs, but this will be induced labor, no clue how long this time..ughhhh I didn't take lamaz just watched videos...maybe I should bring the ball...so excited and nervous all rolled into one..I can't wait to meet my little Claire and hold her close. I feel ur pain

    I also agree with a few others comments! Totally natural but can't help but feel that way...and is so worth it!
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  • satori15satori15 member
    @CocoR04 - so sorry about your sister.
    I'm anxious about how DS will handle the new baby too and what will happen with him while I'm in the hospital. DH is sure one of our parents will be able to just drop everything and drive (4-5 hrs) out so he can be with me for delivery! I'm just thinking that's not the smartest plan.
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