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TamarashTamarash member
in January 2016 Moms
Hi ladies, am 22 weeks I had a miscrage 1 week before i got prg with this one which am due on jan 14. Everyday am afried it will happen agian even though i was only 6 weeks with that one and now am 22. I dont know what to do anymore i just cry and am so afried everyday. Am afried to do somthing wrong eat somthing wrong. I live in fear everyday. Every week that passes by i thank god its done. Now i only have alittle bit more than 17 weeks left and i live in fear. I feel the baby inside me kicking alittle but If i can go to the doc everyday i will be happy just so i can hear the heartbeat.
Am sorry this was way too long. But if you can tell me what to do how to be i will be very greatfull.
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  • ultln9562ultln9562 member
    Hi! Everything will be ok. You stressing everyday is not good for you & the baby. Trust your doctor and trust the process. I'm sorry about your loss and I pray you have a healthy and successful pregnancy. Sn: PLEASE turn your spellcheck on :/.
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  • tfrangultfrangul member
    I also had a miscarriage 1 week before I got pregnant with this one and can understand your fears but you need to embrace the amazing little life you are growing inside you now! I even had a scare with this one for the first 12 weeks but now I'm 24 weeks and just know that everything is going to be ok! What I'm trying to say is don't keep stressing and worrying over everything, enjoy the movement and the fact that you are creating life! It's just super cool to me! Have a happy and healthy rest of pregnancy!
    Just a Side note. ...my 7yr old got to feel her brother kick today and her face and excitement were priceless!
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  • CejimlCejiml member
    I def second getting a Doppler. I've had 4 losses and it has helped keep me calm throughout my pregnancy. Sorry you are having a hard time. The nerves are normal just try to be positive!
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  • MrsB915MrsB915 member
    We have a monthly check in for women on the board who are PGAL (pregnant after a loss) try searching and reading those threads, it might be comforting to read about women who are in similar situations as you. Feel free to join in next time!

    I had a m/c at 8 weeks prior to getting pregnant with this baby so I understand the fear that this pregnancy will end the same way. By now you should have had your anatomy scan. It really helped me to see baby moving around and see the heartbeat. I'd recommend a fetal doppler also but caution that there may be a learning curve when first using it, I'm not sure because I don't have one.

    There is only about a 3% chance of losing the baby once you reach the 2nd trimester and it drops to 1% in the 3rd tri.
    https://www.pregnancyloss.info/info-howcommon.htm

    When I get nervous is just repeat these two thoughts, "Today I am pregnant. Today my baby is healthy." I hope you are able to find some peace of mind.
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  • TamarashTamarash member
    edited September 2015
    anatomy scan is that the 20 week scan? @MrsB915
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  • shaunahfshaunahf member
    Yes 20 week is anatomy scan.
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  • TamarashTamarash member
    @shaunahf yes i did that but they didnt see the face so i will be retaking it in agian in 4 days
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  • kelnate22kelnate22 member
    I totally understand how you're feeling, having had a missed miscarriage myself in October. Now that I can feel my little girl kicking, it's eased my fears more. I won't lie, when I don't feel her for a few hours those nerves come back but I remind myself that she's either resting or in a different position. Hold on to the joy of each of those kicks you feel and focus on that! Try not to stress so much (easier said than done, I know) because when you're stressed, baby is too. Keep thinking positive and enjoy that sweetheart inside you, @Tamarash!
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  • MrsB915MrsB915 member
    @Tamarash yes, the anatomy scan is at about 20 weeks. It's unfortunate that they weren't able to see everything they needed at your original anatomy scan but at least you get another good look at your healthy, thriving baby and in just a few months you will be holding that precious baby in your arms!

    Try not to stress. Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy as much as you can, even with all of the aches, pains and swelling!
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  • ChrissyD1203ChrissyD1203 member
    @Tamarash my heart goes out to you. Think positive. It does not sound like you have any reason to worry. So many people have an early miscarriage but that doesn't have any relation to having something bad happen at this stage. And each day further you get the chances of baby surviving outside you go up exponentially. I think by week 26 it's like 80-90%!!
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  • MeghaJakeMeghaJake member
    I also had a miscarriage right before this pregnancy. My last menstrual period was actually a miscarriage which is weird to me. I was briefly a member of the December group. This pregnancy is right on track though! It's natural to worry but try to focus on the good things and enjoy the pregnancy. I thought my doctor was crazy when I was pregnant with my first and she told me to enjoy it. But I realized what she meant when it was over.
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  • TamarashTamarash member
    @kelnate22 yes that is how i feel like u when i donr feel my baby kick i worry then i feel and am happy for that mint or 2
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  • TamarashTamarash member
    @ChrissyD1203 thank u so much
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  • TamarashTamarash member
    @MeghaJake i was also in the dec group for my frist. Thank you and sry 4 ur lose also
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  • nickilynn0516nickilynn0516 member
    i know this may not help much but babies viability outside the womb gets better and better the farther along you are. So try not to worry about it, but just remember that little fact.
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