Pregnancy after miscarriage

Cassandramariec · September 2015

Last winter, I had a BO and until I had the ultrasound and then blood tests to confirm diagnosis at 8w everything seemed normal (and in fact, continued to seem like a normal pregnancy another 6 weeks, aside from knowing it was not.)

We are finally pregnant again, and at first I was super excited and hopeful for a few days, but now I'm worried it might happen again. It was SO disappointing last time. I wish I could just confirm now, but it's too soon I'm sure. Besides, my husband just got a new job, and though the insurance started the first day, we are still waiting on the cards to arrive to make the appointment.

How do I stay positive in this, and hold on to the excitement? And bear this waiting?

lest12 · September 2015

I'm sorry for your loss.

It is really hard. I don't know how much we can do to manage those fears. I try to tell myself there is nothing I can do about any of it, so I might as well spend the time happy and excited instead of nervous or scared.

And, I find support where I can. My husband, friends, the board here... I do talk to my dr about my fears as well.

Good luck and wishing you the best!

joemunson · September 2015

I had a BO at six weeks (they think something initially might have formed and my body broke it down after it became not viable) but I didn't find out until 11 weeks and I didn't have my D&C until 14 weeks. On top of that from 6 to 14 weeks I had hyperemeresis gravaridum so I was throwing up any time I put something in my mouth.
Now I'm 5 weeks pregnant and although it feels totally different for me (not as tired, more pressure/discomfort in my abdomen and back, very little to no sickness so far). My husband is glad, says that anything that feels different is good, but I'm worried that next week I'm going to be puking every five seconds and I won't have a baby at the end of it.

nlewis1205 · September 2015

Hi there. I am also worried as I miscarried at 6 weeks but didnt know until 10 weeks. I had my d&c the day after finding out as it had already been 4weeks without my body recognizing what was happening. Very upsetting which makes me even more nervous now that I've found out we are pregnant again. Just barely 5 weeks. I'm hoping my doctor will at minimum do weekly hgc checks to ensure my numbers are growing as they should. I dont want to wait till 10 weeks for bad news. I'd love an early ultrasound just to be sure the numbers match that of the gestational age. I hope I'm not seeming too needy just want to know whats happening in there. Any advice or comments are welcome.

jteix1 · September 2015

I'm in the same boat @nlewis1205 . I was pregnant last winter and I thought everything was fine. I had a Ultrasound to confirm the pregnancy but at my 10 week appointment I found out the baby stopped growing at 8 weeks. I want to be excited about this pregnancy but I'm just really worried. I hope everything works out for you. I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone.

zekesmommy611 · September 2015

Definitely can relate. This past March we got our BFP and were soooo excited. I schedule my first ob/gyn appointment for the following week. I was out of control with poas and continued to get BFPs. I went to the doctor appointment confident I was pregnant. The doctor came in and started asking me all these questions like "when did you stop birth control" "have you had regular periods since the birth of your son" .. I was confused to why she was asking me this. She then said that they dipped two pregnancy tests and one was barely positive and the other was negative. I was SHOCKED! She then sent me for blood work and over the course of the week we found that my HCG was not doubling and the pregnancy would end in m/c.
I was grateful that we found out early, by the blood work and not later on.
While I'm optimistic about this pregnancy, the m/c is still in the back of my mind. Hoping the doctor will order blood work this time around just for my peace of mind!!!

cherri91 · September 2015

I had a m/c last August. Started spotting at 9 weeks and an ultrasound showed the baby had stopped growing at six weeks. I waited a further 2 weeks for my body to react to what was going on and miscarry. I fell pregnant again very soon after it and lost that one very painfully at five and a half weeks. We decided to leave a longer time between that and this to allow my body to recover and I found and got a bfp at 4 weeks. I am now six weeks and so so excited yet extremely nervous. Although this one feels very different to the first two which can only be a good thing. Luckily I get an early scan at 8 weeks because of my history but I still have to wait 2 weeks for that. And time is going so so slow :-(

mrslampert · September 2015

I don't know how I'm going to make it out the first tri without telling everyone!!

Last Christmas, we told our families that we were expecting. Later, I miscarried and had to have a D&C. When my first period started after the D&C, I would gush blood. Literally, over the course of a few days, my hematocrit dropped in half. (Hematocrit is the percentage of red blood cells in your blood) I ended up having to have emergency surgery and a few night stay in the hospital. What I have is apparently very rare complication to a D&C. I was very fortunate that I didn't end up having to have a hysterectomy. It wrecked havoc on your families.

I really want to be excited, but I don't think it has really sunk in yet. I don't want to get too excited. We don't want put our family through that again. Right now, only husband and I know, well and you guys, we are planning on telling our family at Thanksgiving. And that puts me at just about 14 weeks! I want them to be happy with us, but I don't want to break their hearts again.

nlewis1205 · September 2015

Just an update from my post yesterday. I spoke with the doc today while scheduling my first appointments and she said they wanted me in this afternoon for an hcg and progesterone level check. They will have results tomorrow and will discuss next steps. They said they would monitor my levels and let me know when they reach a point where an ultrasound would show what they are looking for to determine viability. As long as they continue checking my levels and no bleeding I feel good.

nlewis1205 · September 2015

I was told after my miscarriage that i needed to wait one full cycle after my first period back from the d&c to try again as the lining of the uterus is not yet thick enough and is "spotty" like planing new grass... it grows back in patches before filling in nice. I was also told you are very fertile after a miscarraige or any form of birth i dont know why. In addition for many of you out there i just read that only 5%of women miscarry consecutively. Meaning instead of the 20%chance of miscarriage we are at 5% so thats good! Here's to luck for us all in hopes our bodys can give us what we want so desperately. If we could "will" a baby into our lives I'd have 50! I can't wait!

ang_c11 · September 2015

I had a m/c last October and I'm ecstatic for this pregnancy, but nervous. When I had the m/c they thought I had loose fluid in my abdomen and called me the mystery patient because they weren't sure what was going on. When I had my d&c they discovered six big free floating cysts and removed them all. They said it may or may not have had something to do with the m/c. I haven't had my first appointment this time around yet, but I'm much more optimistic and feeling all the symptoms!

mommar13 · September 2015

I'm still mostly lurking right now, but hi :-h I've had two miscarriages in the past few months. April 10th at 6w2d and last month on August 5th at 6w1d. I was referred over to an RE, but as I was waiting I managed to get another BFP. Oops. I never had a period in between the MC and this pregnancy, so I have to wait for my appointment on the 23rd to find out exactly far along I am. If I go from the day of my MC I am almost 6 weeks. Definitely a milestone week for me. Hopefully this will be our rainbow baby and everything goes well.

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