When do you plan to tell your older children that you're expecting?

krzyriver · September 2015

So my husband has a son from a previous relationship. He's 15 years old. He's been dying for a little sibling (mostly a little brother lol) and so I'm dying to tell him. Lol. Hubby and I plan to wait until probably 12 weeks. Or maybe 8 weeks (my miscarriage ended at 7 weeks, we want to at least get past that).

When do you plan to tell your older children that they're going to be big brothers/sisters?

doozer1345 · September 2015

12-13 weeks as long as there aren't any issues per the doctor.

cortney626 · September 2015

We already told DD. She's 7. We know it's early but we told our parents. My husband was too excited. I was more reluctant. No one understands why especially my mom who had a MC at 4 months. But we're staying hopeful.

countrygrl5533 · September 2015

I have a 3yr old so she isn't finding out until we are ready for the world to know. Most people will be finding out between 8-10 weeks so about then.

helleebellee · September 2015

We're hoping to hold off until Christmas.

vintagemomof3 · September 2015

My 4 and 3 year old boys are very rough with me. Always elbowing or kneeing me in the stomach even when they are trying to come snuggle with me so we told them the day we got the positive test. I wish I could have kept it a secret but now they know to be super careful around me. That was at 5 weeks and now at 6 weeks I'm already showing like crazy so everyone who sees me knows. Plus my kids blab it to everyone too. So we just went ahead and did a FB announcement. I'm so scared that I'm going to lose the baby now that we told the world. I've never had a miscarriage but I feel like I set myself up for one somehow. I know I'm being pessimistic... But I can't stop those thoughts

JRTWM · September 2015

Well I was in so much shock, I thought maybe I was seeing things when I saw 2 lines. I asked them how many lines they saw.....they said 2....then i said now read it. They read "pregnant" and were quite surprised. We all were a little half asleep. Lol im so happy they were the 1st to know. BTW they are 8&9

mlbohannon1120 · September 2015

My kids already know. We told them before anyone, and they are absolutely thrilled! I know it's early, but I think any and every life, no matter how small, deserves love and support. I also want my kids to be included in every part of this experience. They are only 2 and 3, so they don't necessarily understand everything, but they do seem to grasp the idea of a baby in mommy's belly.

JessicaB0627 · September 2015

My daughter is almost 2.5 and I've tried to talk with her about it. She seems very uninterested. I'm afraid she's not going to take being a big sister well, so I need as much time as I can get to convince her that it will be fun.

Bluejay3030 · September 2015

My daughter won't be 2 until December, so I'll probably have to tell her multiple times before it sinks in. I also fear that even with her limited vocabulary she will find a way to tell the world. I was thinking about waiting until I was showing a bit so it's a little easier to grasp, but we'll see.

nsouplynn · September 2015

I told my daughter that there was going to be a baby growing in my belly. So she has an idea of what's going on with me and she knows because she is constantly hugging my stomach and kissing it. Once I get an ultrasound, I will tell her again.

elandric · September 2015

I will wait until we tell people. My 3 year old would tell the world if I told him now.

paige99 · September 2015

This is my third pregnancy ,so we told everyone pretty much right away. (I hate hiding such good news... plus everyone knew we were trying anyway.) But we haven't told my 3 year old yet. She would definitely understand, but I'm not sure when I will tell her, maybe once I have an ultrasound picture to show her or once I start showing, so she can actually see something to help her really understand.

feltzs14 · September 2015

My older two are 7 & 4 and both want a sibling. We decided to wait until Thanksgiving to tell everyone. We figure it's better to wait until 16 weeks, our last pregnancy ended at 7 weeks.

gracefulruby33 · September 2015

DD isn't quite 4 yet. I told her early with my last pregnancy and then I had a m/c about two weeks after that. To explain to her that a baby wasn't coming after all was extremely difficult (more for me than her, obviously), but I'd like to avoid that again. I plan to tell her at Christmas when I can (hopefully) be able to tell her whether it'll be a brother or sister.

SMR2007 · September 2015

We told our daughter right when we found out but she is almost two and does not understand. But she will kiss my belly. And then kiss your baby doll. I think once she sees a big belly she will understand more.... Maybe.

JackieH102 · September 2015

I can't tell my 3 year old daughter until we are ready to tell everyone else! She has a big mouth and will tell everyone. She's been asking for a baby brother/sister for a year so I know she will be so excited.

Last pregnancy I told waayyy to early...like 5 weeks! This time I'm waiting until the first doctor appt is over and they say everything looks fine, so about 8 or 9 weeks in. I would like to suprise my mom on her birthday (Nov 19th) but I think I might be showing by then (14 weeks) so I don't know if I can wait that long.

mrsjlopez12 · September 2015

We are waiting till Christmas to tell everyone. Our DS is 3 and he would tell! My DH also has a 8 year old and 11 year old from first marriage. They won't be too impressed just another sibling for them lol. DS has been begging for a DD forever! All his friends at daycare have younger siblings. Suprisingly he wants a sissy and not a bubba.

Par13 · September 2015

elandric said:

I will wait until we tell people. My 3 year old would tell the world if I told him now.

This! We'll have to wait until we're ready to announce to everyone.

ecable5513 · September 2015

We are planning to tell my daughter on her 9th birthday. She has been asking for a sibling since she was 4! So I will be 12.5 weeks on her birthday. We won't be able to tell anyone else until we tell my daughter because lord knows she will want to tell everyone!

LovingLife! · September 2015

Already told them

DH and I talk about it too much to keep it a secret from the girls. They are so excited!

mojomama6 · September 2015

I'm ready to tell the kids now, but dh isn't quite ready, so we haven't. Except for the toddler. He keeps saying things at random times, but I've been able to pass it off as, "Oh, like on Daniel Tiger?" He adores that show, and even before the pregnancy, he wanted to watch the episode where baby Margaret is born every single day.

jnandbabyfour · September 2015

I told the kids that we may have a new baby next spring.... we'll know for sure when we see a picture of baby next month.

krzyriver · September 2015

Well it turns out we couldn't wait that long. My poor stepson had an awful weekend and we wanted to give him something to be happy about. And when I ran from the dinner table to throw up, I said "Screw it. He's going to figure it out anyway." So we told him and he said "Yeah, I figured that out already." Lol. Oh well. He's excited and he's excited that he'll be the one to reveal it to my parents.

jenbrinson07 · September 2015

I told my kids and they are 15 and 12. We've told a lot of friends and family. I will probably announce soon. I can see being cautious, but if something happened, I'd rather have support. I wouldn't be able to hide that. I'm too excited to hide it and so is my husband and mom.

camillaandcarson · September 2015

I have a toddler and already told but now I am thinking I should wait awhile.

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