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Little bit of a rant

abmommy15abmommy15 member
edited September 2015 in August 2015 Moms
we are visiting my dad and step mom this week and all I hear from her is about how things were done when she was raising kids along with snarky comments. A few of the many examples:

DS starts to fuss so I pick him up. Step-mom - don't you ever just let him cry? Me - no, they are too little to cry it out at this age. If I can make it better I'm going to. Step-mom - well I must have been a terrible mother then because my kids cried. Ugh I never said you were a bad mother.

DS starts giving me hunger cues so I feed him. Step-mom - didn't he just eat?
Me - about an hour ago
Step-mom - you are going to over feed him that's why he spits up
Me- he is going through a growth spurt and when you are EBF you should feed on demand to ensure supply.
Step-mom - well I had my kids on a schedule from the day I brought them home and they never had any problems.

Conversation about teething
Step-mom - when my kids were teething I just gave them a dill pickle; but I suppose that's wrong now too.

And my personal favourite -
Talking about how long our road trip home will take tomorrow
Me - it should take us about 8 hours in total since we have to stop to feed and change Declan.
Step-mom - why don't you just feed him while you are driving.
Me - because I have to take him out of his car seat to feed him
Step-mom - when my kids were growing up we didn't have car seats. Nothing happened to them.
Are you kidding me??

It's driving me nuts. I haven't once made a comment about her doing things wrong and only commented on how I do things when she asks or criticizes me.

Sorry for the rant, needed to get that out so I don't lose it on her!

Edited to add -

Step-mom is a drinker. She's had probably 5 or more drinks in the last few hours. I put DS in his mamaroo and then went to the bathroom. Came back and baby was gone. Found him downstairs with step-mom....she picked him up after that many drinks and carried him down the stairs. Get me the hell outta here.
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  • CaliforniaDream87CaliforniaDream87 member
    edited September 2015
    Oh dear God....hoping you get out of there quickly!
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  • BosloveBoslove member
    I hate when ppl feel the need to always compare or give advice that was not asked for. GL



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  • abmommy15abmommy15 member
    Miz_Liz said:

    She encouraged you to nurse while the car is moving?! You should just reply with, "Yes, and in your day dropping acid was pretty popular too, and clearly you enjoyed partaking a lot!" And walk away.

    Ha ha ha if only I thought of that comeback. I just ignored her because I couldn't recover from the shock fast enough to come up with something good.
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  • prpl11butterflyprpl11butterfly member
    My family is always making comments about how baby's were handled "in their day" but they are never suggesting I do it that way. They are just bringing it up to show how much times have changed. And my mom is baffled by all the BF things becuase she didt do it for my brother and I so her comments are just needing clarification. You step mom seems to be suggesting you do things that way. On your trip home, don't bother with the car seat. Just lay LO on the seat and buckle him in cause that what my grandparents used to do and my mom and her siblings survived.
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  • tsiviawtsiviaw member
    Saratiff said:

    It sounds like you live a good distance away thank god.

    You have better restraint then me. I would have unleashed the snark hard core. But then again I have filter issues.

    I have filter issues as well to say the least... I've had to develop the "please stop talking to me stare". I use it on a regular basis and finish with a big smile. I'm just trying to survive family without anyone's feelings getting hurt.
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  • SashaDenn25SashaDenn25 member
    tsiviaw said:

    Saratiff said:

    It sounds like you live a good distance away thank god.

    You have better restraint then me. I would have unleashed the snark hard core. But then again I have filter issues.

    I have filter issues as well to say the least... I've had to develop the "please stop talking to me stare". I use it on a regular basis and finish with a big smile. I'm just trying to survive family without anyone's feelings getting hurt.
    Is it bad that I dont care if I hurt anyones feelings, family or not?? My kid, my rules, and I will do shit the way I want. I reach out on here for advice more than my family bc my mom and aunt are just out of touch honestly.
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  • jennl28jennl28 member
    My mother is currently visiting and I'm going through the same thing. Everything I'm doing is wrong. I feel your pain
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  • deviduke412deviduke412 member
    I cannot imagine! Lord help me when that happens to me for the first time! I have not such a good filter as well.
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