Should we have a weekly Grad Check In?

PrimRoseMama · September 2015

We want to respect all regulars (Grads & those still actively TTC). So a good old poll can help!

lalalorelai · September 2015

Adding the SS caveat that I won't care for seeing bump pics, but I'm just not a fan of bump pics in general.

And I think tagging it as "TTGP Grad Check-In" should be enough of a warning that people will be talking about pregnancy/children. I would think most of the women who will come back to check in know the type of comments that are insensitive or triggering.

Lulucooks · September 2015

Special Snowflake. I don't care if it's done but I won't follow it or participate if/when I get KU.

skilouise · September 2015

Special snowflake: maybe once a month instead of weekly? That way there's a way to check in, but it isn't constantly in front of those who aren't interested.

PrimRoseMama · September 2015

Would twice a month be a good compromise?

blackgirlmagic · September 2015

I think that once a month is more than enough. What do we need to see twice a month?

FloridaStanley · September 2015

I think once a month is sufficient.

thycapa · September 2015

I may be the minority here, but I loved the grad check in because while I understand how it can be difficult for some to see the bump pictures, it was so wonderful to see how the grads are doing, progressing and feeling.

thycapa · September 2015

I may be the minority here, but I loved the grad check in because while I understand how it can be difficult for some to see the bump pictures, it was so wonderful to see how the grads are doing, progressing and feeling.

FloridaStanley · September 2015

thycapa said:
I may be the minority here, but I loved the grad check in because while I understand how it can be difficult for some to see the bump pictures, it was so wonderful to see how the grads are doing, progressing and feeling.

I like the grad check in! I just think weekly is a bit much

MandyBeeSLP · September 2015

I think every other week is a good compromise, it's not going to always be there, but that way if someone misses it won't be 2 months before they post again.

MamaBish · September 2015

Lulucooks said:

Special Snowflake. I don't care if it's done but I won't follow it or participate if/when I get KU.

This

oandmplus1 · September 2015

I agree, every other week is a good compromise

jhems776 · September 2015

I would bet it would replied on throughout a week, so once a month is good and if they want to post on that thread again later in the month why not.

PrimRoseMama · September 2015

raesmith9 said:
I think that once a month is more than enough. What do we need to see twice a month?

I'm just getting feed back. I've seen it done (in the past) weekly-- so honestly just getting a feel for the way we should do it.

Spylon · September 2015

I'm with @FloridaStanley. I feel like once a month is enough. The we really get to see progress with every check in.

I understand some not wanting to see bump pictures; I feel like on my bad days, I won't want to either. So I just won't click on the thread. But most days I'm pretty excited to see other people's success stories.

blackgirlmagic · September 2015

jhems776 said:

I would bet it would replied on throughout a week, so once a month is good and if they want to post on that thread again later in the month why not.

^^^^
I agree with this!

FloridaStanley · September 2015

MrsCase14 said:
I'm with @FloridaStanley. I feel like once a month is enough. The we really get to see progress with every check in.
I understand some not wanting to see bump pictures; I feel like on my bad days, I won't want to either. So I just won't click on the thread. But most days I'm pretty excited to see other people's success stories.

I mean, when I was pregnant with DS, I had an eventful/high risk pregnancy, with premature birth. And I would still have had weeks where I would be like "um, still pregnant, bought a onesie this week, nothing new to explain"

noelietrex · September 2015

I posted this on the original thread before realizing this thread was here. Also fair warning, I'm a total newb.

What about inspirational and hopeful stories without inviting pictures? I'd love to hear about the light at the end of the tunnel, and I'm happy to congratulate those who are finally getting their time (although I may feel differently as time goes on). But I feel like pictures invite more envy than inspiration... I get it, that glorious belly is something to be proud of and celebrate. Just this board seems more like it a place for support and hope and snark and propping each other up when times are tough. The last thing I want is one more venue in which to fein happiness and dole out congratulations without even a little sunshine or 'you're next' or something to take the edge off it...

Lulucooks · September 2015

noelietrex said:
I posted this on the original thread before realizing this thread was here. Also fair warning, I'm a total newb.

What about inspirational and hopeful stories without inviting pictures? I'd love to hear about the light at the end of the tunnel, and I'm happy to congratulate those who are finally getting their time (although I may feel differently as time goes on). But I feel like pictures invite more envy than inspiration... I get it, that glorious belly is something to be proud of and celebrate. Just this board seems more like it a place for support and hope and snark and propping each other up when times are tough. The last thing I want is one more venue in which to fein happiness and dole out congratulations without even a little sunshine or 'you're next' or something to take the edge off it...

No flames intended, just offering a different view point. I think positivity or sunshine is fine, but I would really hate for someone pregnant to say to me "you're next". They don't know that and it may honestly never happen and I prefer this place over others on the net because we specifically don't do that. There's a hundred forums I can visit to hear pregnant strangers tell me that they are sure I'll be KU any minutes now.

benicode · September 2015

Lulucooks said:

I posted this on the original thread before realizing this thread was here. Also fair warning, I'm a total newb.

What about inspirational and hopeful stories without inviting pictures? I'd love to hear about the light at the end of the tunnel, and I'm happy to congratulate those who are finally getting their time (although I may feel differently as time goes on). But I feel like pictures invite more envy than inspiration... I get it, that glorious belly is something to be proud of and celebrate. Just this board seems more like it a place for support and hope and snark and propping each other up when times are tough. The last thing I want is one more venue in which to fein happiness and dole out congratulations without even a little sunshine or 'you're next' or something to take the edge off it...
No flames intended, just offering a different view point. I think positivity or sunshine is fine, but I would really hate for someone pregnant to say to me "you're next". They don't know that and it may honestly never happen and I prefer this place over others on the net because we specifically don't do that. There's a hundred forums I can visit to hear pregnant strangers tell me that they are sure I'll be KU any minutes now.

Agree

AL_TwinCities · September 2015

Should we tag a few grads to see if they'd come back for this? @saladflambe @mommygrams0730 @tennisbabymama @yogahh others??

ArtlessIbex · September 2015

I think doing this monthly with a warning would be nice. I personally love to hear about other people's successes, but I know it is painful for some. I don't mind stories or pictures.

yogahh · September 2015

Hey girl hey! I have missed you all. Its very GIF free on the BMB. Ive been dying to use a tried and true Beyoncé "hello" GIF

Happy Beyonce animated GIF

I would be all for this, but would ideally want to wait until after my 1st dr apt just to make sure everything is ok.

housewifehobbyist · September 2015

I miss @saladflambe and @yogahh and I know there's a few more of you I will miss when you get KTFU. Every other week sounds good!

MNturnsVA · September 2015

@yogahh - I missed that you got a BFP!! Must have been while I was on vacay! Congrats!! FX for you for happy & healthy 9 months! ******on the poll question! I think once a month is sufficient.

DeePaddy24 · September 2015

I'm indifferent on the issue. For some of the regs I saw often & now miss seeing posts from, it would be so great to see how they're doing. But I also understand how for some this could be a touchy subject. I think the key is realizing that no decision will ever make everyone 100% happy.

Having it once a month seems like the best option, in my opinion. For those interested in checking in on past regulars, it will provide that outlet, & for others feeling like in the moment it might be too difficult, they can choose not to participate. I think it seems fair.

saladflambe · September 2015

I still poke around TTGP.

I'd participate if I saw the thread.

letyourheartbeyourguide · September 2015

I'm not interested in reading it (I get enough surprise baby bump / birth announcements on Facebook every time I log in) and I don't imagine myself participating if I'm KU. But I have absolutely no problem with it existing as long as it's clearly labeled (TTGP Grad Check In).

blackgirlmagic · September 2015

I'm not looking forward to the random people posting in the thread. I understand that this is a public website but I feel like the "random" people truly won't understand the meaning behind it. I understand the regular people posting on it because we have developed a relationship with them and want to hear how things are going for. But the others not so much.

benicode · September 2015

AL_TwinCities said:
Should we tag a few grads to see if they'd come back for this? @saladflambe @mommygrams0730 @tennisbabymama @yogahh others??

@lalala2004

PrimRoseMama · September 2015

raesmith9 said:
I'm not looking forward to the random people posting in the thread. I understand that this is a public website but I feel like the "random" people truly won't understand the meaning behind it. I understand the regular people posting on it because we have developed a relationship with them and want to hear how things are going for. But the others not so much.

In my experience with the grad check in-- there aren't too many random pregnants that participate. Hopefully that trend will continue, but randoms always seem to surprise me!

So do we want to start in October or do a September TTGP Check-In?

jhems776 · September 2015

Why not now? Sept works. To weed out the randoms maybe list the regulars in the OP.

MandyBeeSLP · September 2015

PrimRoseMama said:

I'm not looking forward to the random people posting in the thread. I understand that this is a public website but I feel like the "random" people truly won't understand the meaning behind it. I understand the regular people posting on it because we have developed a relationship with them and want to hear how things are going for. But the others not so much.
In my experience with the grad check in-- there aren't too many random pregnants that participate. Hopefully that trend will continue, but randoms always seem to surprise me! So do we want to start in October or do a September TTGP Check-In?

------------QBF----------------
It's only the 11th, I'd say do it now.

mrstmoose · September 2015

I'm just going to point out one more thing. If there is someone who we don't recognize, can we not flame them right away? Some of us have been here longer than others and would recognize names, while some of the newer people wouldn't. So if you don't recognize a name, maybe ask about it but save the flame for if it really wasn't a reg. I would just hate for previous regs to get flamed just because of "turn-over?" Thoughts?

blackgirlmagic · September 2015

mrstmoose said:
I'm just going to point out one more thing. If there is someone who we don't recognize, can we not flame them right away? Some of us have been here longer than others and would recognize names, while some of the newer people wouldn't. So if you don't recognize a name, maybe ask about it but save the flame for if it really wasn't a reg. I would just hate for previous regs to get flamed just because of "turn-over?" Thoughts?

I think that is a very fair thought. We can be quick to flame sometime. But why not start not. I agree with just getting the regulars in here first.

benicode · September 2015

raesmith9 said:

I'm just going to point out one more thing. If there is someone who we don't recognize, can we not flame them right away? Some of us have been here longer than others and would recognize names, while some of the newer people wouldn't. So if you don't recognize a name, maybe ask about it but save the flame for if it really wasn't a reg. I would just hate for previous regs to get flamed just because of "turn-over?" Thoughts?
I think that is a very fair thought. We can be quick to flame sometime. But why not start not. I agree with just getting the regulars in here first.

Agreed. It also seems less likely that a non-regular that is already pregnant would come back to visit the TTGP forum, let alone feel like they should participate.

blackgirlmagic · September 2015

benicode said:

raesmith9 said:

mrstmoose said:
I'm just going to point out one more thing. If there is someone who we don't recognize, can we not flame them right away? Some of us have been here longer than others and would recognize names, while some of the newer people wouldn't. So if you don't recognize a name, maybe ask about it but save the flame for if it really wasn't a reg. I would just hate for previous regs to get flamed just because of "turn-over?" Thoughts?
I think that is a very fair thought. We can be quick to flame sometime. But why not start not. I agree with just getting the regulars in here first.

Agreed. It also seems less likely that a non-regular that is already pregnant would come back to visit the TTGP forum, let alone feel like they should participate.

If it is posted on all of the pregnancy boards that we are doing this I can see random people posting on it and I do not think that that will go over well with some people just because we are not invested to them like we are our regulars!

skilouise · September 2015

raesmith9 said:

benicode said:

raesmith9 said:

mrstmoose said:
I'm just going to point out one more thing. If there is someone who we don't recognize, can we not flame them right away? Some of us have been here longer than others and would recognize names, while some of the newer people wouldn't. So if you don't recognize a name, maybe ask about it but save the flame for if it really wasn't a reg. I would just hate for previous regs to get flamed just because of "turn-over?" Thoughts?
I think that is a very fair thought. We can be quick to flame sometime. But why not start not. I agree with just getting the regulars in here first.

Agreed. It also seems less likely that a non-regular that is already pregnant would come back to visit the TTGP forum, let alone feel like they should participate.

If it is posted on all of the pregnancy boards that we are doing this I can see random people posting on it and I do not think that that will go over well with some people just because we are not invested to them like we are our regulars!

***anticipated qbf

A PP (can't remember if it was in this thread or the grad check in thread) suggested a few standard questions, similar to the WTO/TWW threads. Maybe one of the standard questions for the grad check in thread could be "when were you a TTGP regular?" That could help dissuade the non-regulars, and provide context to the regulars and other grads.

R0824H · September 2015

AshVA said:

raesmith9 said:

I'm just going to point out one more thing. If there is someone who we don't recognize, can we not flame them right away? Some of us have been here longer than others and would recognize names, while some of the newer people wouldn't. So if you don't recognize a name, maybe ask about it but save the flame for if it really wasn't a reg. I would just hate for previous regs to get flamed just because of "turn-over?" Thoughts?
I think that is a very fair thought. We can be quick to flame sometime. But why not start not. I agree with just getting the regulars in here first.

Agreed. It also seems less likely that a non-regular that is already pregnant would come back to visit the TTGP forum, let alone feel like they should participate.
If it is posted on all of the pregnancy boards that we are doing this I can see random people posting on it and I do not think that that will go over well with some people just because we are not invested to them like we are our regulars!
***anticipated qbf A PP (can't remember if it was in this thread or the grad check in thread) suggested a few standard questions, similar to the WTO/TWW threads. Maybe one of the standard questions for the grad check in thread could be "when were you a TTGP regular?" That could help dissuade the non-regulars, and provide context to the regulars and other grads.

^^^I agree

hunnybunny17 · September 2015

Has everyone voted? It is currently 97 to 11 in favor of a check in.

I don't lurk the BMB or Tri boards, so I don't follow up on what happens with all of our BFPers. The grad check-in sounds like a great opportunity to be able to stay in touch with those we care about without having to look at 90% of KU people we have no idea who they are. I understand why some people don't like it. Unfortunately, not everyone is going to be happy no matter the outcome.

From what I gather, these are the questions we would want asked:

When were you on TTGP?

WAYDTGKU/timing/months & cycles TTC?

Any infertility dx, medications, procedures, etc.?

How far along are you?

Greatest delights so far?

Greatest challenges so far?

General update?

Want a personalized experience?

Should we have a weekly Grad Check In?

LFAF Summer 2016 Awards: