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2 cycles to go... I feel like I keep saying that( I need motivation)

Katm89Katm89 member
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            Hey guys,
So DH and I have wanted a child for 3 years. I have cried and wanted a baby almost every time I get my period. Some months are better than others. Last year in November my midwife suggested I keep track of my periods with an App. I never did this because I'm on the pill, but she thought it would be good to make a habit of it. Well I entered it into an app and popped up that my predicted o day was our wedding anniversary. I bawled right there like I had lost an actual baby. Crazy, I know. Well DH promised to ttc the following May... then may came around and he changed his mind... and then June I went off BC and then he said he was OK with September... and then July passed and he said November. I agreed because it would be our anniversary and it'll be 5 years so it'll be a nice way to mark it. well, after temping/ charting/cm/opks we deduced that in November I will O around the 10th. That would make me due August 2. This date doesn't work for 2 reasons. It is only one week after DH's Ironman and we deff don't want me to go into labor during his race. August 1st our lease is up... so we would be moving( buying a house, hopefully). The moving thing we could figure out though. But DH's race is 4 hours from the Hospital/doula. Ugh, So 2 more cycles instead of 1. It feels like I'm running in place. I am trying to focus on the fact that I would be able to test for pregnancy on Xmas eve.... but who gets pregnant their first month anyways... I doubt I'll be that lucky.
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Re: 2 cycles to go... I feel like I keep saying that( I need motivation)

  • als1982als1982 member
    It's not a judgement, but moving and a race don't seem like great reasons to delay. There are always going to be things in life that happen, expected and unexpected, that don't make pregnancy or having a child ideal. Is waiting his idea or yours? Is this race a 'last hurrah' for him, understanding the reality that his life and priorities are about to be refocused on your growing family? Or is this something he regularly does/plans to do again in the near future? In the unlikely event that you are pregnant, is it 100% necessary for you to be there? I think this is a serious case of cart before the horse.
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  • Katm89Katm89 member
    This is his last Hurrah Race... its about 17 hours long. The move isn't a deal breaker our office does month to month...but I would hate for DH to be excited but worried about his race... he spend 800 on registration and he knows once the baby arrives he can't train for a race that long... He tried to find a race in June but there wasn't one. I bet he would ignore the risk and do it for me.. but bec its one month. It would feel stupid to not have him 100% on board... he would only be like 95%... and we have waited so long already to ruin the experience
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  • HookEmNelsonHookEmNelson member
    @Katm89 hang in there friend. If this is the decision y'all make as a couple, and you feel like you both need to wait it out 2 more cycles then let it be. 2 cycles will pass by fast and it will finally be time. I know Iron Man well. My brother trained extremely hard for both times he has participated.
    Come on December!
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  • als1982als1982 member
    Katm89 said:

    This is his last Hurrah Race... its about 17 hours long. The move isn't a deal breaker our office does month to month...but I would hate for DH to be excited but worried about his race... he spend 800 on registration and he knows once the baby arrives he can't train for a race that long... He tried to find a race in June but there wasn't one. I bet he would ignore the risk and do it for me.. but bec its one month. It would feel stupid to not have him 100% on board... he would only be like 95%... and we have waited so long already to ruin the experience

    Makes sense! Good luck!!
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  • Lysta85Lysta85 member
    My brother in-law has kids in september, october and november and my mother in-law can't talk about anything else except them. So first I didn't wanted to be due in those months, for that weird reason. But now I don't care anymore, can't wait untill december and start trying. So there are worse reasons to delaying.
    Lilypie Trying to Conceive 21 to 37 day cycle tickers
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  • Xstatic3333Xstatic3333 member
    Hang in there...or if H is supportive, just go ahead and start. Like PPs said, the odds of getting pregnant the first month are slim. I know ironmans are extremely intense, but you never know how things could go. It could be hard to attend the race even 7-8 months pregnant, or you could ovulate late in November and have another couple of weeks of a buffer.

    If you do wait, why not plan a big drinking/sushi fest with H or your girlfriends for that last month? If you're into those things, that is. You can do this, though I'm getting super antsy too so I do feel your pain.
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  • Katm89Katm89 member
    I actually would love to be 8 months pregnant for the race LOL. If I ovulate later... like November 15 then we plan on trying then...but that would mean I ovulate on CD 23... doubt thatll happen.
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  • mommytimesfourmommytimesfour member
    Hi and welcome! I can understand where you're coming from with timing. I'd like to avoid being due in both of my kids' birth months, so I've kind of timed TTC around that among a few other things. In the grand scheme of things, a waiting a couple cycles won't make a huge difference
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  • Knottie35070745Knottie35070745 member
    I'm struggling to wait until December too!! We want to wait until my internship is over to try, but it just seems like SO far away right now
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