Need Support... FISH Results Tomorrow

BCH818 · September 2015

Last Wednesday we had our NT ultrasound and bloodwork done. After the u/s my doctor came in and frantically told us that our baby's nuchal translucency measurement was above normal and she wanted to send us to a specialist immediately. She was talked a mile a minute and told us she knew that our bloodwork would come back elevated for one of the trisomies (how she knew this I do not know). We saw a perinatal specialist on Friday and he did an u/s, said the NT measurement was 3mm, and gave us a 20% chance something would come back alarming if we had a CVS. We had the CVS yesterday and last night got a call from my regular OB about the results of the NT bloodwork. Trisomy 18 and 13 were low risk but Trisomy 21 (down syndrome) went from a 1 in 600 and something chance to 1 in 40. I am almost 30 years old and she said my chances were that of a 43 year old. She was again frantic and all over the place while telling us the information and said if she were a "betting girl" she would say that the baby had down syndrome. Tomorrow we will receive the FISH results from the CVS - but we know that the full test results will give us all we need to know.

What I need here is support. I am devastated - partly due to the fact that the doctor has been doom and gloom while our perinatal specialist and the genetic consultant has been nothing but uplifting - so I am not panicking and nervous of the results.

Has anyone ever had the 1/40 for downs and had a baby that is healthy?

SarahFoley725 · September 2015

Hi! I have no experience with this but I want you to know that I will be thinking of you and your family! I am so so sorry that your doctor is making things so much more stressful for you. I am glad that your specialists being more calm and collective for you.

I wish I could do more than just praying for y'all. If I could hug you thought the computer I would. Good luck and please let us know what happens. No matter what, your baby will be beautiful and perfect and you will be a wonderful mom.

jenn43 · September 2015

Sorry you're going through a tough time. Sending out prayers for you, and please let us know how things turn out.

ACleanLife24 · September 2015

Seems like a lack of professional courtesy... T&Ps for you and just know that here is nothing you did/could have done/can change except educate yourself and tackle whatever challenges present themselves head on. Please let us know how you get on.

FutureMrsCaesar · September 2015

I'm so sorry you are going through this, I'm sure it's incredibly stressful. I hope and pray that your baby is completely healthy.

One thing stands out to me, 1/40 is a 2.5% chance that your baby will have Downs. Maybe your Dr doesn't understand betting and odds, but the odds are still greatly in your favor that your baby will NOT have Downs. So why she would say that if she was a 'betting girl' etc etc, is beyond me. I would honestly go with what the genetic consultant and perinatal specialist are saying and feeling at this point.

Please keep us updated!

skruhmin · September 2015

Seriously if I were a "betting person", I'd bank on the actual professionals who deal with abnormalities and CHANCES of it on a daily basis. Your doctor shouldn't have jumped all over you. Praying everything is ok for your little baby.

bntfroggie · September 2015

Thoughts and prayers are with you, and I think I would switch OBs the relationship is tarnished.

elle313 · September 2015

I'm sorry you're going through that and that your doctor is making the situation worse. 1/40 means theres a very good chance your baby won't have downs syndrome. Easier said than done, but try not to stress yourself more than necessary before you hear the real results. I'll keep you in my thoughts!

CCLow87 · September 2015

I'm so sorry that happened to you. Even devastating news from a medical professional should be presented in a calm manner. I agree with everyone though, look at the chances of a healthy baby but prepare for any range of news. Keep us updated.

Parker16772 · September 2015

I'm sorry you are going through this. You will be in my thoughts. Pretty crappy of your OB to act like that and not very professional in my opinion. I would trust the specialist.

KatieintheCity · September 2015

I'm really sorry you're going through this. I hope you get a good outcome. Your doc sounds like a dud. I'm sorry she's been so insensitive. Once you get past this, if you have an option to find someone new, that's what I'd look into.

AnnikaD20 · September 2015

My odds were actually 1/17 with my first. (This was after finding 3 flags on the anatomy scan at 16 weeks. I had opted out of genetic testing prior to that.) Did the genetic test, and he had completely normal chromosomes. I was stressed out until the results came back, so I get where you're coming from. But you have a 97.5% chance that your LO doesn't have down syndrome.

Your doctor sounds like a turd. Freaking out like that is completely unprofessional.

mb0112 · September 2015

39/40 chance there is no Downs Syndrome. Your Dr does not seem to have social skills. It's natural once you know your chances are higher than normal to worry and wonder what you will do if something is wrong, so let yourself have those feelings without obsessing.

BCH818 · September 2015

Thanks everyone for the support. It helps tremendously. Today was a long day of waiting and tomorrow will be worse. Prayers and happy thoughts sent to GA please. We should know jn the afternoon.

oceanchild · September 2015

^ What they all said already ^
Big hugs and love and prayers coming your way.

Stormiewinter · September 2015

Positive thoughts your way! Sorry that your doctor made things so much worse.

katy0990 · September 2015

Praying for you and your baby. Good luck!

Swillah · September 2015

Positive thoughts and internet hugs. I agree with @bntfroggie..I would ditch that OB in a hurry.

lightrox · September 2015

T&Ps your way but I agree with people look for another OB ASAP she sounds incompetent especially knowing how hormonal pregnant women are. I'm sorry your are going through this stress please keep us posted.

GOOCMEL · September 2015

I agree about the unprofessionalism. A 2.5% chance is so low and she freaked you out! Keep us posted

ecwk · September 2015

Your doctor sounds so unprofessional and that's surely adding to your stress. You poor thing, I'm so sorry you're going through this. Nothing is for definite though so try to stay calm, easier said than done I know. You're in my thoughts and prayers x

Starbuck77 · September 2015

Ditto everything everyone else said. Your Dr. is lacking in the bedside manner department. Lots of T&P's coming your way for you, your H and your little one.

mommytobe2122 · September 2015

@BCH818 yes yes yes I am not sure about the exact numbers but same happened to my friend. One of my best friend's result is above normal and she has a healthy baby now who is 6 months old and totally totally normal

so please don't worry I was so stressful before my double test and talked to her she told me that sometimes results can show some abnormality but the babies keep growing healthy. Please don't forget that these test only have %60 guarantee. And my doc is a famous pro about these double tests told me that these are only procedure if you have normal result it does not mean your baby will be normal for sure or of the result says there are some abnormality it doesn't mean that your baby will have down syndrome %100 . So hope these help please try to relax. Fingers crossed for you.

oceanchild · September 2015

Thinking about you today

ezgiplace · September 2015

My doctor told me that in these tests, they have to consider 1% as a high risk - which is totally a low risk in my opinion- due to the nature of the tests. He also mentioned that these tests are never 100% reliable. I guess your doctor just tried to warn you but was lacking social skills. Be positive, I believe that you'll hear some good news very soon!

ARogers26 · September 2015

Thinking of you!!

Torpedogirl · September 2015

Thinking of you today and hope all is well

elle313 · September 2015

Thinking of you!

CCLow87 · September 2015

I hope today was more peaceful than the last and you got whatever news delivered in a professional manner! Thinking about you!

matteosmom2012 · September 2015

prayers for you. I hope all goes well today

charliebear8 · September 2015

Any news? Your in our thoughts and prayers.

soxfan9968 · September 2015

Thoughts and prayers your way. Hoping for the best. But please keep us updated.

jessicabradley01 · September 2015

Thinking of you!

arcanejinx · September 2015

Hope you are holding on well. My father's surgeon called him and told him over the phone (while he was alone) that he had cancer. Some doctors do need lessons on bedside manners. I'm sorry your doctor isn't taking your feelings into consideration.

kitteh81 · September 2015

Thinking of you

lindscnn1 · September 2015

Thinking of you also. I truly hope the results were good.

rebeccamp1 · September 2015

My girlfriend had her 20 weeks scan. They noticed two abnormally large blood vessels in the brain. Her amniotic fluid was also at the level for Down Syndrome. The doctors were convinced her son Gabriel had Downs. He's absolutely a typical kiddo!