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gender reveal....

djdawn29adjdawn29a member
in January 2016 Moms
We had our gender reveal party Saturday. We r so excited to finally know a bit more about baby...happy to report, IT'S A BOY!!!! anyone else going the reveal route?? It was so much fun!!
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  • neababyneababy member
    We had a reveal party. No one knew but a trusted family member and the look in our face (on camera) make me wish we would have found out before the party! We are happy but we were a bit surprised we are having another girl lol. We thought for sure it was a boy
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  • saraellenMsaraellenM member
    We had one and I wouldn't do it again. My husband and I thought for sure it was a girl and our 5 year old DD was really wanting a girl. We were shocked when we cut the cake and pulled out a blue piece. I just wanted everyone to leave after that so I could process my feelings. It was proof once again that I don't like surprises. Also, after it was all over I felt jipped that I didn't get to see with my own eyes that it was a boy on the ultrasound. Fortunately I should be able to get a peek at my 26 week ultrasound at our sweet little boy.
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  • Wicked4589Wicked4589 member
    We did not do one. Not my thing. My husband and I looked at the ultra sound pic over dinner together. Just him and I. We will tell people at the shower the sex but not in any real formal way.
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  • ChrissyD1203ChrissyD1203 member
    We found out with cupcakes with our immediate family. Super low key but more fun than I ever could have imagined!
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  • littlecrimsonjesterlittlecrimsonjester member
    We found out at the ultrasound and shared the news with our family through a video. We are huge video game nerds so we had a Zelda themed video opened a chest and pulled out a sign as balloons floated up with the classic zelda noise in the background. Glad we found out on our own and could celebrate privately but everyone loved the video and felt included.
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  • SummerFall03SummerFall03 member
    We were going to do the reveal... we already have 2 boys, and didn't care what we were having. BUT a lot of people in our family had other opinions. A friend of mine also had 2 boys, and she had a reveal party a few days before we found out what we were having, and she was certain she was having a girl. Well, it was another boy! It was recorded by friends and the reactions were awful! One of her kids started crying because they wanted a sister, the father walked away saying he didn't want another "f*cking boy". That solidified that I would NOT do a reveal. Even if my husband and I didn't care what we were having, other people take it way too seriously.
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  • CaraBoonieCaraBoonie member
    We found out via blood test at around 12 weeks...the nurse called to tell me that all the genetic stuff looked good, and asked if I wanted to know...I was home alone, so I found out, then called my husband, mom, and best friend to let them know immediately. A week later, we announced that we were pregnant on Facebook, including the sex and her name. We don't like surprises, having to wait until 12 weeks was long enough for us, and having to wait 15 minutes for my husband to be able to call me back because he was busy at work was agonizing as well, so a reveal would be very not me :)

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  • ChrissyD1203ChrissyD1203 member
    @babybluu I love that!!!!
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  • mamakculbmamakculb member
    We found out at our sonogram but had a reveal cake at our weekly bible study dinner to surprise our church family. We already have a son and everyone was convinced we were having another boy. Well we are having a girl and everyone was shocked and said they couldn't believe it because we had great "poker faces" haha. We were just wanting another baby so bad we didn't care boy or girl so we were happy either way.

    My SIL has a boy and had a huge reveal party for baby #2. Her and my BIL found out before the party and I knew it was a boy because she was so unhappy and had desperately wanted a girl. At the party they didn't even want to cut the cake they just said whoever wants to can do it.

    I agree with pp it can be awkward and unpleasant if the parents really want one more than the other!



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  • SummerFall03SummerFall03 member
    claireloSC said:
    SummerFall03 said:
    We were going to do the reveal... we already have 2 boys, and didn't care what we were having. BUT a lot of people in our family had other opinions. A friend of mine also had 2 boys, and she had a reveal party a few days before we found out what we were having, and she was certain she was having a girl. Well, it was another boy! It was recorded by friends and the reactions were awful! One of her kids started crying because they wanted a sister, the father walked away saying he didn't want another "f*cking boy". That solidified that I would NOT do a reveal. Even if my husband and I didn't care what we were having, other people take it way too seriously.
    That's kinda funny.
    It is! But it scared the shit out of me so I chose not to have one lol!
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  • samara267samara267 member
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    We did not have a reveal party. I told people on facebook that we were having a girl. I personally think "gender" reveals are kind of silly. Gender is a self identifier and social construct anyway. It's fluid. Sex Reveal Party would be more accurate but doesn't sound as baby friendly and floofy though, I guess. 
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  • MssyMmmyMssyMmmy member
    We found out at 22 weeks! I waited until my anatomy scan. They wouldn't tell us anything but sent the info to my midwife. I asked the midwife to write the sex in a sealed envelope. I went to a baby store and chose a sweet pink outfit and bow and these cute blue sweatpants and a hat. I left for work while they wrapped the correct outfit for me. Later I picked it up and my husband and I unwrapped it together alone. I was nervous so I had my eyes closed. I opened them after my husbands reaction. A boy!!! We really suspected girl. It's fun to be surprised but I really enjoyed finding out alone with my husband.
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  • SummerFall03SummerFall03 member
    ChrissyD1203 said:
    @samara267 - I respect your point of view and if my daughter later chooses to identify as male, I will fully support her. That said, because an infant can't self-identify, for some period of time don't we have to identify for them? If your baby has a penis will you put it in a dress when it is born? Are you going to refrain from using any gender pronouns until after he or she self-identifies? (I mean "you" in the abstract and not individually). I am not transgender nor have I had the opportunity to have any transgender friends so I apologize if what I saying is ignorant and/or offensive, but I'm just curious about how this line of thinking plays out when we are talking about an infant.
    This is a great point.
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  • samara267samara267 member
    Of course I'll use m/f pronouns because that's the social norm and that's the way the English language works. Yes, I'll identify my child's sex by their name and the pronouns that I use. But since GENDER is a social construct, I choose to leave it out of the equation if possible. I'm also choosing primarily gender neutral clothing/bedding/toy colors. I prefer blues to pinks and will dress my child accordingly, regardless of the fact that I'm having a girl. 

    I have no issue if someone wants to have a party to surprise their friends/family with the sex of their baby, but call it what it is. Gender is not the correct word, sex is. 
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  • makeshifwingsmakeshifwings member
    We had our party last weekend! During the anatomy scan, I did not look away at all, but asked the tech not to tell me. He told my mom and my mother in law after we walked out, and they filled the box with the balloons. I already was about 90% sure it was a girl from the ultrasound, so it wasn't a huge surprise for me or my hubby at the party, but it was super fun sharing it with our families. We 100% had no preference what we had, so boy or girl our reactions would have been the same. I can't imagine having a negative reaction caught on tape and seen by our families. We are so excited to be having a healthy little girl!
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  • MTaylor1204MTaylor1204 member
    We are having ours this Saturday! We are cutting is close as our scan is on Thursday but we have warned family members if our Little One is a bit stubborn and we can't find out we will have to cancel (as people will be driving a distance to get to us). We are going to have the technician seal it in an envelope and give it to two of our close friends to put together a big box of balloons!! Congrats to all on their gender reveals!
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  • MommyduclosMommyduclos member
    I did similar to above. My hubby and I found out and did a balloon box for the kids and took a photo to share with others. Ours was kinda a flop- my daughter walked away and my son couldn't quite get the box open and all the balloons got stuck (too many I guess lol) anyways I got a cute "after" shot for sharing
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