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Am I being paranoid?

skhanson47skhanson47 member
in April 2016 Moms
I am 7 weeks along (tentatively due 4/27/16) and I'm over the moon. My husband and I had a miscarriage back in May when I was at 5 weeks. Needless to say I'm super anal about everything this time..including sex. We haven't had sex since I found out I was pregnant because I'm terrified the sex (or me having an orgasm) will hurt the baby. Am I just being paranoid?
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  • yodiggityyodiggity member
    Yes.
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  • mojomama6mojomama6 member
    edited September 2015
    Yes. Unless you have a specific problem that necessitates pelvic rest, there is absolutely no need to abstain.
    That said, if you're genuinely that concerned, you're not going to enjoy the sex anyway, so maybe sit it out for a while. BUT. This is definitely something to have some open, candid conversations with your husband about. Nothing will strain a marriage like a "precious vessel" pregnancy if both partners aren't on the same page.
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  • skhanson47skhanson47 member
    We have talked about it and he understands my hesitation and has been very patient with me. But I also don't want to start letting him down and making him not a priorirty.
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  • JizzillJizzill member
    Baby is very protected.  Sex won't hurt a thing.  
    We had a loss in April and were cautious as well, but once you do it, you realize it's no big deal.  
    Besides, healthy parents are good for baby - mental/sexual health is real!
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  • imrachelleaimrachellea member
    Yep. But normal. Ever seen Knocked Up where he's afraid he's going to "poke the baby"? Not gonna happen. And like PP said, as long as you haven't been put on any restrictions sex is just fine. If you haven't yet seen your doctor to know one way or the other if you are higher risk, I wouldn't blame you if you want to abstain until you get the go ahead, given your history. That being said, I found out a month and a half ago and we have had sex a grand total of once. I am just completely utterly useless with nausea and exhaustion, so if you're in the mood now TAKE ADVANTAGE.
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  • skhanson47skhanson47 member
    I don't see my doctor until the 21st so I may  hold out until then, but like imrachella said, the nausea/morning sickness and fatigue have taken over so I'm not in the mood quite yet anything.
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  • cmerriburycmerribury member
    I'm sure speaking to your doctor will help ease your concerns. I'm glad you are talking to him about it and that he's being so understanding.
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  • pinottoparenthoodpinottoparenthood member
    I don't blame you for being afraid, but sex is perfectly fine unless you have some sort of risk factor that you have discussed with your OB (for example, unexplained spotting or a partially open uterus)
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  • AmadorRoseAmadorRose member
    Unless you're on pelvic rest, sex is actually good for baby, especially later on in pregnancy. I had a m/c in June and I'm still having a hard time getting DH in the mood. I hope talking to your doctor and leaving the first trimester behind help put you at ease!
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